My YoYo rating kill my Chess Passion

Hi!

I have played some Chess matches here in Chess.com.
I’ve never learn Chess from any club or from a teacher in org form.

I really loved The game right from The start, Even i’m not any Good at all.

My rating was at my highest just recently when i make it just passed 1300 something.
Since then i just keep on losing for less rated players and loose what i’ve increased.
I feel that i’m starting to love The game less than ever due to this Yo-Yo rating of mine...and thats to sad!!
How can i stop loosing?

And why do i keep meeting better players than me with 800+ in rating when i dont want to play against others Which has more than -50 in rating due to me?
I also has this in my profile but i still seem to meet 900+ players that obviously is much higher than this in real?

I hate it and it takes away all my love for The game unfortantly 😕

Thanks in advance for tips and hints👍

Danke , vielen Dank !!!

Thats what i’m trying but everytime i have increased a little bit and think to myself that i actually has become a tiny bit better, somebody with 200-300 less than me bits me and i’m left behind again...without any self-esteem😊😱

I don't worry too much about rating, it is going to bounce or yo-yo, as you say. Got to go with the flow, or sail where your longboat takes you, Viking. If your self-esteem is based in any way on chess rating, you got to get out more, conduct more raids of Anglo-Saxon villages.

Then you replied

"Thats what i’m trying but everytime i have increased a little bit and think to myself that i actually has become a tiny bit better, somebody with 200-300 less"

Which is you fixating on the ratings again. Play chess, look back at your games to find where you went wrong, make sure you know some openings so that you can start games with an idea. DO NOT BOTHER WHAT THE RATINGS NUMBER IS. I only get to look at this site in breaks so do not play games here I am lucky enough to have face to face games I have no idea what ratings the others have. You really only learn from looking at the games you loose. So as you get better you have to find better players to loose against.  If you think chess is about who has the bigger ratings rather than the enjoyment of the game then you are missing out on the reason for playing.

If i'm not mistaken i should won 3 games and lose 1 with somebody 200 points below. 400 is 9 to 1. 600 points 27 to 1. So everytime and then, we lose to much weaker players. It is normal, they are here to win too, and chess is a battle between 2 players. It is not shocking with 1200 to lose to a 800. With about 1800 i lose to a 1200 i think, not much days ago. But what matters is the frequency that happen. In the long run you'll see what your true rating is. And you'll win to some 1800 even 2000. And lose to 800 too. It's a game after all, it happens. If this was a real tournament with real prize money.... maybe not that many times. but here, we think, he is weaker, we relax, we are watching television, talking with someone, and blunders happen. This is not a life or death game. Lose now, win tomorrow.

Please read this article from Magnus Carlsen, probably the strongest player ever. No hate replys please, I love each and all former world champions like Capablanca, Tal, Fischer or Kasparov. https://www.thelocal.no/20140319/carlsen-admits

In fact i saw in youtube one of this games, in which magnus is suffer a humilliate defeat in a blitz online, with a 1500 (more or less).

 

Personally, I conduct a good raid once a month at least. My self-esteem is through the Moon. I forget what my chess rating is.

 

 

Increases and decreases in rating are normal for all chess players, so if you're looking for a solution to stop losing games - don't bother, this does not exist.

We are emotional creatures, so when we get good results we feel confident and relaxed and this makes us play better. When we lose, especially when we lose several games in a row or against lower rated players, we get frustrated and and this makes us play impatient and overly aggressive chess. 

We call this "tilt". My suggestion is when you lose several games in a row and you feel the negative emotions are leaking into your game - take a short break. Grab a drink and something to eat and come back when you've reset your emotional state. 

When you're at a low point in your natural rating swings, don't go into games with a mindset like "I'm better than this player, let me quickly beat him so I can work my way back up to my real level". This kind of thinking is a classical mistake that many players make. Focus on playing the best moves you can find regardless of opposition. Play the board, not the player. Don't focus on your own or your opponents rating.

 

 

Can you link us some examples of people you played who were obviously much better than their rating? 

This is another kind of thinking that is very damaging to progress. When you lose games and try to look for other explanations for why it went wrong like getting suspicious about sandbagging or cheating you are robbing yourself of energy and learning opportunities. Focusing on your opponent instead of looking at what you are doing wrong doesn't teach you anything. It's very very rare that these things happen under 1000 rating.

Pixelgoblin wrote: cato_heder wrote: I feel that i’m starting to love The game less than ever due to this Yo-Yo rating of mine...and thats to sad!!How can i stop loosing? Increases and decreases in rating are normal for all chess players, so if you're looking for a solution to stop losing games - don't bother, this does not exist.We are emotional creatures, so when we get good results we feel confident and relaxed and this makes us play better. When we lose, especially when we lose several games in a row or against lower rated players, we get frustrated and and this makes us play impatient and overly aggressive chess. We call this "tilt". My suggestion is when you lose several games in a row and you feel the negative emotions are leaking into your game - take a short break. Grab a drink and something to eat and come back when you've reset your emotional state. When you're at a low point in your natural rating swings, don't go into games with a mindset like "I'm better than this player, let me quickly beat him so I can work my way back up to my real level". This kind of thinking is a classical mistake that many players make. Focus on playing the best moves you can find regardless of opposition. Play the board, not the player. Don't focus on your own or your opponents rating. cato_heder wrote: i still seem to meet 900+ players that obviously is much higher than this in real? Can you link us some examples of people you played who were obviously much better than their rating? This is another kind of thinking that is very damaging to progress. When you lose games and try to look for other explanations for why it went wrong like getting suspicious about sandbagging or cheating you are robbing yourself of energy and learning opportunities. Focusing on your opponent instead of looking at what you are doing wrong doesn't teach you anything. It's very very rare that these things happen under 1000 rating. Just Google this: "Learn how to become expert in a day tickets".

You have 50 games going! Play a few and concentrate on them. I have recently been focusing on one or two games at a time. Allows me to focus more and remember the plans I had. Dont play games the way you play tactics games.

 

It's very rude to hijack someone's post like that to advertise your event, and it's against forum rules. 

 

Besides, why is anyone going to pay you to tell them how to become an expert in a day when you can't get past 1300 after 10 000 games?

This sort of complaint is fairly common. Are you playing mostly fast games? Slow games and some organized learning might help. Congratulations if you have managed to accomplish much without those things, but continued improvement frequently requires one to change one's ways.

"... In order to maximize the benefits of [theory and practice], these two should be approached in a balanced manner. ... Play as many slow games (60 5 or preferably slower) as possible, ... The other side of improvement is theory. ... This can be reading books, taking lessons, watching videos, doing problems on software, etc. ..." - NM Dan Heisman (2002)
https://web.archive.org/web/20140627084053/http://www.chesscafe.com/text/heisman19.pdf

Words of advice based on my own limited experience.

1 year ago, I had the same rating as you. A year later and 2-3 hours of practice a day and I'm touching 1800. You have a diamond account, so I will keep this brief. Do 3 things:

1. Go into the tactics trainer, do as many as you feel like (rated, not puzzle rush). Take your time, when you fail, redo the puzzle and search for the move, don't take the hint unless you are frustrated with searching. Do this daily. On a monthly basis, you should see some progress when you repeat this daily. You will begin to unconsciously memorize positions. This is a key factor in becoming better. I have terrible memory myself, but repetition does the job.

2. Go into the lessons tab. Start with the easy ones even if they're lame. Do them step by step, don't rush, they are laid out in an optimal way. The interactive lessons are very very helpful. Take in as many as you can a day, solve the lesson puzzles, and when you get less than 3 stars on a lesson, repeat the puzzles. Many of the advanced and mastery lessons are geared towards understanding general positional ideas, the uses and weaknesses of individual pieces and pieces in coordination, optimal coordination techniques, and a multitude of necessary themes which are important to understand.

3. Spend 70% of your time learning, and 30% of your time playing. You can go in one way or another, but I don't advise spending less than 50% of your time on studying, otherwise your progress may be slow, and you might feel discouraged. Watching masters play is the perfect way to spend time when you don't feel like playing or learning. It can provide passive knowledge to reinforce your unconscious. The games may seem hard to understand at first. Spend time observing, when the game is done go over it, analyze the position, the usefulness of each move, the position of each pieces, and what each piece threatens.

Going at it from all angles has been a successful strategy for me so far!

Good luck buddy.

Thanks for all tips