Chess Frustration and Struggles - How do I deal with it?

come on, I was only messing with you, petrickman :)

Never? It means "Ei koskaan" in finnish,...

You can't handle the debate so you have to start mess it?

that's a different post entirely, i meant the tennis and stuff of course.

i can't handle the ... "debate" ?? you guys are debating ? thought you were trying to help the OP. there is no point doing that if you get even more frustrated than him! it's the English maybe, petrikeckman, it may be doing your head in.

:) Relax. Have a rest, we both, we all. Let's don't take too serioisly this conversation. And yeas, understanding and writeing english is not my strong ability.

I'm only taking the OP's question seriously, otherwise it's chillax to the max :)

Now this is a stupid idea, but can be worth of exam: get little drunk. It helps your brain cells go to a new positions and you can have new chess ideas in next match. Have anyone ever tried? It could helps in relaxing too.

"But my problem is not loosing that game, i've gotten over that. My problem is that ever since i played that game, EVERYTHING chess related has gone downhill. I've dropped 100 points in Tactics Trainer, I've dropped 100 points and 7 or 8 straight games in Live Blitz, and nothing is going my way whatsoever. It is so frustrating, I'm getting to the point where I don't know what to do, and I really need help!"

Have patience--my rating on here has constantly fluctuated from 1450 to 1300. I'm confident that I'm definitely playing at 1450 strength and maybe higher and it know that while right now it's at a 1300 (roughly) it will definitely climb back into the mid-1400's again and maybe go higher.

Wanna hear my story? I''ll tell ya.

I played some blitz and i lost many games and droped almost 80 points. Super angry wanted to punch something 20 times.I looked at my juicy bullet rating (i was maxed 1908 something and i knew if i touch it right now i will drop)I said to myself, no.. don't play yet you will drop a lot, don't do it. no man dooon't and i did it cuz i was in pain. I started to play super fast (and actually some good moves that one of my opponents at middle of the game write are you machine?! i was blocking all of his treats and i trapped his queen then i blundered.. Lost many points  i was so angry i could not stop.. i played more.. more. I was keep losing games but won couple just to make me play more and lose triple amount of the won games. I just wanted to brake and hurt myself, pain was huge. I just go outside starting to run or make push ups etc.. or go anoymous at some other sites and smash lower rated players...

Also, if you need help cheering up, just laugh hysterically at my humorous blunders in this game.

Listen to dad, take a break.

guys i read pretty nice comments and mine look like crap now ha-ha-ha. About the comment that he had lost last game reminds me of a player who took 1st place, great performance and play but in the photo - him holding a throphy 1st place he is unhappy and angry becouse one game somewhere he got outplayed but still won... ha-ha Yeah sometimes it hurts but need to see whole picture not just exact moments.

lol AIM-AceMove, kinda like the guy who was having a fabulous day, but got flipped off by an orang-utan in the passenger seat of a jeep on the highway and was mental for the rest of the day :)

I agree with many of the comments said.

I consider an ability to continue to study in the face of stagnation and Frustration.... my Biggest talent in Chess.

I've seen many good players... but one thing only a few have is patience and determination.  They Must excell or their motivation withers;

and Yet it seems to me, clear that a truly revolutionary restructing is a very thing for a person to do.  People tend to think of chess like Math where they can go from additional to factoring...

but chess is more complicated.  the question doesn't change-- when you get strong, instead you must see the question in an entirely new light.   things that seem strong and right as a patzer- become wrong and simpleminded as a master.   

it seems ... obvious to me.... that ones rating cannot sustain a climb; as you try to absorb new patterns and strain to understand things more comprehensively.   so Instead, when I reach a new peak, rating.   I tend to see it as a premature push of my rating.  I taste of what kind of rating I can routinely have if I conquer some weaknesses.

... it natural and normal to have some inconsistancy in your program.  if you give yourself the break you dad is recommending you can come back a little less fatigued and frustrated.  both of those feelings... are poor for both learning and playing- they make it difficult to enjoy the game...

and you are finished, Absolutely. if you stop enjoying the game.  its a great game; and you can love it-- even if improvement alludes you.  and I sincere think if you chillax a little About the improvement, you will find it happens- when you play and study.

not bad! not bad at all :)

thank you...I  have/continue to struggle with similar feelings.  maybe All of us do. 

I don't take chess so seriously. But I'm even not a player. I just play it sometimes. For fun. Of course I want to beat my friends, but that not stress me if I loose, but I understand you really are in an other level. I even not has ever be a member of any chess club.