how can i handle losing in chess ?
Life becomes easier when you don't take everything seriously. SERIOUSLY, I MEAN IT!!!!!!
- Mohotmerino Ghanderino
@zanti_misfit No, he isn't. I looked at the game. The endgame is a draw but you had less time. What you do here is against the Terms of Service. I will report you if you keep doing this.
I think it was Bobby Bowden, the famous Florida State football coach, who said that everybody loves to win. But to be champions, you must really hate to lose.
In chess, I've seen three basic responses to losing:
- The losing player gets angry and quits
- The losing player doesn't get angry, and accepts the loss
- The losing player gets angry and vows to win next time.
Of those three basic responses, only the third response will set you on the right path to improvement.
I have absolutely no problem with Carlsen's famous sulking after a loss. Fischer cried after he lost. Losing hurts. The important thing is how do you respond to the loss.
I don't think it's healthy to let losing bother you lot. That can lead to a very damaging mental state. The trick is to breathe and keep things in perspective. Everyone makes mistakes and loses games. Celebrate your wins and when you execute a plan well. And when you lose a game see what you can learn from it. This is coming from someone who loses A LOT
i love winning it's the best feeling ever, never did anything in my life where winning feels as good as it does in chess, but when i lose in chess i feel devastated, my soul feels crushed and i get upset, how can i cope with losing ?