How can I get an online game terminated?

the first solution is totally unfair! 'You take a lot of time to think your moves through so now I am going to decrease the time you have'! You cannot change the time control of a game after it started! I agreed to play a certain time control and I do not want it to change halfway.

The second solution seems better but it will not really solve the problem. This kind of opponent will keep on taking as long as they have, they will just have to do the maths in their head:

'I have 30 days to play 10 moves so I move every 3 days'

He doesn't. The game started on April 29, 2013 and they are on move 18. They have been playing 46 days.

That is still an avergage of only 2.55555 days per move (46 days/# of moves) . If the OPs opponent took a full 5 days per move they would only be on move 9 or 10 (46/5) IF the OP replied immediately and did not use a day here or there himself.

(edited to clarify my statements)

If you have a won position and you know how to win the position add candidate moves, if your opponent is taking to long, maybe take this time to add candidate moves. I only play longer then 3 days time control when it is a unrated game and I would use this strategy of take my time only if I think my opponent is cheating. "I have court out a cheater already with this strategy." I understand how a person must fell when you know your opponent is taking more time then he needs.

Still he can hope his opponent screw up in logging and playing in time. I won a few CC games like that, it happens.

And 46 days is not that long but it will surely go on for a while if he always takes 5 full days to play. It reminds me of the vote chess 960 game that lasted one year!

A solution could be a double time control: faster at the beginning (opening theory after all) and longer after. The 2 time controls and the number of move when the second one takes over could be totally customizable

So everything is fine, isn't it? You made a mistake initially that was all your own fault, you learned from it, you didn't repreat the mistake.

Gosh! you just don't get it rsva, do you?

Yes if I start a game with a 5 day time limit and my opponent doesn't move every 13 seconds then I think he should be disintegrated or de-materialized.

You are in the wrong tournament. This person has a right to use his full alloted time and if you disagree you have a right to resign. Complaining is poor sportsmanship on your part. 

I want them to, though.

Absolutely! Even if I play my initial candidate move almost every time, it's great to get back to the position again and again, trying to understand it better and learn from it (I wish I had more spare time to do this).

472 is a lot of games to cycle through. If he makes 100 moves a day, it would be almost 5 days in between moves for each game. I don’t see why you would sign up for 5 day per move if you wanted someone to go faster. I wouldn’t sign up for a 45 minute live game and then be mad that my opponent isn’t playing like it’s blitz.

@stigmatisert... sounds resonable

I get it, YOU don't get it.

First, you say your opponent is making every move (wait, let me quote) "My opponent makes his move in the 23rd hour of 5th day."  

But if that was true and you replied IMMEDIATELY your game would only be on move 9 or 10.

Second, you then said (again, quote), "No wonder it has been more than 3 months and we have played 18 moves so far." 

The game started April 29, 2013. That is 46 days. I am not sure what calendar you use but on the one the rest of the world uses that is only a month and a half.

Third, you agreed to play by those rules. If this was what I think is vacation abuse I would be right there with you. This is someone who is playing at a decent clip and using his full alloted time.

I don't understand what the fuss is about.  You are playing an extremely fast game.  I have had games on here last 3 years and reach the 20th move.  You can wait.

I had to wave all the blue smoke away from the monitor after this post.

Stop focusing on the game. Ignore it and play other games.

What's the rush? 

Well, why not try to do pre-moves & see his response.  Some will oblige & but mostly won't as they play too many games & are fighting against time.  BTW consider yourself lucky that your opponent has not yet used his vacation time (there is at least 30 days in a year)

Alternatively, if it is really bothering you, just resign.  The points lost can always be gained back.  Points are nothing.  I have resigned games before as i found my opponent to be disrespectful.  No use playing with just for the sake of points or even EGO.  After that i banned him so that i don't have to meet him again.  

I didn't read all the posts, maybe someone has already suggested such an option - however:

Being able to set more specific or custom time limits is a good idea, in my opinion. What I'm thinking of is being able to customize time limit settings so that after, let's say 40 moves, you will have to make a move within, let's say 3 days instead of 5, and after 50 moves, you'll have 1 day (or whatever) and so on.

I never play "online" chess (as they call it...) because even if my time settings are 3 days and not 5, I still find myself in nonsensical end games where I have to mate the other guy's lonesome king and it takes a month just to promote a pawn because I have to wait 3 days for the other guy's meaningless king move. So, if the time limit automatically dropped after a certain number of moves, these types of eternal games and silly endgames could be avoided.

OK, this guy is a jagoff, but:

I've never had anyone take the full three days for consecutive moves except when they were losing badly. Anyone who has played a single game of correspondence chess can expect that moves will take place when they can and not at the very last moment every single time.

Yes, players are allowed to take that much time; but that's not written in stone. We can change it to make the system work a little better... or not.

Is it preventing you from doing other things?

I could see if perhaps you weren't allowed to eat or drink unless it was your turn, or if it caused you to miss you child's birthday party or a doctor appointment.

But I check my games at least once a day, usually more, and go live my life otherwise.

I have no problem with your suggestion as long as it remains an option only and the standard is how it is played today.

But rememebr, it would only add complexity to the site and make it more difficult to maintain. 8 million subscribers, say 3 miilion a day actually using it (I do not know the figure, it is just an example) and 1% have issues with all the different time controls. That is 30,000 a day. That is a lot of people complaining about something that really doesn't need to be changed.