I'm new and loosing so badly it hurts

Hi !!

Just looking for help from better / good players on how to improve my game skills. Should i just keep playing against people and learn by loosing ? I won 1 game and lost 20+ I don't feel like it's effective. I am having lots of fun tho haha. What's your tips for a new player ? Should I read / play computer / play 10 minutes or shorter or longer ? Just don't wanna be shit forever (btw someone asked me if i was feeling alright aka thinking i was having a stroke or sg that just says a lot about how bad i am)

THANK YOU for helping !!!

You'll improve. Sounds like you have the right attitude. There are a few things that can help. Play long time controls. This will give you more time to think. Say G30, 45|45 and even Daily. Both study and play games. For study, its important that beginners start by learning tactics and regularly do puzzles. This develops your ability to think ahead (calculation) and visualise moves before they appear on the board. Chess Tactics for Studenta by Bain is a good book that teaches tactics and puzzles. Also you can do the lessons and puzzles on here. Give it time. It was three months of study before I started to see improvements in my game. Good luck.

Here are some general tips on how to improve:

https://www.chess.com/blog/nklristic/the-beginners-tale-first-steps-to-chess-improvement

I hope you'll find it useful.

Hi!
Had a look at some of your games. Blitz will be too fast for you for a while, I recommend either rapid games (10+0 might still be too fast, 15+10 could be better) or even daily ones. You will need some time first to spot what is going on, i.e. what is the opponent trying to do. If you want to improve, do some of the easy puzzles, especially ones with hanging pieces. Learning to spot when you are hanging your piece or when you can capture a hanging piece will be the most important factor in improvement. Beginner games are mostly about capturing hanging material when it is available.
In the openings you need to learn to build a solid position for yourself - pushing central pawns, developing minor pieces to active squares, castling early - and to defend against some common opening traps (4-move checkmate, 1. e4 e5 2. Qh5 etc.).
Playing lower rated bots is quite different from playing lower rated humans. Bots rated around 500 play worse opening moves, don't leave as many pieces hanging, rarely attack but defend a lot better than humans of the same rating.
There are some video lessons here in the Learn -> Lessons section, they are quite good and explain necessary concepts for improvement.

I am no expert, but play longer games.  Go on youtube and search "Chess Fundamentals"  John Bartholomew is a pretty good teacher, but there are many useful videos out there.  Once you learn the basic fundamentals, then make sure you apply them to your game.  From there, you can go on to bigger and better things.

Do puzzles. Figure out why what you did was wrong and why what the puzzle did was right.

Play some lessons and keep playing. Your rating will eventually even out so your winning some games. I personally spend more time studying than playing

You are welcome. Have fun improving your chess.

Playing longer than 10 minute games on line leads to runn8ng into people who simply stop moving.

That is a small price to pay for many benefits longer games provide. Most of the people can't improve too much playing speed chess. 

There will be people who leave you waiting in a losing position, sure, but this will not happen too often.

Thank you so much you guys are FIRE!!! This is sooo helpfull, will definitely look into all your tips, and also learn some patience... 

maybe you should change a time format? For me, online chess is boring, hustling trash talking while playing is best

If you don't mind losing, you will always lose, so it's good that it hurts!

Play the puzzles every day and take time over them.  Play slower.  Do the lessons; they're very good.

Keeping an optimistic mindset is vitally important because rating fluctuates A LOT for everyone; the key is to not let yourself be impacted by rating variance much and to focus on learning chess, experience and having fun. 

There is great advice here so far: tactics, learn basic endgames and checkmates, play longer time controls so you aren't feeling rushed etc. 

As for "openings", this resource is a great concept because you DO NOT need to memorize specific openings for it to work; even grandmasters use this concept and so should you 

https://www.chess.com/blog/KeSetoKaiba/opening-principles-again 

Good advice above. Slow games. Read/study basic strategy book. Tactics/puzzles. No blitz for a long while. Do those things and ur gonna improve fast. 

On my profile there r basic tips for beginners.

I agree. (I mostly play 15|10)

I have had many, many games (>400) that are longer than 10min. No more than 1 has involved my opponent not moving until time runs out (with >10 min on the clock).