lol Elubas - I guess that the trick is simply to exteriorize from whatever has happened, and lose that "personal" viewpoint of "it happened TO ME". As soon as you can do that, you can probably draw whatever benefit the game has in store for you.
Absolutely.
"But for me the "performance" aspect is a huge part of the experience; it's where I use the tools I learned to beat my opponent in a back and forth battle of wits. If I can do that well I consider that a good achievement (and ratings reflect this in particular)."
This part seems to be as harmless as saying my favorite part of a meal is the dessert, and perhaps why. Is someone going to tell me, "hey, who do you think you are preferring desserts and being all proud of it?"
"For others, maybe they're just ok with playing one really nice game even if they did badly on others. And that's fine -- who am I to tell them what to be satisfied with"
And this is like saying others prefer the main course. And who am I to be against them preferring that?
"Especially now that I have this rather regular blog here, which is collecting readers by the thousands (amazing! The Cannes thread has already 6500+ views. My "first ever FIDE tourney" is at 4993 (!!) viewers.
Viewers keep gathering at my threads, in many cases, long after they have ceased to produce new content.
I have more readers than several other PROFESSIONAL and PROMOTED writers in this website - where I'm neither one nor the other.
Even the best writers (amazingly deep and entertaining people such as Silman and Brian Smith) only arrive on occasion to readership figures that are double or triple my own - not more than that. "
I could have looked for ulterior motives here, spin this by saying "he's bragging!" but not only didn't I look, I genuinely didn't think this was arrogant at all. I thought you were simply happy about what happened -- I get that. But when I make a hopeful comment about my rating, you assume I'm bragging. I mean, it wasn't really saying much -- it wasn't even an increase, besides 5 or 10 points -- maintaining a rating isn't really much to celebrate about :)