I genuinely suck. help?

First, you learn to ignore all the trolls on chess.com. Then you learn the basic opening principles of chess and the basic tactical motifs. Then you get some games under your belt in which you concentrate mostly on not hanging pieces.

 this 2Q1C guy is rated 1095 on chess.com ... .. . am sorry to say but quit fooling yourself man. Play live chess, not daily or correspondence where people use chessbooks and computers. Watching chess videos is passive learning and that will never get you anywhere, book paper pen real wooden chessboard, analysis(the kind YOU do, instead of getting it served on a plate by youtube) sweat, hard work....capiche?

Possibly helpful:
Simple Attacking Plans by Fred Wilson (2012)
https://web.archive.org/web/20140708090402/http://www.chesscafe.com/text/review874.pdf
https://www.newinchess.com/Shop/Images/Pdfs/7192.pdf
Logical Chess: Move by Move by Irving Chernev (1957)
https://web.archive.org/web/20140708104437/http://www.chesscafe.com/text/logichess.pdf
The Most Instructive Games of Chess Ever Played by Irving Chernev (1965)
https://chessbookreviews.wordpress.com/tag/most-instructive-games-of-chess-ever-played/
Winning Chess by Irving Chernev and Fred Reinfeld (1949)
https://web.archive.org/web/20140708093415/http://www.chesscafe.com/text/review919.pdf
Discovering Chess Openings by GM John Emms (2006)
https://web.archive.org/web/20140627114655/http://www.chesscafe.com/text/hansen91.pdf
Openings for Amateurs by Pete Tamburro (2014)
http://kenilworthian.blogspot.com/2014/05/review-of-pete-tamburros-openings-for.html

Chess Endgames for Kids by Karsten Müller (2015)
https://chessbookreviews.wordpress.com/tag/chess-endgames-for-kids/
http://www.gambitbooks.com/pdfs/Chess_Endgames_for_Kids.pdf
A Guide to Chess Improvement by Dan Heisman (2010)
https://web.archive.org/web/20140708105628/http://www.chesscafe.com/text/review781.pdf

Maybe we can make a study group and share tips and videos. I am also a beginner but with some books and videos I have won some games,  mail me if you are interested.

I am not talking to you

The basics of each phase of the game

Opening:

Follow the Opening principles:

1. Control the center squares – d4-e4-d5-e5

2. Develop your minor pieces toward the center – piece activity is the key

• Complete your development before moving a piece twice or starting an attack.

• Move pieces not pawns.

3. Castle

4. Connect your rooks

• By move 12, you should have connected your Rooks, or be about to do so.

Middle game:

When you have completed the Opening Principles, you are now at the middle game. Now you need to formulate a middle game plan. The middle game is a very complicated part of a chess game. A simple way to develop a middle game plan is to perform the following steps.

1. Scan your opponents 5^th, and 6^th ranks (3^rd, and 4^th if your black)

2. Look for weak pawns, and or weak squares.

• Weak pawns and squares are Pawns, and squares that cannot be defended by another Pawn.

• Knights are excellent pieces on weak squares.

• When deciding on weak squares, and weak Pawns to attack, the closer to the center the better

End game:

Start with the basics:

1. Learn basic mates – KQ vs. K, KR vs. K, KRR vs. K

2. Learn Opposition, and Key Squares

3. Learn basic King and Pawn endings

Pre Move Checklist:

1. Make sure all your pieces are safe.

2. Look for forcing move: Checks, captures, threats. You want to look at ALL forcing moves (even the bad ones) this will force you look at, and see the entire board.

3. If there are no forcing moves, you then want to remove any of your opponent’s pieces from your side of the board.

4. If your opponent doesn’t have any of his pieces on your side of the board, then you want to improve the position of your least active piece. 

 2q1c am not accusing you of cheating , but of beginner rating delusions, typical " I got to 1300 something by only watching chess videos on youtube for 2 months, that must mean I'll be a grandmaster if I watch em for a couple of years and just play on chess.com?!" LOL

That kind of thinking is an insult to players that have studied the game hard(those with a rating around 2000) and maybe had to make sacrifices in their lives to make time for real chess study.

Passive "learning" by watching chess vids gets people to 1200 and if you have a little talent, maybe 1400...But then you hit a brickwall of 1500-1600s who have studied the game from books, applied active learning, and have actually trained chess. The higher you go up the rating ladder, the bigger the meaning of studying chess and preparing for the games, improving from 900 to 1400 is MUCH easier and quicker than trying to improve from 1500 to lets say 2100, same rating difference but the latter takes years to achieve, if one ever gets there

I will follow that advice too Mr. Moomin , to think I drink my daily coffee in a moomin mug.

Any book you recommend from your personal experience, besides those recommended above.

I agree that all you need to do as a complete beginner is remember very basic opening principles and be aware of 1 or 2 move tactics.

Funny how the "troll" from the UK changed from having a brain and asking some actually interesting questions, to becoming annoying by copying and pasting how talented he is in every thread.

DANGIT. I NEED TO REMEMBER MYSELF TO STOP FEEDING MY BABY BOY.