How could a have won this?

Black move first

(*im a newbie), you mean after bf4, Rook f1-f4, rook d7 -d1 i had a good position? But i dont think he would captured my bishop.

1...Bf4+
2.Kc2 (Rxf4,Rxd8+;Kc2,Qd7#),Rd2+

3.Kc3 (Rxd2,Qxd2#),Qd4#

Looks pretty convincing to me.

Thanks i am deafzed! After doing tactics trainers and chess mentor now every day i begin to see solutions faster. But the beer and Whiskey prevented me from seeing it then, and when i posted it i didnt saw it either. Still learning and thanks for helping me with it!

Actually, you should probably thank user RandyRhoads who got the solution before me (if technically it wasn't quite as complete) and apparently didn't misquote the last queen move the way I originally did (which I'll momentarily fix).

In any case, glad to help. Analyzing positions is always a learning experience for me as well as the person I'm posting my analysis for.