Anger When Losing???
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LizardOil
Aug 13, 2019
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#21
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Aug 13, 2019
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#23
jamesmcholyoake wrote:
just control your anger my mum tells me to take my pills when i start hitting the wal but i know i can contrl it
ther's one nice thing about banging ur head against the wall? it feels so good when u stop.
and to the original poster... if u could post a vid' of u losing a game on YouTube, i'am sure it would be appreciated by one and all
For me the most that I will experience is just frustration and slight anger.
I was paired against a 2267 rated player in one tournament (which was locally rated at the time but the local rating system has since been abolished, I was a 1612 at the time) and I failed to spot an immediately winning combination in time trouble (less than 3 minutes left) to remain a rook versus bishop (with only two kings and pawns). I was just disappointed at the time.
even worse when it's just a poorly made app stealing time off if your game clock, I constantly have my time lapse from poorly programmed material. my opponent magically get time added to their clock whereas when my turn starts I'm already seconds behind. wifi or 4g it doesn't seem to discriminate, I've lost 150 points off of my rank in the past 2 weeks. it's so frustrating I could scream.
Right! I had to quit playing blitz because the wifi (I assumed) was stealing so much time from me.
Aug 14, 2019
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#27
I saw once a GM losing a game in blitz and showing no strong reactions, as he would be not the guy who lost. Very impressive! I also get rather aggressive when losing after a blunder in a great position, but only if I play too many games in a row. If you reduce the blitz to maximal 4 to 6 games and stop playing after losing one game you will not only prevent getting crazy but also improve your rating. Even better is to play Daily Chess for a while, there you will get plenty of time to make your moves. I never got really crazy after losing a Daily game.
Elijah416 ha escrit:
Losing in chess makes me so mad to the point where I'm doing regretful things in the moment. I've broken a laptop from slamming it, cracked my phone screen from slamming it on the ground, broke a plate and a cup, punched a hole in my wall, punched a mirror and broke it, slammed my door and damaged it, etc. It just makes me so friggen angry!!! I curse out the players who beat me and I want to go to their house and kill them in the most painful way after a loss. I asked my friend for advice and he told me to just say good game instead of raging, so I've been doing it and surprisingly it has cooled me down some. But now I'm noticing most players don't say good game back and that has me going over the edge once again. The lack of sportsmanship along with the loss is starting to make my anger almost worse. Just slammed a pot of soup on the ground after blundering a game away because I was moving too fast and running out of time. My opponent didn't say good game back so I told him f*ck you. Now as I'm cleaning soup off the walls, I'm wondering if there's something I can do for my anger or if I should just quit chess. Because nothing else makes me this angry. I'm usually very calm and patient. Any advice???
Make yourself another account which you use for practicing so you don't have to mind losing. You will have more fun and if when doing your account you under-rate yourself you will win more
Aug 14, 2019
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#29
This reminds me of bad beat stories that people told me when I was a poker player. The bottom line on here is that like life chess on here is unfair; some people use engines, their better playing friends or manipulate their use of software to gain an edge. I prefer winning with my own skills, wits and actually playing ability. It feels soooooooooooo much better! Just a pity that unlike in poker you can't earn a crust at the lower levels of chess.
Aug 14, 2019
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#30
For sure, at the moment you start cheating is like giving up your integrity and your love for the game. I am somehow proud of my blunders because they are the main prove that it is me playing the games.
Aug 14, 2019
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#32
You're learning...from what I see even higher rated players make blunders...they're just strategic rather than losing a queen from getting pinned. For me blunders draw attention to an area of the game I need to work on.
More often known as a New York State of mind..
Pikelemi wrote:
Elijah416 wrote:
I'm usually very calm and patient. Any advice???
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funny opening post, I imagine there's lot of people who relate to all of that, though I've never had to clean soup off of my walls, the only time a loss bothers me is if I genuinely think the opponent has been cheating, even top GM's suffer from chess rage, it's just the way an individual's brain is wired, the likes of Eric Rosen and Aman Hambleton however never show any negative emotion after a loss. I would hazard a guess and say that if you've got enough going on in your life outside of a chess, then losing in chess wont bother you that much, if you make chess your life or the most important thing, then you're going to chess rage.
If you reduce the blitz to maximal 4 to 6 games and stop playing after losing one game you will not only prevent getting crazy but also improve your rating.
This is good advice, a while ago, I was playing so many games in a row, I think I lost 15 blitz games on the spin, how many people have lost that many consecutively, once you start to ration your play you gain rating.
Dec 21, 2023
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#38
RopemakerStreet wrote:
I would hazard a guess and say that if you've got enough going on in your life outside of a chess, then losing in chess wont bother you that much, if you make chess your life or the most important thing, then you're going to chess rage.
+1
this must be the core psychology triggering it, unless you have anger management issues at other sections of your life too.
if you are not that type of person in general then solution is outside of chess, be more social, have hobbies.. in short; have a kind of life.
if not, and thats who you are.. then seek for professional help before you hurt someone else for real, not to mention how you are already hurting yourself.
think about it before being defensive
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