I resent losing. Why should I bother playing chess? - Chess Forums - Page 3

YetAnotherHooligan

Jan 13, 2024

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#41

ChessMasteryOfficial wrote:

It's totally okay to take a break and think about what you really want to spend your time on. If chess isn't making you happy and just feels like a headache, there are probably other things you'd enjoy more. Feeling good mentally can come from lots of different activities, so try to find what makes you genuinely happy and satisfied. It's all about picking things that make you feel good and bring some extra positivity into your life.

Exactly! Thank you!

YetAnotherHooligan

Jan 13, 2024

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#42

blueemu wrote:

Sir Winston Churchill used to point out that one vital ingredient for eventual success was the ability to go from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.

... in other words, fall flat on your face, pick yourself up, and keep going.

I am personally convinced that people nowadays have forgotten this... if they ever knew it.

This I already know. Not enough people know that, and it can feel incredibly frustrating seeing people pointlessly hopeless. In regards to its application in chess, I'd prefer to apply that mindset to something more important or fulfilling than chess. Some people need chess for the reason you placed or at least be one useful source for that mindset to grow. It doesn't make chess bad but it also doesn't make it a perfect fit for everyone, just as DnD or Dark Souls aren't a perfect fit for everyone.

YetAnotherHooligan

Jan 13, 2024

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#43

mpaetz wrote:

If you don't like playing chess, don't play. It's not a required activity. If your purpose was to tell those of us who do enjoy the game that we are wasting our time you're wasting your own time. Chess players know it's just a game, we do it for recreation.

I wanted to like chess, but I wanted good reasons to go back to something that caused me so much frustration recently. I thought I would ask people from a specifically chess-oriented forum what their reasons are for playing chess despite both the frustration and the existence of other sources of the same benefits acquired from chess. After reading the comments here, there have been valuable insights and views to really consider about it, which does offer encouragement and I thank you all for them. I know it isn't a bad game and sometimes it can even be a necessity or useful regulatory practice for others. I'm glad it's good for them and that you all enjoy it so much, but chess still leaves a bitter taste in my mouth. I never intended to say it was a total waste of time unconditionally, I said it was wasting my own time, and I intended to change my perception of chess through the acknowledgment and consideration of different perspectives of specifically chess players.

leeh1982

15 hrs ago

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#44

I feel similar I really hate losing even though I enjoy the game and should not care I really despise losing even though I know I will probably at 43 never improve.

Leftehnuhnt-Lmao

15 hrs ago

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#45

can’t beat snakes and ladders, the sport of kings.