Dealing with emotions on this site

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Anonymous_Dragon
IMBacon wrote:
Anonymous_Dragon wrote:

Hi guys , I don't think this is a thing that has been talked about much . 

This site has millions of users . Most probably haven't explored this site beyond playing chess. But many others have . We join clubs , we engage in blogs and forums , we make new friends. We talk with them , get to know them better and become close . And over the course of time many of us get emotionally attached to the friends we make here . Everything is fine and good until one of your close buddies leave the site. I have been occasionally using this site since the last two years . And I have been using this account since last 9 months . And even in these 9 months , I have lost countless number of close friends . One of my closest friends right now at this moment is probably going to be inactive for a year . All these events have taken a serious toll on my emotional health . But it also makes me think about others . I am sure there are many more who get very emotional when a friend leaves . There are people who have been on this site for 10 years and more . I wonder how do you guys deal with this sadness? How do you bear the pain of losing a close friend ? 

Considering your account is 9 months old, and you have 1135 "friends".  I dont think you really understand what a friend is.  And if this wrecks your "emotional health"?  How do you deal with real life issues?

Good point . 

But I would like to point out that number of people on your friends list are not the number of friends one has . I (and I am sure many others) accept all friend requests I get . When I talk about losing friends I talk about people I have been in touch with very closely

hypermuddish

Shah_Bonsai
I try not to get to attached to anyone online, as I do not know who they really are. However, I too am saddened by @JackRoach leaving. Yes, I know he will come back, but it will not be the same.
FanOfElizabethHarmon13

awwwww me sad for u actually i didnt lose any friends until now except the blocked ones🥺🥺

Marie-AnneLiz

I am on the net and on chess sites since 1997 at least.

I never had any friend on any chess sites ...and only two on this site in the last 14 months and one left for lichess.and and no one before on any chess site BUT I played 50 times  more in MMORPG! since 1995 and i have still one friend i have meet in 1995 and i still play daily with her in DIABLO 1 and another one i did meet in 2000 in EVERQUEST and i'm still close with her by mail;she live in SF.

I do not think a chess site is the best place to find a long term friend because of the nature of chess;it's a very hard hobby and most quit after a bit!

In a mmorpg it's relatively easy game and you need others to play often and you can give them gift (equipment) that you get in the game and money in the game etc etc...

mpaetz

     I believe you are still a youngster, a student. Many of your friends, especially those you meet here, are people that share a common interest, members of a group of like-minded souls, people with whom you share a good fellowship. You undoubtedly have friends outside this group--at school, in your neighborhood, engaged in other activities you frequent. Very, very few of these friends will remain close for a lifetime. You probably have childhood friends with whom you are no longer close. That's life; people move away, lose interest in the activity that brought you together, develop political or religious opinions that you can't abide, die (I'm a septuagenarian so this is more common for me), or any number of other factors of normal day-to-day life that result in less and less contact and eventual estrangement. Cherish the times you do have with them, wish that they live long and prosper when you have to part, remeber them fondly, and perhaps have a happy surprise should chance bring you together again.

     Of course it is upsetting when you lose someone with whom you feel close. But it will happen, so shed a tear and move on. It's better than having no friends so you will never have to be depressed by their parting.

FanOfElizabethHarmon13

actually when i had to be inactive here i tried to have gud relationships with real life friends but i cant become close like this site friends

bc i talk to them more tan real life friends ur believing them and ur loving them

after being okay with site and u have to go after some time it is becoming so hard for u to leave all ur friends

iamalexgold

I mean why dont u connect with them on social media?

FanOfElizabethHarmon13
iamalexgold wrote:

I mean why dont u connect with them on social media?

what happens if they close social media 2

AunTheKnight
Anonymous_Dragon wrote:

Hi guys , I don't think this is a thing that has been talked about much . 

This site has millions of users . Most probably haven't explored this site beyond playing chess. But many others have . We join clubs , we engage in blogs and forums , we make new friends. We talk with them , get to know them better and become close . And over the course of time many of us get emotionally attached to the friends we make here . Everything is fine and good until one of your close buddies leave the site. I have been occasionally using this site since the last two years . And I have been using this account since last 9 months . And even in these 9 months , I have lost countless number of close friends . One of my closest friends right now at this moment is probably going to be inactive for a year . All these events have taken a serious toll on my emotional health . But it also makes me think about others . I am sure there are many more who get very emotional when a friend leaves . There are people who have been on this site for 10 years and more . I wonder how do you guys deal with this sadness? How do you bear the pain of losing a close friend ? 

It's stupid that we get attached to people we never meet, but I feel sad whenever I see a closed account in general. Only closed "inactive" though, as I don't feel bad for the cheaters!

iamalexgold
FanOfElizabethHarmon13 wrote: iamalexgold wrote:

I mean why dont u connect with them on social media?

what happens if they close social media 2

I have a friend on facebook with whom i played wow like 10 years ago, we also talk on WhatsApp now. I have a lot of people i met on dota on FB even tho i dont visit FB that often. I mean if u want to keep in touch with someone u have to get their number or something and not depend on chess.com solely.

FanOfElizabethHarmon13
AunTheKnight wrote:
Anonymous_Dragon wrote:

Hi guys , I don't think this is a thing that has been talked about much . 

This site has millions of users . Most probably haven't explored this site beyond playing chess. But many others have . We join clubs , we engage in blogs and forums , we make new friends. We talk with them , get to know them better and become close . And over the course of time many of us get emotionally attached to the friends we make here . Everything is fine and good until one of your close buddies leave the site. I have been occasionally using this site since the last two years . And I have been using this account since last 9 months . And even in these 9 months , I have lost countless number of close friends . One of my closest friends right now at this moment is probably going to be inactive for a year . All these events have taken a serious toll on my emotional health . But it also makes me think about others . I am sure there are many more who get very emotional when a friend leaves . There are people who have been on this site for 10 years and more . I wonder how do you guys deal with this sadness? How do you bear the pain of losing a close friend ? 

It's stupid that we get attached to people we never meet, but I feel sad whenever I see a closed account in general. Only closed "inactive" though, as I don't feel bad for the cheaters!

dude u dont have feelings? yes it is bad when they get closed but also when friends close we feel bad

FanOfElizabethHarmon13
iamalexgold wrote:
FanOfElizabethHarmon13 wrote: iamalexgold wrote:

I mean why dont u connect with them on social media?

what happens if they close social media 2

I have a friend on facebook with whom i played wow like 10 years ago, we also talk on WhatsApp now. I have a lot of people i met on dota on FB even tho i dont visit FB that often. I mean if u want to keep in touch with someone u have to get their number or something and not depend on chess.com solely.

act i had fb but i forgot email i had insta i closed etc etc so it is possible to lose every social media

iamalexgold
FanOfElizabethHarmon13 wrote: iamalexgold wrote: FanOfElizabethHarmon13 wrote: iamalexgold wrote:

I mean why dont u connect with them on social media?

what happens if they close social media 2

I have a friend on facebook with whom i played wow like 10 years ago, we also talk on WhatsApp now. I have a lot of people i met on dota on FB even tho i dont visit FB that often. I mean if u want to keep in touch with someone u have to get their number or something and not depend on chess.com solely.

act i had fb but i forgot email i had insta i closed etc etc so it is possible to lose every social media

 

How about whatsapp, viber etc? And if u lose ur phone then fk it..

FanOfElizabethHarmon13

whatsapp cant be a solution as ur family can see

hypermuddish

i mean my friends here aren't that close to me that i would feel sad when they close, my real life friends are more important to me no offense my friends here, but if my online friends close i will respect their privacy as they probably had reasons

AunTheKnight
FanOfElizabethHarmon13 wrote:
AunTheKnight wrote:
Anonymous_Dragon wrote:

Hi guys , I don't think this is a thing that has been talked about much . 

This site has millions of users . Most probably haven't explored this site beyond playing chess. But many others have . We join clubs , we engage in blogs and forums , we make new friends. We talk with them , get to know them better and become close . And over the course of time many of us get emotionally attached to the friends we make here . Everything is fine and good until one of your close buddies leave the site. I have been occasionally using this site since the last two years . And I have been using this account since last 9 months . And even in these 9 months , I have lost countless number of close friends . One of my closest friends right now at this moment is probably going to be inactive for a year . All these events have taken a serious toll on my emotional health . But it also makes me think about others . I am sure there are many more who get very emotional when a friend leaves . There are people who have been on this site for 10 years and more . I wonder how do you guys deal with this sadness? How do you bear the pain of losing a close friend ? 

It's stupid that we get attached to people we never meet, but I feel sad whenever I see a closed account in general. Only closed "inactive" though, as I don't feel bad for the cheaters!

dude u dont have feelings? yes it is bad when they get closed but also when friends close we feel bad

Did you just not read my comment, or?

FanOfElizabethHarmon13
AunTheKnight wrote:
FanOfElizabethHarmon13 wrote:
AunTheKnight wrote:
Anonymous_Dragon wrote:

Hi guys , I don't think this is a thing that has been talked about much . 

This site has millions of users . Most probably haven't explored this site beyond playing chess. But many others have . We join clubs , we engage in blogs and forums , we make new friends. We talk with them , get to know them better and become close . And over the course of time many of us get emotionally attached to the friends we make here . Everything is fine and good until one of your close buddies leave the site. I have been occasionally using this site since the last two years . And I have been using this account since last 9 months . And even in these 9 months , I have lost countless number of close friends . One of my closest friends right now at this moment is probably going to be inactive for a year . All these events have taken a serious toll on my emotional health . But it also makes me think about others . I am sure there are many more who get very emotional when a friend leaves . There are people who have been on this site for 10 years and more . I wonder how do you guys deal with this sadness? How do you bear the pain of losing a close friend ? 

It's stupid that we get attached to people we never meet, but I feel sad whenever I see a closed account in general. Only closed "inactive" though, as I don't feel bad for the cheaters!

dude u dont have feelings? yes it is bad when they get closed but also when friends close we feel bad

Did you just not read my comment, or?

i read all comment i mean why wont we become sad when our friends leave?

AunTheKnight
FanOfElizabethHarmon13 wrote:
AunTheKnight wrote:
FanOfElizabethHarmon13 wrote:
AunTheKnight wrote:
Anonymous_Dragon wrote:

Hi guys , I don't think this is a thing that has been talked about much . 

This site has millions of users . Most probably haven't explored this site beyond playing chess. But many others have . We join clubs , we engage in blogs and forums , we make new friends. We talk with them , get to know them better and become close . And over the course of time many of us get emotionally attached to the friends we make here . Everything is fine and good until one of your close buddies leave the site. I have been occasionally using this site since the last two years . And I have been using this account since last 9 months . And even in these 9 months , I have lost countless number of close friends . One of my closest friends right now at this moment is probably going to be inactive for a year . All these events have taken a serious toll on my emotional health . But it also makes me think about others . I am sure there are many more who get very emotional when a friend leaves . There are people who have been on this site for 10 years and more . I wonder how do you guys deal with this sadness? How do you bear the pain of losing a close friend ? 

It's stupid that we get attached to people we never meet, but I feel sad whenever I see a closed account in general. Only closed "inactive" though, as I don't feel bad for the cheaters!

dude u dont have feelings? yes it is bad when they get closed but also when friends close we feel bad

Did you just not read my comment, or?

i read all comment i mean why wont we become sad when our friends leave?

Because we have never met them in real life... so it is stupid. Why do we feel sad when someone leaves when we never me them in real life?

FanOfElizabethHarmon13
AunTheKnight wrote:
FanOfElizabethHarmon13 wrote:
AunTheKnight wrote:
FanOfElizabethHarmon13 wrote:
AunTheKnight wrote:
Anonymous_Dragon wrote:

Hi guys , I don't think this is a thing that has been talked about much . 

This site has millions of users . Most probably haven't explored this site beyond playing chess. But many others have . We join clubs , we engage in blogs and forums , we make new friends. We talk with them , get to know them better and become close . And over the course of time many of us get emotionally attached to the friends we make here . Everything is fine and good until one of your close buddies leave the site. I have been occasionally using this site since the last two years . And I have been using this account since last 9 months . And even in these 9 months , I have lost countless number of close friends . One of my closest friends right now at this moment is probably going to be inactive for a year . All these events have taken a serious toll on my emotional health . But it also makes me think about others . I am sure there are many more who get very emotional when a friend leaves . There are people who have been on this site for 10 years and more . I wonder how do you guys deal with this sadness? How do you bear the pain of losing a close friend ? 

It's stupid that we get attached to people we never meet, but I feel sad whenever I see a closed account in general. Only closed "inactive" though, as I don't feel bad for the cheaters!

dude u dont have feelings? yes it is bad when they get closed but also when friends close we feel bad

Did you just not read my comment, or?

i read all comment i mean why wont we become sad when our friends leave?

Because we have never met them in real life... so it is stupid. Why do we feel sad when someone leaves when we never me them in real life?

bc even if we didnt meet they are also friends we had so many memories with them here