How do I deal with the frustration and anger?

I started playing chess seriously around six months ago.

Before that point I knew how the pieces moved but that was about it. I didn't even play casually at that point.

So I started playing casually, maybe 1 or 2 games a day with similarly beginner opponents, and around 3 or 4 months ago i made an account on here and started playing a lot. 

I played hundreds of games, and learned some openings, basic tactics, etc.

I was actually quite proud of myself and my 500ish rating.

But then i went online and realized 500 ratings are literally novices. I became depressed that after several months I was still stuck at a rating that kids can surpass in a week.

I followed tips and studied chess and tried to analyze my games and minimize my blunders, and it DID help.

Soon enough, I was beating 700 and 800s and within the past month I surpassed a 1000 rating and was hovering at just under 1100.

But that is STILL considered a novice rating. 

I literally can't believe I can't get to 1400 or 1500 (which is still "average") after nearly 6 months of practice. It makes me feel so stupid and is taking a very hard toll on my mental health.

I've never considered myself a stupid person, but i definitely feel stupid right now. I recently watched a YouTube video made by a master who said that statistically, most average adult players are at the 1500 level. 

I am getting CRUSHED by anything over 1100. 

Ofcourse the pragmatic answer here is to keep practicing and analyzing and to keep minimizing blunders, but at this stage I have to worry about my general intelligence because if it takes me like a year to claw my way up to 1500 then that's not normal. That's way below average. 

I'm depressed and angry all day now. It's not really about me wanting to pour my heart out into chess competitively, it's just that I feel like an idiot who is severely under average (and statistically I am) and I can't figure out why. 

I do 20+ tactics a day and know one or two good openings and their variations like the back of my hand. 

Quite frankly, I am very surprised at how good some of the 1200 players are online. Sure, they aren't masters, but with an average of 80 percent accuracy they always seem to be 2 moves ahead. And I'm already using 2 or 3 move tactics.

To think what levels above 1500 would play like is something I can't even fathom. 

Tl;dr: I love chess and was hoping I could progress normally but am performing under all averages statistically and am taking a long time to even reach an average rating. Depressed and angry. Sick to my stomach. Feel like an imbecile.

I have a headache from playing 10 games today. I got murdered by 1200+ players, rage quit, smashed my phone on the wall, bought a new phone, deleted my account, and here I am again.

Help me. Jesus loves you.

Andreab777 wrote: Patience my friend… chess is a very very slow process. Dont be mad or hard on yourself, read books, watch videos and enjoy the process!

I dont know. It seems like it's slower for me than others. 1200 is a very bare bones rating and based on statistics the average bone head can blast through it within a couple of months of learning chess.

Maybe I need to get a CT scan or MRI.

Go to gym. Let anger be the fuel for fitness. I always lift some weights whenever I am angry. Anger makes you lift more heavy weights and significantly improves your performance.

The worst thing is that I cry when I’m frustrated, even in front of people, and not controlling it is making me crazy.

@candynvictus

It happens when one takes chess too seriously. What do you demonstrate to yourself and to the world by beating a 1400-player rather than a 1200 ? You are not a professional chessplayer, so just try to have fun.

Don't let the arrogant FIDE elitists get to you. They are a low form of life.

I made a thread about this. This worst thing about chess are the arrogant elitist self righteous egotists. In other words, many chess players.

Forget about rating and statistics, and look at online chess as an add-on. Try to join a club in real life and play over the board, you'll get a boost in both strength and confidence.

Also, I'd recommend to avoid playing too often. Blitz is funny, even more otb, but slow games teach focus and balance, and are better for improvement. Playing over and over can be frustrating.

@candynvictus

It happens when one takes chess too seriously. What do you demonstrate to yourself and to the world by beating a 1400-player rather than a 1200 ? You are not a professional chessplayer, so just try to have fun. "

Well, the problem is after investing quite a bit of time into chess, and as you said, taking it seriously, I'm still unable to beat BEGINNERS.

If I was stuck at the intermediate range this wouldn't be an issue.

That might change when you get there. If only ... is seldom the solution.

Breath work or therapy, maybe?

Take up synchronized swimming.

Nah, best thing to do is recognize the chess players who are arrogant snobs and feel sorry for them for having such attitudes. They demonstrate a certain level of social distancing interaction inferiority that results in their social awkwardness.

Too bad many people are made to feel so bad due to such abusive people.

Very very good. U have some spark but need discipline so next time u make a bad move or lose to a rabbit like yourself chew your fingers or bang your head against the wall instead of breaking a computer or mobile phone

The worst thing is that I cry when I’m frustrated, even in front of people, and not controlling it is making me crazy

Kodi nox

I'm 300elo :)