chess.com will disconnect your game on purpose and cause you to lose

On purpose? Weird...

Yes, Erik hired 1 million moderators to watch every single game and they always disconnect whenever you guys are winning.

Might be something in this article that will help...
https://support.chess.com/article/213-how-do-i-fix-my-disconnect-lag-issues

They do this because they are evil and have no gain.
I see. This makes perfect sense to me now. No wonder i lose so often. I may have to quit forever.

Chess.com has your number, we all do. There was an online conference of the cabal in which several members' names came up. Of course, you were mentioned - top of the list, actually. It was decided that special measures were to be implemented to harass and annoy you, including the monitoring of your games and possible disconnection if you appeared to have an advantage.
Your posting here would seem to indicate our plan is meeting with some measure of success and we are appreciative of your confirmation of this.
Igor's suggestion of playing with a tin foil hat is without merit and cannot possibly help you, or your situation. The cabal knows all, sees all . . .