Are you supposed to accept a rematch offer on live chess?

chessmicky, it's obvious that those who refuse rematches "don't feel like playing another game" with their opponent after they win.  The question I asked is "Why?"

If you do not give your opponent a rematch.

You are spineless. #JellyFish

 

Chessmicky is avoiding answering the question by resorting to namecalling and shaming. 

No. 

Are are expected to finish the game you agreed to play. To be polite to your opponent during the game. And resign isn a timely fashion if the position is hopelessly lost.

Anything beyond that is a recently butthurt opponent, crying becuse he is missing out on his chance for revenge.

Personally, I sometimes just feel like playing several different people, so I won't accept a rematch. Usually though if someone wants a rematch, I find it worthwhile to play one more game with the opposite color.

Actually, the word is "grammarian" -- not "grammatician.  Also the correct spelling is "faux pas" and not "faut pas."

There is only one reason. It is because you are either Spineless, Cowardly, and/or Lack the courage.

Little Jellyfish man.

Which is probably why your ranking has not changed for some time. Facing easy competition running away from the players who give you a challenge. Typical chess.com Jellyfish player

ok.  here's one. perhaps I just played my best (and only) trick in the game!  a rematch allows the opponent the oportunity (however fleeting) - to adjust to my playing style.

Not a good reason?  well. so what?!  you can't make me rematch.

Another reason... OTB in a tournament you don't get a rematch Either.  In fact, its almost certainly true you have NO control on who you play against.  except that its almost NEVER the same person, next round.

and yet zillions of tournament players aren't complaining about the unfairness of NOT being allowed to rematch.

... so MANY possible reasons!  rematches are the exception more than the rule. and thats fine with many of us.

crazy Xplayer.  just crazy!

If one wants a bigger challenge- you simply bump up the ELO of the people your looking for.... of course.

I am just teasing lol

chessmicky caught me though.

No point in carrying on when you have been busted HA HA.

For a little while, I had him all rallyed up though.

It was pretty funny.

Yeah my stance on rematches is anything goes lol.

Everyone can play chess the way they want too.

I do like giving my opponents rematches though.

I hate the seek/search button. Every time I seek a person I have to wait for such a long time to find an opponent.

It is really annoying. So instead I just play the same person until they stop or until I get tired, hungry, thirst, and/or leave.

I have played 100 games against 1 person before.

It was pretty kool. Final score was like 52 to like 48. Some were around there it was not one sided at all that is for sure.

I feel like you guys dont understand what its like to be a "good guy," someone you'd like to hang out with or have a beer with. Perhaps you fit the stereotypical image of the nerdy chess player, intelligent but socially awkward. Look, you're not a pro, you're playin this for fun right? Just like if we're out on the golf course with our buddies if somebody asks for a mulligan you let him have it! If you dont then everyone will think you're an ass...and they'd be right! Grant a rematch when requested and when you have the time...None of us are gettin paid to win...hopefully you play only in your spare time and its not an obsession...so learn what it is to be a straight up guy and do the rematches when another requests! Good grief! Didnt your dads teach you this stuff?

Well said.

I enjoy good games. Playing against junk fails to entertain me. Playing those who shuffle pieces to win on time wastes mine. 

Those who offer an interesting game the first time rarely get refused a rematch. Even so, most rematch offers are refused.

I may not play chess professionally, but I play with seriousness of purpose. Idle passions fail to interest me, except maybe fly fishing. Whether I'm sipping wine or pushing wood on a grid of squares, the pleasure comes from a relentless effort to improve. Can I learn to distinguish a Napa Valley Cabernet from one made from grapes grown in the Walla Walla Valley? Can I beat or at least draw the Expert who beat me last time we played?

Blitz chess is sort of a not so secret vice that sometimes interferes with self-improvement. But even then, there are limits to the sort of junk I'm willing to tolerate. Let's be honest: most of the opponents one finds on chess.com and the leading servers are not really trying to improve their game. 

I just don't rematch people; too many games to be played!

no matter what if u can beat someone accept the challenge beat them and show them that you r a winner not a runner..

I tend to play daily games more than blitz and it may be different. I have played blitz too and tend to feel I do not want to keep playing just one person. Same in daily. I want to play games not personalities. I too have sent rematch requests after I play a crappy game but I can see in myself it is just some ego issue and I need to show the other guy I can do better or beat him. I think in blitz games the adrenaline factor plays in more. It is why I mostly have stopped blitz chess except on occasion I will play three games and no more, and different people. I have found too I do not like to have full time rivals. I have had that before and I often exhaled in exasperation when a game ended and within a fraction of a nano second a rematch as sent. I never found this type of playing helped me to improve.

Hey Zirab...you make my point! And by the way, we prob wouldnt play golf together at all, or have a beer, or talk football, baseball, basketball i.e. sports in general...that sort of stuff I'm guessing, not in your wheel house. Your reasoning for refusing a rematch is clearly self centered...think about it...its "Being a Good Guy 101"... apply it to other aspects of your life and I promise you will be happier and more successful...think of others not just yourself...give the other guy a shot if he asks... at the least you will help HIM get better!. (And dont you think the need to quote another to make your point only shows in yourself the lack of ability of having and expressing an original thought?)

Or you are too busy to play another game. You don't have to offer a rematch,unless you want to.

i dont think you are required to accept a rematch

why do you ask?

No.

Actually, it's not a need at all, but a choice.

It is a habit of mind that I have cultivated for decades. It is a reflection of the recognition that the wheel wasn't invented yesterday and the what others have said about various subjects is worth knowing. It is the result of placing value upon the ability to recognize and remember where one acquired certain ideas.

It is respect for those who have identified important social and cultural trends. 

We don't like the same beer. Your psychobabble confirms that.

 

 

 

As for chess and rematches.

I have and will again play game after game with the same opponent, whether friend or stranger.

I will do so tomorrow afternoon at a local fast food restaurant where a group of old men gather weekly. We will play multiple games as long as I can stay and my opponent wants to play whether they are close games or terribly one-sided.

I will accept a rematch offer from some anonymous stranger, too. But, online I am more selective. Laggers never get a rematch. Players who try to run down my time with senseless moves in a dead lost position can find someone else to play. These are examples.

Opponents who offer close competition and principled play who request a rematch will not be refused when I have time.