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Good chess players come in 3 varieties.
1) The obsessive type who have no social skills and have at least mild aspbergers.
2) The eccentric type whose only social skills stem from their eccentricity and doesn't know how to socialise in any other context but chess. Some overlap here with type 1.
3) The genuinely intelligent type (and I'm not just talking intelligent at chess or one activity: intelligence is about ability to adapt to any situation) who just happens to like chess and apply their intelligence in that direction.
Types 1 is only possibly attractive to other type 1's. Type 2 is possibly attractive to types 1 and 2. Type 3 has a chance of being genuinely attractive to people in general. But you do need to have confidence, good social skills, sense of humour and all that, which not all genuinely intelligetnt people have.
Who gave you that impression?
Let me put it this way:
Athletes: hot and easily manipulated
Chess players: nerds
What a random thread
Let me get this straight... You're a sixteen year old christian who uses quotation marks around the phrase 'get to know me'.
I'd give a moments consideration towards the possibility, that it might not necessarily be chess that's putting them off.
Wow, it's amazing on this forums how a lot of chess players have no ability to recognize humor. This poster has got to be trolling or joking.
Seriously people, read the post again. I mean, he was told that playing chess would help him get girls? Would anybody seriously tell a guy that???
Now, in the UNLIKELY event that the OP is serious:
Sure, I suppose that in a chess club you might meet a fine woman, but I'm not sure how likely that is. And certainly, there are stories of people putting personal adds out to hook up with a chess fiend, and sometimes it works.
If you like chess, then fine. But if you're out to meet women, it's kind of a solitary activity for that. I personally would never ever mention it when approaching a woman, unless she was the one that brought it up. For sure, there are some sexy nerdy women out there, but let's be realistic. You may find out later after meeting an intelligent woman, that she likes chess of course (yeah!), but generally (not always), chess isn't the first subject you want to bring up.
It's far better to approach groups of people that include women, or just woman alone, and just start talking to them as if they are old friends. If you have social anxiety, just practice saying hi to strangers on the street, ask them directions, or just talk about the weather. If you don't have confidence, just treat it as a game. I had this problem years ago (chatting up women), and the key for me was to realize that there is absolutely nothing to lose by walking up to a stranger and striking up a conversation. I mean what's the worst that can happen? Once I realized that, then fairly soon I was managing to get phone numbers and dates right on the spot (of course most didn't pan out in the long run- but that's just playing the odds - the key is to talk to as many people as possible). Out of all the women I started talking to in the supermarket or whatever, the worst that happened was that _only_ once or twice they looked at me a little weird like why is this guy talking to me. So what? That's understandable. It's part of the game. Just like chess.
Oh yeah, "get to know me" in quotes?? No no. Sounds like you're after something, which of course you are, but the key is that you have to convey that _you_ are the prize. The women want you, not the other way around.
Ok, I admit to have read some Neil Straus, but he really has some good points (although I have the feeling that his audience is mostly college-age clubbing guys).
LarryTroxler wrote:
Oh yeah, "get to know me" in quotes?? No no. Sounds like you're after something, which of course you are, but the key is that you have to convey that _you_ are the prize. The women want you, not the other way around.
Ok, I admit to have read some Neil Straus, but he really has some good points (although I have the feeling that his audience is mostly college-age clubbing guys).
Yeah. I'm not saying that this poor bloke is going around the streets and showing the quotes with his fingers, but the profile page is a bit intimidating.
Hey, usayuwansum, random question. Whatever made you think chess is what attracts girls? As a girl, let me tell you--it's the guy girls are interested in, not their hobbies.
bjazz wrote:
LarryTroxler wrote:
Oh yeah, "get to know me" in quotes?? No no. Sounds like you're after something, which of course you are, but the key is that you have to convey that _you_ are the prize. The women want you, not the other way around.
Ok, I admit to have read some Neil Straus, but he really has some good points (although I have the feeling that his audience is mostly college-age clubbing guys).
Yeah. I'm not saying that this poor bloke is going around the streets and showing the quotes with his fingers, but the profile page is a bit intimidating.
Yeah, well to clarify, I mean that Neil Strauss has some good points in his writing, not that the OP does in his profile. But yeah, definitely he's being counterproductive.
But its so much fun!
May 16, 2010
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LarryTroxler wrote:
Wow, it's amazing on this forums how a lot of chess players have no ability to recognize humor. This poster has got to be trolling or joking.
Seriously people, read the post again. I mean, he was told that playing chess would help him get girls? Would anybody seriously tell a guy that???
Now, in the UNLIKELY event that the OP is serious:
Sure, I suppose that in a chess club you might meet a fine woman, but I'm not sure how likely that is. And certainly, there are stories of people putting personal adds out to hook up with a chess fiend, and sometimes it works.
If you like chess, then fine. But if you're out to meet women, it's kind of a solitary activity for that. I personally would never ever mention it when approaching a woman, unless she was the one that brought it up. For sure, there are some sexy nerdy women out there, but let's be realistic. You may find out later after meeting an intelligent woman, that she likes chess of course (yeah!), but generally (not always), chess isn't the first subject you want to bring up.
It's far better to approach groups of people that include women, or just woman alone, and just start talking to them as if they are old friends. If you have social anxiety, just practice saying hi to strangers on the street, ask them directions, or just talk about the weather. If you don't have confidence, just treat it as a game. I had this problem years ago (chatting up women), and the key for me was to realize that there is absolutely nothing to lose by walking up to a stranger and striking up a conversation. I mean what's the worst that can happen? Once I realized that, then fairly soon I was managing to get phone numbers and dates right on the spot (of course most didn't pan out in the long run- but that's just playing the odds - the key is to talk to as many people as possible). Out of all the women I started talking to in the supermarket or whatever, the worst that happened was that _only_ once or twice they looked at me a little weird like why is this guy talking to me. So what? That's understandable. It's part of the game. Just like chess.
You get "dates" in the supermarket? My favorite is when you advise not to bring up chess to women unless they bring it up first, as if women are programmed to respond negatively to such an endeavor. It's much more attractive when you talk about the weather, or ask directions. You even threw in the a bit about women that play chess are "nerdy", and therfore unlikely to be "sexy". It was like the T.V. Guide version of how to pick up women
bjazz wrote:
Let me get this straight... You're a sixteen year old christian who uses quotation marks around the phrase 'get to know me'.
I'd give a moments consideration towards the possibility, that it might not necessarily be chess that's putting them off.
lmfao best post ever.
'Get to know me' does not say everything. What parts of yourself you want to introduce to girls?
I think that you are not into chess at all, and that you started playing chess just to get girls. Shame on you. Using chess like that...
Now where's that Nakamura pimping- picture again.
BigRedCat wrote:
Guys Guys Guys....
Maybe we should actually ask a girl ._. ?
LOL!
Like they know what they want!!
SchuBomb wrote:
Type 3 has a chance of being genuinely attractive to people in general. But you do need to have confidence, good social skills, sense of humour and all that, which not all genuinely intelligetnt people have.
Imo the really genuinely intelligent people also have good social skills. Not all of them on the other hand choose to be social, but this is just a choice then. If you ask me you can't really be that intelligent if you can't understand the simple mechanics of social behaviour.
Well the title pretty much says all that I'm asking for here - how come I am not getting all the girls (I was under the impression I would) now that I am playing chess? Are chess guys not as attractive as sports players or something?!