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Weirdgerman
Sep 30, 2025
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#41
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Also, I will ask you to do something. Predict what I'm going to say next. EXACTLY AND NO MISTAKES

Ill just block you and leave, no need for prediction

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Weirdgerman
Sep 30, 2025
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#42
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Weirdgerman wrote:
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ANONYMOUS08008888888 wrote:
How_to_lose_a_chess_game wrote:
ANONYMOUS08008888888 wrote:
How_to_lose_a_chess_game wrote:
ANONYMOUS08008888888 wrote:
How_to_lose_a_chess_game wrote:
ANONYMOUS08008888888 wrote:
chekagain wrote:

oh noo, she got called a scaredy cat, thats horrific. what a meanie pants

I agree maybe that was an overreaction for reporting them but the guy was just being a bad sport, it's still not that deep

Should I call you a scaredy cat from now onwards?

do anything u want, reporting is for abuse and being called a scaredy cat isn't abuse

Calling someone a 'scaredy cat' online can constitute emotional abuse because it targets a person's self-esteem, uses shame to manipulate behavior, and contributes to a toxic digital environment.

While "scaredy cat" may seem like a harmless or childish insult, in the context of online communication, especially when used repeatedly or in public forums, it can be a tool for belittling, mocking, and shaming someone for expressing fear or caution. This kind of labeling can:

-Undermine a person's confidence or sense of safety in expressing themselves.
-Pressure them into doing things they’re uncomfortable with just to avoid ridicule.
-Be especially harmful to children or sensitive individuals, where the cumulative impact of "small" insults contributes to long-term emotional distress.
Just because a term is socially normalized doesn’t mean it can’t be abusive — emotional abuse often hides behind "jokes" or so-called harmless teasing.

Sensitive individuals and the people you are talking about shouldn't be on chess.com, it's obvious and a basic thing you shouldn't do if you're sensitivee or have a mental disability

But are they asking for it? No. Its the other person behind the screen whos responsible, not them

they know that you can chat on chess.com and people can say things, it's like saying that it's the governments fault that a hurricane hit your state

Yes, they know that, but its just like knowing that a match is happening but you don't know the outcome. How can we predict what the other person is going to say and be prepared?

Just turn off party chat

Is everything in your mind just turning off chat?

It works

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How_to_lose_a_chess_game
Sep 30, 2025
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#43

BTW, that's not the starting of this challenge. The CHALLENGE starts now

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How_to_lose_a_chess_game
Sep 30, 2025
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#44
Weirdgerman wrote:
How_to_lose_a_chess_game hat geschrieben:

Also, I will ask you to do something. Predict what I'm going to say next. EXACTLY AND NO MISTAKES

Ill just block you and leave, no need for prediction

That's not what I was going to say,

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How_to_lose_a_chess_game
Sep 30, 2025
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#45

First of,, what is chjat? Second, I got the point, turning of chat is necessary DURING THE GAME. BUT, WHAT ABOUT AFTER THE GAME? Thirdly, not all individuals know that.

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How_to_lose_a_chess_game
Sep 30, 2025
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#46

Turning off chat cuts the victim off from positive or supportive communication too, effectively isolating them in the online space — which can feel like being silenced or excluded.

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How_to_lose_a_chess_game
Sep 30, 2025
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#47

Even if the chat is off, the emotional damage — embarrassment, anxiety, self-doubt — may have already been done. Repeated exposure to small insults can cause cumulative emotional harm.

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How_to_lose_a_chess_game
Sep 30, 2025
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#48

Emotional abuse, even in small forms like name-calling or teasing (“scaredy cat”), creates a toxic environment. Simply muting or turning off chat doesn't prevent the abuser from continuing the behavior toward others.

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How_to_lose_a_chess_game
Sep 30, 2025
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#49
ANONYMOUS08008888888 wrote:

It's not emotional abuse, emotional abuse is extreme and is basically something that will make someone panic.

Ever seen someone panic because of the words "scaredy cat"?

Yes, I did. And I want to respect that person's privacy, so I don't want to mention that incident

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Weirdgerman
Sep 30, 2025
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#50
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ANONYMOUS08008888888 wrote:

It's not emotional abuse, emotional abuse is extreme and is basically something that will make someone panic.

Ever seen someone panic because of the words "scaredy cat"?

Yes, I did. And I want to respect that person's privacy, so I don't want to mention that incident

Ahhhhhhhh. YOU MADE ME PANIC!!!!

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BrorF
Sep 30, 2025
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#51
Turn the chat off then chess.com is for evryone
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Weirdgerman
Sep 30, 2025
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#52
BrorF hat geschrieben:
Turn the chat off then chess.com is for evryone

A 12 year old knows better than the teacher

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How_to_lose_a_chess_game
Sep 30, 2025
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#53
ANONYMOUS08008888888 wrote:

Look, sensitive individuals shouldn't be on chess.com

This is the internet, and people will say things

You can't just say that it'll cut them off from positive behavior but you don't want negative behavior, you can't control people on the internet

It's not that big of a deal and your argument is invalid, social media like chess.com is not for sensitive people, doctors literally say to avoid social media if you are sensitive.

I understand that we cannot expect what people will do to others. But, basically, you're saying that its their fault that they are being harassed like this and that they should quit their hobby of playing chess to not get bullied. Think of a classroom with a quiet kid and some bullies. What good will it do if we kick the quiet kid out of the class? Also, there's something known as THE BUTTERFLY EFFECT where small things lead to big changes. So, what you think isn't a big deal can change how sensitive people perceive chess adversely. Therefore, I advise you to present your rebuttal in a valid way.

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How_to_lose_a_chess_game
Sep 30, 2025
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#54
Weirdgerman wrote:
BrorF hat geschrieben:
Turn the chat off then chess.com is for evryone

A 12 year old knows better than the teacher

At least I know better than to pop up randomly like acne

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Weirdgerman
Sep 30, 2025
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#55
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Weirdgerman wrote:
BrorF hat geschrieben:
Turn the chat off then chess.com is for evryone

A 12 year old knows better than the teacher

At least I know better than to pop up randomly like acne

I have no use to respond to useless comments, ill reply when i want.

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How_to_lose_a_chess_game
Sep 30, 2025
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#56
Weirdgerman wrote:
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Weirdgerman wrote:
BrorF hat geschrieben:
Turn the chat off then chess.com is for evryone

A 12 year old knows better than the teacher

At least I know better than to pop up randomly like acne

I have no use to respond to useless comments, ill reply when i want.

So, you're saying that you don't want to reply to comments and you're anyways doing it?

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Weirdgerman
Sep 30, 2025
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#57
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Weirdgerman wrote:
How_to_lose_a_chess_game hat geschrieben:
Weirdgerman wrote:
BrorF hat geschrieben:
Turn the chat off then chess.com is for evryone

A 12 year old knows better than the teacher

At least I know better than to pop up randomly like acne

I have no use to respond to useless comments, ill reply when i want.

So, you're saying that you don't want to reply to comments and you're anyways doing it?

Im saying i wont reply to comments where its useless to reply anyway. When i get to mess with ppl like you, u never waste a chance

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Weirdgerman
Sep 30, 2025
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#58
ANONYMOUS08008888888 hat geschrieben:

Bro I'm not saying he should quit chess, but chess.com is literally social media.

Your argument is ainvalid and it's useless to argue

No one should quit chess. Just use extra privacy settings.

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theGoodtheBadandtheCuddly
Sep 30, 2025
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#59

so much negativity all of a sudden.

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HangingPiecesChomper
Sep 30, 2025
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#60

i agree, chess.com is as dangerous as adult websites and should be treated with the same level of restrictions.