Blundering is sickness

Good suggestion.  And although it may not directly help with blundering at blitz or rapid games,if he enjoys success, it will help build up a player's confidence level and indirectly ease his anxiety.  And perhaps, if, during the course of a daily game, a player first makes note of what his move would be at first glance, he can then begin to categorize his type of blunders after comparing it to his more deliberate move-choice.

Chess is frustrating because you can make 40 good moves, each move the equal or superior to your opponent's moves, and then make 1 horrid choice at move 41, and the game is gone.  It's like being an air-traffic controller and landing 99 out of 100 planes PERFECTLY -- better than any other controller... but that 100th plane that crashes really hinders your chances at job-review time.

...play parcheesi instead of chess...  

...be patient, not a patient

Don't play so many games a day. Play 'daily chess' and improve.

When improved play 2 hour games and improve

When improved play 1 hour games and improve

When improved play 1/2 hour games and improve

etc.

If all that doesn't help... be still patient and not a patient.

Play parcheesi instead.

Try to play more OTB.....  OTB I blunder less than playing 2D-chess. Maybe it helps you as well.

Find it out.

Uncle Bent, I'm glad that chess is not real life when you mentioned that Harry Lyman was a serial axe murderer at the chessboard!

Well, I only played Harry once, in a casual game.  Being a tactically-minded player I let Harry take me into a wildly violent variation, and soon, there was a trail of my entrails across the chessboard.  Then, with game concluded, Harry offered me a home-made cupcake that his wife had baked.

++++Uncle Bent sorry but I don't believe in your philosophy. You also leave us with a false dilemma - be nice in real life and murderer on the chessboard or be a nice guy on the chessboard but a murderer in a real life. Aside that being "nice" or "gentleman" can be (and usually is) deceiving and do not attest to your righteousness or being good. I really don't know how a good-hearted person can not care about opponent's feelings once he crushes him on the chessboard. As for me - chess is a game for egomaniacs and the more you dispute the truth of the previously said the more oblivious, blind and egotistical you may be. 

Chess is a game, and you're not really hurting anyone if you soundly give him a thrashing on the chess board.  It probably is best played (or at least played with the most intensity) by those players that channel their aggression, but that is not neccessarily the same as egomania.  Egomaniacs would think they are better than you, as a person, just becasue they are better than you at chess.

All I can go on is 50 years of experience of playing chess.  And the most violent, attacking players tend to be the most generous, kind-hearted people.  Not all, but most.  I can't say that I have played many mass-murderers, so the opposite may not be true. (Although I am always suspicious of opponents who play the Stonewall.   ) Maybe I should see if Charlie Manson wants to play me in a postal game? 

Now here's the thing mate, if you play 15l10 game just at  least ONCE a day, you will improve your play and calculation during shorter games, So just try it once and think longer, and after that you can play some blitz chess. sometimes because you are too lazy to wait opponent to move you are just like " Wtf is this guy thinking, i've prepared for the best move i'll play" but the end you are the one who lose. because you best move, wasnt actually the best move to play.

So just try it, even once, it's like a warm up for real games in blitz.

Btw you can add me if you want to play together

don't worry,i blunder almost every game too! Yet I've been improving my tactics now blunders are less commen to happen to me!

https://www.chess.com/article/view/how-to-avoid-blunders-part-1

I assume there are other parts of this.

Also I guess you play blitz. Blitz is ok but you are basically taking the game and trying to play it faster. So if you blunder in slow games you will blunder in fast ones more often because you will have even less time to make crucial decisions. It's probably correct to say that you will not play as well in blitz as you would in slower time controls.

Furthermore blitz isn't even about always playing the best moves. Sometimes it's about playing a move that will waste your opponent's time on the clock or just playing something safe so you don't lose too much time. Sometimes people just play stupid moves to try and drain their opponent's time. The clock can soon become more important than chess principles themselves and it's ultimately why I don't like blitz. It's basically a game where you aren't really given enough time to put into practice all the things you worked hard to learn.

Don't compare yourself to titled players. Their pattern recognition is so well trained that they can make many decisions with very little actual thought. You can see GMs here and in other places playing 1 minute blitz and their games are of higher quality than the average player's 30 minute games. They have memorized many patterns and so a lot of things they do are practically second nature.

Here are some bullet games between IM Danny Rensch and GM MVL:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r4ISp0tXHl4

Both players are able to make very difficult decisions quickly due to pattern recognition and experience. But it is clear that MVL is giving Danny a hard time because he's probably just on another level. So no blunders are not limited to us. Both players made mistakes but still managed to play strong moves.

I don't know anything about ADD but chess is supposed to be helpful for people with that condition. You can google that.

Also you're looking at chess in a bad way. It's not murder. It's not violent. You're not crushing anyone. You're moving plastic, wood, or pixelated pieces around in geometrical patterns. It's a board game - nothing more - nothing less. Some people compare it to war. I wouldn't know because I've never been to war. Other people compare it to having a debate or a conversation. Perhaps you should prefer the latter things.

Also, have fun.