Am I a coward?

I played a game recently(pgn down below) that I started with a typical Vienna I would say, I like the variation of bringing my queen out first a lot(because I’m a 700 duh) and my opponent responded by also bring his queen out, basically forcing me to take it, which I did.

After that, he immediately responded by offering a draw, which I confusingly declined. Then he basically just started cussing me as a coward(specifically cowardly girl, kind of sexist I gotta say) and kinda start throwing. As in the end, I basically have +9 material and start to promoting pieces and he resign.

After the game, he DM me and said”I do not play with a coward who first wants to play without a queen, and then, like a little cowardly girl, runs to make a queen.
so I offered a draw.
Because I hate playing with such a person. For me, such a player is not a person at all.”

My defense was this: if he really don’t want to play queen-less middle game, then maybe don’t offer a queen trade, which taking the queen was the best move. I was only playing what I think was the best move, which I think is somewhat of a sportsmanship.

Nevertheless, am I a coward or this is just a normal decision?
[Event "Online Game"]
[Site "Chess.com iPhone"]
[Date "2024.07.05"]
[Round "?"]
[White "mr_neothing"]
[Black "12q12q12q"]
[Result "1-0"]
[FEN "rnbqkbnr/pppppppp/8/8/8/8/PPPPPPPP/RNBQKBNR w KQkq - 0 1"]
[WhiteElo "738"]
[BlackElo "721"]
[Termination "mr_neothing won on time"]

1.e4 e5 2.Nc3 Nc6 3.Bc4 Nd4 4.Nf3 Nxf3+ 5.Qxf3 5.Nf6 Nd5 6.c6 Nxf6+ 7.Qxf6 Qxf6 8.gxf6 O-O 9.Bc5 d3 10.Bxf2+ Rxf2 11.d5 exd5 12.cxd5 Bxd5 13.Bh3 gxh3 14.Rg8+ Kh1 15.O-O-O Be4 16.Rd4 Rg2 17.Rg5 Rxg5 18.fxg5 Bxh7 19.f6 Bf5+ 20.Kc7 Be4 21.g4 hxg4 22.f5 gxf5 23.Rd6 Bg5 24.Rb6 Rb1 25.Ra6 a3 26.Rc6 c3 27.Ra6 f6 28.b5 f7 29.b4 f8=Q {1-0}

[Event "Online Game"]
[Site "Chess.com iPhone"]
[Date "2024.07.05"]
[Round "?"]
[White "mr_neothing"]
[Black "12q12q12q"]
[Result "1-0"]
[FEN "rnbqkbnr/pppppppp/8/8/8/8/PPPPPPPP/RNBQKBNR w KQkq - 0 1"]
[WhiteElo "738"]
[BlackElo "721"]
[Termination "mr_neothing won on time"]

1.e4 e5 2.Nc3 Nc6 3.Bc4 Nd4 4.Nf3 Nxf3+ 5.Qxf3 Nf6 6.Nd5 c6 7.Nxf6+ Qxf6 8.Qxf6 gxf6 9.O-O Bc5 10.d3 Bxf2+ 11.Rxf2 d5 12.exd5 cxd5 13.Bxd5 Bh3 14.gxh3 Rg8+ 15.Kh1 O-O-O 16.Be4 Rd4 17.Rg2 Rg5 18.Rxg5 fxg5 19.Bxh7 f6 20.Bf5+ Kc7 21.Be4 g4 22.hxg4 f5 23.gxf5 Rd6 24.Bg5 Rb6 25.Rb1 Ra6 26.a3 Rc6 27.c3 Ra6 28.f6 b5 29.f7 b4 30.f8=Q {1-0}

Here’s the full pgn sorry

I thought it was the opposite usually opponents who try to force draws are cowards

At my level a lot of people are nice if you missclick but it depends on he person some like to resign other alike to ask for a draw that's fine but swearing at your opponent is not

Nice.

There's nothing cowardly about trading queens. I'll trade queens if it's a good move. I'll avoid it if it's a bad move. Courage or cowardice isn't part of the equation.

As you correctly said in your post, if your opponent didn't want queens off the board, he shouldn't have invited a trade.

And the after-game message was just your opponent being angry about losing.

Sounds like he's got a skill issue

U did nothing wrong

I got called racist for having the name blackpanther

If you do something that is good for you and uncomfortable to your opponent, then you are playing chess correctly

Yep. And how are you a coward if you keep playing? Wouldn't a coward accept the draw? In the end HE's the coward, as he's scared of playing somebody who plays an opening he isn't good at.

If person insults you with stupid saxings, you can report him.

None of this seems normal to me.

But then this is chess.com

I agree with borovicka75(look up)

Quite true, great players would rather give up a piece rather than allowing a queen trade

Meanwhile Hikaru in titled Tuesday

You are not a coward!

YOU ARE LOVED