I'm trying to keep my spirits up. After all, learning something is always difficult.
How do you deal with losing a lot?
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Nov 23, 2021
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#44
This was me last year. I started out from scratch (didn’t even know how the pieces moved) and it really bugged me to keep losing so much.
In hindsight, it wasn’t even because of a sense of competition- I was just worried that losing all the time was a sign that chess “wasn’t for me” and I wanted it to be. I still consider myself a beginner- I’ve been playing on and off, but not much at all- but my attitude has improved. I realized that chess is a 2-player game, so losing is always going to be a 50/50 chance. And there must be a loser for the game to end. My simple advice is to first and foremost, play for the FUN, and every time you lose you get the chance to see WHY you lost. Become a student of chess as well as a player.
Game analysis is something I myself need to do more of, come to think of it.
In hindsight, it wasn’t even because of a sense of competition- I was just worried that losing all the time was a sign that chess “wasn’t for me” and I wanted it to be. I still consider myself a beginner- I’ve been playing on and off, but not much at all- but my attitude has improved. I realized that chess is a 2-player game, so losing is always going to be a 50/50 chance. And there must be a loser for the game to end. My simple advice is to first and foremost, play for the FUN, and every time you lose you get the chance to see WHY you lost. Become a student of chess as well as a player.
Game analysis is something I myself need to do more of, come to think of it.
I'll be honest, I'm new to chess and I'm also very scared of losing, especially in a row, I've only played 10 or 15 games so I only lost 1 or 2, but I felt really bad with myself. So I kinda relate to this. Hope we'll find the cure to that bro.
ToujiSoya wrote:
I'll be honest, I'm new to chess and I'm also very scared of losing, especially in a row, I've only played 10 or 15 games so I only lost 1 or 2, but I felt really bad with myself. So I kinda relate to this. Hope we'll find the cure to that bro.
well welcome to the chess community, we hope you feel better too ❤️
Thanks, I appreciate it 🤝
Nov 23, 2021
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#48
Honestly take a break. Do puzzles, play the bots, etc. etc. I find losing very discouraging, probably more so than I should (it's the stupid mistakes that get me). I have been through spells where I tend to play more in an effort to win back my points and it's inevitably a disaster.
Nov 24, 2021
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#49
If you lose a lot, search all around your town and see if you can find it.
I think that everything what you need is next game, learn on your mistakes, to be better every day
Nov 25, 2021
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#52
I cry into my pillow for 3 days, and start ice-cream and chocolate diet - just like every normal modern man really.
I simply wouldn't care. I am hot garbage at any player-versus-player type game so I just kind of... expect it.
yeah
Nov 25, 2021
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#56
Someone play me I need to get better fast! But I need us to talk about the games after we play them
OmegaJoker wrote:
Someone play me I need to get better fast! But I need us to talk about the games after we play them
maybe but idk man
i usually slam my desk and say i hate my life note that i also want to be a GM
OmegaJoker wrote:
Someone play me I need to get better fast! But I need us to talk about the games after we play them
i could play you
Well, I tell myself that in life we lose and we win games, that's just how it works, and next time I just do my best to win. But if I lose a lot of times I kind of rage and I'm a bit frustrated but after a few minutes, or hours I just cool if off and I just accept it and move on with life.
But don't just keep playing and hope that you win, that's not really how chess works... Losing is a part of the journey to get better, in order to get better we have to learn from the mistakes we do and make sure we don't repeat them, but part of the journey is also winning, cause in the end if we keep losing, I don't think we're ever going to get better and advance in the journey.
Anyways, that's my opinion and point of view on it. I don't know how to end this properly so, Have a good day!