And, if you want to see rudeness on the internet, go to, oh, I don't know, a Barrack Obama Healthcare broadcast on youtube and read the comments. That's real rudeness, we are a cosseted bunch here.
Abuse! Rudeness!
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As to not giving reasons for not accepting a challenge, I don't think it is mandatory. You don't really want to know that I am tired or not in the mood or I have to go to the dentist or something anyway. About the other things, I agree.
tonydal wrote:
Yep, YouTube is truly a pit of vipers (that's why I call em tubers).
Ha! "Tubers" - I like it. I agree though, sometimes I actually get scared by what I read on the 'tube.
Mar 28, 2010
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Nice post. Helps to keep looking at this every time I think of posting to a forum:
:)
Shivsky wrote:
Nice post. Helps to keep looking at this every time I think of posting to a forum:
:)
"Someone is WRONG on the internet!" Perfect :)
AfafBouardi wrote:
I didn't know anybody reads the comments on youtube. hmm.
Oh, I most certainly do. After all, Freedom of speech = Right to be heard 
ErrantDeeds wrote:
For example, imagine you are playing a real game of chess, and your opponent has a heart attack and collapses. You'd no doubt jump up and help, calling an ambulance.
While I wholeheartedly agree with all the comments about rudeness, I wish posters would stop referring to OTB as "real chess." Whenever I play an Online game, I never imagine I'm playing an unreal game.
rubygabbi wrote:
ErrantDeeds wrote:
For example, imagine you are playing a real game of chess, and your opponent has a heart attack and collapses. You'd no doubt jump up and help, calling an ambulance.
While I wholeheartedly agree with all the comments about rudeness, I wish posters would stop referring to OTB as "real chess." Whenever I play an Online game, I never imagine I'm playing an unreal game.
Good point well made, I never thought of that. I shall refer to it as OTB from now on.
Try being a girl....you wouldnt believe some of the remarks made to me :(
LarryGirl wrote:
Try being a girl....you wouldnt believe some of the remarks made to me :(
You have my sympathy. Nontheless, my point stands, there's very little you can actually do about it. However, I would say this, if you are receiveing comments of a sexist or innaproriate nature on chess.com, copy them in to a Word document along with the name of the person making them, and forward it to the moderator. I assume that's what you meant?
Someone could have Tourette's syndrome and you would have no idea - so give them a break.
Mar 28, 2010
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Yep i don't care what they do really when playing a game unless they abuse me like theres no tomorrow of course. I have a fellow Aussie who is always going on vacation, but i don't mind while he does that i dont have to think much on it or i can always write down my notes on where the position is at the time and what im planning and when they get i can revise anyway. A game is just a game so no point getting hung up on little things like that to me. Better things to worry about then a chess game.
rubygabbi wrote:
ErrantDeeds wrote:
For example, imagine you are playing a real game of chess, and your opponent has a heart attack and collapses. You'd no doubt jump up and help, calling an ambulance.
While I wholeheartedly agree with all the comments about rudeness, I wish posters would stop referring to OTB as "real chess." Whenever I play an Online game, I never imagine I'm playing an unreal game.
Very sensible comment in my opinion.
LarryGirl wrote:
Try being a girl....you wouldnt believe some of the remarks made to me :(
Mar 28, 2010
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Shivsky wrote:
Nice post. Helps to keep looking at this every time I think of posting to a forum:
:)
This one too:
I used to report the abusive players, but now i just simply block them. It's their loss. The more they keep t up the more people will block them & they will reduce the amount of players who will play with them eventually. Since there are usually about 2000 players playing live chess at any given time, blocking the abusive ones will not really affect the number of people you will play. I've been on this site for about a year now, probably blocked 200 rude, abusive, and racist people, & it's wonderful to know that when i sign on I will never see those people again.
Mar 29, 2010
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PrawnEatsPrawn wrote:
LarryGirl wrote:
Try being a girl....you wouldnt believe some of the remarks made to me :(
awesome. I don't think most people will get the point.
People should either resign or play! / People abuse their vacation time! / People disconnect rather than resigning so I have to wait for the clock! / People are rude in the comments! / People don't give reasons for not accepting a challenge! / etc / etc / etc.
These are well trodden complaints. Unfortunately, it's the nature of the internet. Folks are rude in a higher proportion than in the real world, as they can use their anonymity to get away with stuff. But also, bear in mind that the only thing you see of someone online is their online behaviour. In real life contact, you have body language, context, tone of voice etc. For example, imagine you are playing a real game of chess, and your opponent has a heart attack and collapses. You'd no doubt jump up and help, calling an ambulance. Now imagine the same thing happened in the middle of a chess.com correspondence tournament. All you would see is the tournament dragging on because this person is not finishing his games! And, dammit, he's a premium member so his games automatically go to vacation! An extreme example, I grant you, but the point is that you know nothing AT ALL about the motives and behaviour of the person you are angry at.
In conclusion, on chess.com, as on all websites, it is simply not worth your time getting angry about perceived infringements. In almost all cases, the true nature of a person’s situation is veiled. And if it isn’t, and he or she is genuinely behaving badly, well, they’re not worth your time and effort.
Calm restraint, comrades, calm restraint.
ED.