Super demotivated by losses, how to help

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SirColinTheKnight
How do you guys avoid getting demotivated by seeing the rating drop from losses? I’m trying to play more unrated games but now I feel bad that my blitz rating is so low and I’m not working to fix it! I’ve played maybe about 10 blitz games, and ended up resigning from every one since it was an inevitable loss, only winning one.

BTW i am going through lessons to “relearn” the game and hopefully pick up some new tactics since I mainly learned in elementary school
KetoOn1963

The usual. 

Youre playing speed chess,  Youre not going to improve by moving fast.  You played a daily game where you played 35 moves in 1 day, and lost. 

You can repeat lessons over and over all you want.  But as long as you're playing fast, and moving fast none of that is going to help.

baddogno

It's not easy to deal with playing badly and getting punished for it.  Lucky you though with a diamond membership; you have the tools to turn this around.  I'm not even going to try for a motivational speech about how as long as you learn from your losses, it's all good.  Hammer away at those lessons, do a few dozen tactics a day and soon you'll be motivated to take another crack at it.  And if it takes you 6 months to get yourself confident enough in your board vision to give it another go, that's OK too.  And maybe 15/10 rapid will cut down on your unforced errors by simply giving you more time to look around.  Best of luck!

SirColinTheKnight
@KetoOn1963 If you have the knowledge I believe you’re only limited by how fast your brain can process, and I know my brain can get adjusted to blitz. I don’t really see where the daily game comes in. Yes I play a lot of move in a day, because I’m playing a friend and only use daily because I need to step away sometimes. Yes it was fast, but it was basically a 30min game not a blitz/bullet one.
SirColinTheKnight
@baddogno Thanks for the solid advice! I’ll add lessons to my daily schedule and tactics, and we’ll see where I get. I will say I’ve been doing a few dozen puzzles each day for the past few days and I am seeing major improvements in my pattern recognition! I don’t know when the last time I played 15/10 but that might help too. Thank you for the advice once again.
KetoOn1963

I simply answered your question.  You're under no obligation to listen :-)

baddogno
cromium1 wrote:

Learning better chess is irrelevant under the 1200 level as you get to fight against more than 1 million players outhere chosen statically so that you'll never get out of your league.Actually i tried to teach people how to cheat this site , but my topics were deleted and my accounts blocked  as a spammer... I will try though to post the same thing with every account i make.

You're a bloody genius dude...When I think of all the time I wasted trying to get better at this game.  Well, it just makes me kind of sad...

KetoOn1963
baddogno wrote:
cromium1 wrote:

Learning better chess is irrelevant under the 1200 level as you get to fight against more than 1 million players outhere chosen statically so that you'll never get out of your league.Actually i tried to teach people how to cheat this site , but my topics were deleted and my accounts blocked  as a spammer... I will try though to post the same thing with every account i make.

You're a bloody genius dude...When I think of all the time I wasted trying to get better at this game.  Well, it just makes me kind of sad...

This is why kids live with their parents into their 30's. 

KetoOn1963
cromium1 wrote:
KetoOn1963 wrote:
baddogno wrote:
cromium1 wrote:

Learning better chess is irrelevant under the 1200 level as you get to fight against more than 1 million players outhere chosen statically so that you'll never get out of your league.Actually i tried to teach people how to cheat this site , but my topics were deleted and my accounts blocked  as a spammer... I will try though to post the same thing with every account i make.

You're a bloody genius dude...When I think of all the time I wasted trying to get better at this game.  Well, it just makes me kind of sad...

This is why kids live with their parents into their 30's. 

well ...my parents pased away almost two decades ago....but my father taught me chess when i was 8 years old...he could not win any game after i got 9...then i played until i was 13...but not as a pro...just ocassionally with friends and scholl mates...for 30 years i didn't played  more than 20 games all together.6 months ago a friend of mine invited me to play again...then played two months on facebook until i got all their grades...so i thought of trying here...But here's a Casino...luck and knowledge play a definitive role, but you need to be as fresh as you can when you start playing and stop playing when you feel tired if you want to hold on to your points...If you really want to be a chess pro...it's your choice.I would never consider that because you can't get any money from that normally, unless you're doing it all of your life.As for fun reasons...there's no fun in a Casino...it's just loosing time and money.

I read that, and realized i have no idea what i just read.

KetoOn1963
cromium1 wrote:

it's just that there;s no fun at all...i think i played more than 4000 games on facebook and here...and all i could learn is that people are used to  cheat systems that cheat people that cheat systems

So...your solution was to cheat?

Yea...that makes sense.

Dreizzle
SirColinTheKnight wrote:
How do you guys avoid getting demotivated by seeing the rating drop from losses? I’m trying to play more unrated games but now I feel bad that my blitz rating is so low and I’m not working to fix it! I’ve played maybe about 10 blitz games, and ended up resigning from every one since it was an inevitable loss, only winning one.

BTW i am going through lessons to “relearn” the game and hopefully pick up some new tactics since I mainly learned in elementary school

I'm not really answering your question, but play rapid instead. I was just like you; I thought 10 was good for me because it doesn't boring. Ironically everytime I lose, my will to play just drops lol. I tried rapid, I played like 30 seconds to 1 minute per move calculating and finding possible tactics and there I was finally winning lmao. In rapid you use instinct and your instinct uses knowledge at well. Blitz doesn't give knowledge, it just tells you to be fast. Rapid on the other hand, tells you to take your time and to play like an engine.

Bgabor91

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I can teach you how to get better in chess, as I see you at your profile, you would like to relearn chess.  Let me introduce myself.

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spcbaney832
Just read books and look on YouTube. Every loss you get should help you get better look over your games and spot the mistakes. Above all this just got to have fun
CapableTempo

Sometimes when something isn't motivating you it's probably better to play a new game or do a new activity for a little while you are ready to come back to chess.com. But if what you are struggling with is focus or just simply bored, but you do want to commit to get better then I suggest you review all of your lost games before playing a new one. Don't use an engine to review them though. That will just bore you even further. Engines do teach you, but really only high-level players and grandmasters can learn from them. This is the easiest and fastest way to learn on your own and start seeing new algorithms. Simply take a moment to fix the first mistake in your game on a diagram in the forums. Then without making any more visible moves picture in your head as many more moves to follow that your level of visibility allows you. If you don't see your opponent still taking advantage of your fixed position then you are most likely good to go. This is how grandmasters see the empty squares on a board. Don't review your whole game. Just the first mistake because the rest is all based on your skill. And the first mistake is what limits that skill.

hitthepin

I’ve found that just taking a short break can work wonders.

Srimurugan108

The best way is to have a match then wait for two days to see your performance was up to the mark and u can stick to three or four good coaches in between lectures also u can have lectures and then write down your mistakes and work on constant improvements in your skill

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ChessingAway
cromium1 wrote:

Learning better chess is irrelevant under the 1200 level as you get to fight against more than 1 million players outhere chosen statically so that you'll never get out of your league.Actually i tried to teach people how to cheat this site , but my topics were deleted and my accounts blocked  as a spammer... I will try though to post the same thing with every account i make.

 

I'm pretty sure that's not true at all, when you vs players at your rank or lower, you get little points, when you vs people stronger than you, you get more points, so you just happen to be vs'ing easier people as you rank up and complain that you start to not get much points after.

The reason why ranks move much more earlier on for new players, because the site is trying to discover your real rank by matching you against both strong and weak players until you start winning 50% of your games against a certain rank.

limber_up

Play to learn not to win

CapableTempo

I like your theory cromium1 it sounds intriguing. Another way to get extra points legally is to ask and accept a rematch from players that you think that you can beat again. And nicely decline a rematch from any player who you don't think you can.

Dreizzle
cromium1 wrote:

So...yesterday i continued playing until 5 am... really tired and my points go down to 980...1050. got some 7 hours of sleep and holding to 1040 for a few games...I can't become  much better than the 850 account i had for a full month in just three days, so my theory still holds!if i make an account now i can get quicly to 1150 and probably go down to 1050 again...If you apply  simple mathematics, changing an account at every 50 games can get you really high in a matter of few moths without paying 50 dollars /hour to guys that know nothing else, but chess Would chess.com allow people legally to prove it? Unfortunately i don't think i have enough time to lose here...I have a real life too and i'm not a rich man.

I'm gonna ask a question: did you learn from that? Sure it works for someone who only cares about their rating and not the growth of their knowledge of Chess but I'd say learning is better. OP also pointed that he wants to learn some things about Chess so your way is not the best way to solve his problem. What if he wants to join tournaments at some point of his life? What if he wins? he'd be happy; what if he loses? make another account? no. I hope it's clear. Nice trick anyways. It it makes you happy, then so be it but I suggest not to give new players that kind of advice.