how can i handle losing in chess ?

DopamineReceptor

i love winning it's the best feeling ever, never did anything in my life where winning feels as good as it does in chess, but when i lose in chess i feel devastated, my soul feels crushed and i get upset, how can i cope with losing ?

daxypoo
use losing as a motivating factor to improve
IMBacon

Get used to it, and use it as a tool to improve.

LouStule
“Get used to it” is an inaccuracy. You must expect to lose a certain percentage of your games. If you expect an occasional loss, you will not be devastated by it because you will have expected it. No matter how high your rating gets, you will still lose sometimes. Expect it.
EscherehcsE

Get yourself hypnotized so that even when you lose, you think you won.

hitthepin
Losing should bother you A LOT, and like daxypoo said, you should use it as a motivating factor.
A-boy415

get better scrub

FlashyFerrari

Winning provides happiness.

Losing provides wisdom.

- Neil Patel

A_G_A

 If you lose, rage at your opponent in the chat and smash your computer.

RoyalTriumph
Step one : Grab your mouse firmly. Step two : smash your mouse through your screen. Step three : cry.
JessieMillano2015

Play chess.com's Strength: 3 (800) computer.

Smositional

Life becomes easier when you don't take everything seriously. SERIOUSLY, I MEAN IT!!!!!!

- Mohotmerino Ghanderino

zanti_misfit

AugustoBarrionuevo is a cheater

Smositional

@zanti_misfit No, he isn't. I looked at the game. The endgame is a draw but you had less time. What you do here is against the Terms of Service. I will report you if you keep doing this.

Howhorseymove
Don’t look at games that you lose as a bad thing. You should of think as a learning opportunity. Try to figure out what went wrong and where. Perhaps it was not the one that you played but the more than you did not play that could have made the difference.

Losing also points areas in need of improvement. Did you take too long in developing? Should you have started your attack earlier? Did you overlook a possible tactic from your opponent? Did you miss a diagonal that could have been controlled better.

Games that you lose are learning experiences. Just as we sometimes fall when we trip over something, we learn to pick up ourselves and try again.

A lost game is truly a lost game if we learn nothing from it.

Good luck.
Howhorseymove
Meant to say that perhaps it was not the move that you played but the move you did not play that could have made the difference.
catdogorb
DopamineReceptor wrote:

i love winning it's the best feeling ever, never did anything in my life where winning feels as good as it does in chess, but when i lose in chess i feel devastated, my soul feels crushed and i get upset, how can i cope with losing ?

I was like that in the beginning. After losing about 100 games I got over it.

If it makes you feel any better, even the best players in the world have lost thousands of games.