How do I win against an early queen?

Focus on developing your minor pieces (knights and bishops) and getting your king to safety through castling. A well-developed position will give you more options to challenge the queen.
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"my opponents putting out there queen in the first 5 moves" ++ the queen will have to flee
"This has ended in a lot of loses" ++ because you made mistakes
"I don’t have my pieces developed" ++ Develop your pieces
"Is there any way to counter there queen?" ++ Develop your pieces.