Chess Etiquette: When players quit

I play around the 850-900 level. I often find when players fall behind in material, instead of quitting, they let time run out, forcing me to wait 8 minutes until the time runs out. I sometimes ask them to move, and sometimes say things like, "come on, don't be a bad sport." But I'm wondering if I'm committing bad sportsmanship by doing this. They have 10 minutes to make their moves, and if they want to "think" for 8 minutes, well that's what I signed up for. Am I being a bad sport?

If you're sure they've given up, there's little point in chiding them. They're probably AFK rather than staring at a screen for 8 mins. Alternatively, if they haven't given up and are looking for a way back into the game then you'd just be irritating them. You could report for stalling / bad sportsmanship while you're waiting for the match to end.

GothemChess got auto loss when he thought for 90 seconds in a 3/2 game on live stream. I watched the video. He is 2400 and his opponent 1400. He was explaining his plan to us when chess.com automatically declared he abandoned the game.

I have thought hard when under attack, and found an escape. My opponent thought checkmate was forced and that I was stalling, but later said he had not considered the move I found. Had I not found that move, he would have really suspected I was stalling that whole time.

Not much you can do except report them for game abandonment. I can attest that while (as far as I know) they don't get banned, there are penalties involved, like getting matched against others known to abandon games. For the most part though, their clock = their business.

I like that. Match them agaist others who play similarly. No banning.

I also think suspected computer cheaters should get matched with each other, no warning, no email sent. That way they don't create another account right away. And the innocent can keep playing.