There you go. How do you recover from a loss?? Ya pick yourself up, brush yourself off, and start all over again.
How to recover from a blunder or a bad loss
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Some of us, myself included, are quite badly affected by losing. I find that I can't play properly at all for a while after a loss and taking time to "get over it" is the only remedy. I have tried endlessly to rationalise the situation and told myself repeatedly that it is only a game and I shall not come to harm by losing, but it has not worked. Perhaps something like hynotherapy might work.
I dare say others will say that this is far too serious a view to take of things. I reckon my ratings mighty be a bit better if I was more relaxed about losing and making mistakes.
Apr 22, 2014
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kleelof wrote:
But when Erik made that post, I had a similar thought: Sounds like some kind of new age, deny-reality, emotion avoidance motivational drivel.
You know the old saying "One man's phiolosphy is another mans new age, deny-reality, emotion avoidance motivational drivel."
of course that is what you think. those are the stories you are telling yourself. once you realize that, you are freed from the matrix :D
"new age" is denying reality? so you are "old age" - like believing there are gods on olympus? or your 1980's thinking is correct, but 2010's thinking is too new?
seems like you might still be stuck in the matrix...
Apr 23, 2014
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achja wrote:
Sometimes you lose a game, or you overlook a winning continuation and get a draw, and you can feel very bad, and need some time to recover from that.
Especially difficult in a weekend tourney with several games per day.
I just played a chess game online where I had a mouse slip and after that I didn't recover from the annoyance about it, and it turned out that at the end of the game I resigned in a seemingly lost position ... still annoyed about that mouse slip, but after looking at the game afterwards ... there was a forced tactical win with checkmate !
It will take me some time to recover from that
well, lol, that sucks, happens to the best of us though, in january I was in a Dutch tournament called tata steel and in the first round I resigned too only to find out my position was 0.92 with white
Apr 23, 2014
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#47
achja, that would be a good problem for the Tactical Trainer, I think.
It is relatively easy to spot from the perspective of a neutral observer, especially if you already know, that there is a winning tactic to be found, but during the game, it is so much harder of course!
I often find myself concentrating deeply on one idea, one variation, that ultimately doesn't work, often overlooking other ideas and good canditate moves. Later after the game, with some emotional distance, I take a look at the position and ask myself, "What in the world was I thinking? Why didn't I just play this simple move?".
Apr 23, 2014
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Best way to recover from a blunder? Just sit there with a blank look on your face, like everything is going exactly as you planned. Maybe he won't notice.
I had to do that once for 90 seconds, while my queen was hanging. As soon as he moved, I pointed it out. He was so disgusted he missed that, his play fell all apart. It was beautiful.
How to prevent blunders http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CmQtAqfbGpg
How to eliminate blunders http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mmCukNEs7lc
I'd have thought a much larger number would have turned to booze & drugs to help recover from a blunder........
must be just me then.
;-D
I lost a won game on a classical tournament with 60 minutes and 30 secs per move, first time playing a game 5 hours.
I think when the OP created this thread, Erik was sitting at his desk with his head in his hands saying, "why did I spend $40,000 on servers that don't work??