is becoming rude part of becoming stronger ?

I find often taht when I go to OTB events or jsut chatting in a live or correspondence game the lower rated players are just generally more pleasent to be around easy to talk to and good overall company and have good sportsmanship but when I come across people of my own rating or higher there usually have arrogant way about them and can be very rude and most the time sore losers! Agaisnt one guy after we played and I won I subconciously it seems stuck my hand out for the words "good game" to follow from my mouth when he gets up and rushes out the room and once when I was talking to someone less than 2 minutes into the conversation he asked kindly "Whats your rating" and once I told him he just walked away even though he was only 40-50 pts higher rated than me and still in my class range and when I went on to beat him a later round he to rushed out without saying anything now in general this doesn't bother me to much but seeing this behaviour so often got to me isn't chess a GENTLEMEN'S at the very heart of it ?

I generally find that the opposite is true. Stronger players tend to be better sports and less arrogent. Also you can usually tell (offline) how strong a player is by their comments about their game. When they say how great they are you can be fairly confident that you will be winning but when they are very modest and say they are ok, or something similar you have a tough battle on your hand.At least that has usually been my experience.

It seems as if, in this case, one's grasp of proper punctuation is inversely proportional to one's chess rating.

i've played pleasant players at all levels, and unpleasant players only very occasionally, generally at the lower levels.  however, i find players below strong IM strength easier to socialize with.

of top players, it was said that Bent Larsen was an outstanding gentleman in his conduct.  also regarding Mikhail Tal, on all accounts, he always seemed to radiate positive energy and to be very pleasant.  of the current elite players, aronian is quite popular and easily liked by people, and seems to be quite pleasant and gracious.

Honestly I laugh at people who behave like this, if they cant handle losing that badly of course Im better than them, since I will continue persevering and getting better when they are crying to themselves about losing and wanting to quit playing altogether. Also I just have an innate belief I should win every game, and when I dont I just think I will next time :). But Im pleasant and will always admit if someone played better than me/not a poor sport. Even in a bad loss I say good game to my opponent as is proper etiquette and shake hands.

There's just good and bad in everybody I'm afraid

In my experience (OTB of course), higher-rated players tend to be less talkative and socialize less with players they don't know, especially lower-rated players. But typically, they are not rude...they just won't spend much time talking to you!

Why is this? I think it's because we are at the tournament to perform, and socializing (unless it's a friend or a cute girl) is not what we are there for. A lot of new players seem to be kind of awed by the experience of playing a tournament, or even being in the presence of high-rated or famous players. I know it took me a few years to get over this.

If a strong player happens to personally know you for some reason, then they will usually talk to you a bit (between rounds).

I havent played in any tournaments yet just online.  However most of the stronger players on here are very helpful and friendly.  I've only encountered a couple "chess snobs" I guess we can call them.  I'm sure there are plenty more out there.  Doubt its rampant though.  

I played someone and lost due to a mistake brought about from overconfidence in a N+R vs R endgame, plus I had more pawns.  They then typed "h h ha ha he he" in the chat window.  We're both lower rated than you, so I think he shows that jerks can be found in all rating ranges.

Of course, there was Bobby Fischer...

In general people become nicer and more rounded over time, but hard to generalise. With age one understands better that friends and relations are more valuable than anything.

Bobby was a gentleman through and through.

His problem was that he was far too modest, so didn't really want to brag about how nice he was and deliberately gave people the wrong impression

Weak player are much ruder and are worse losers than good players. If I dip into really poor form on ICC I am always shocked by how rude my opponents become.

Nothing to do with them being weak, it's simply because people prefer winning to losing. You beat the weak players more often than you beat the strong players.

Anthony!!  you're the dude!

i could never for the life of me figure out how chessboxing caught on until now!

thanks man!

maybe its not rudeness but arrogance in a way cause everytime I see or hear about a higher rated player losing to someone a small chunk lower rated thatn them (200pts or more) they throw a fit 2 famous people who are like this I can name off hand is Nimzovitch and Kasparov yet at the same time Karpov was someone a few people thought was to nice for the sport and Viswanathan Anand and Magnus Carlson and alot of other elites seem to be very kind and have strong sportsmanship I actually use to think Morozevitch was a hell of a mean person not every meeting him but I thought players style of play generally matched there personality untile I saw and read a lot of interviews done about him and he seems to be very good dude. Of course there are thos who reak of arrogance and most of the world knows it like Fischer and Hikaru Nakamura and even Wilhem Steinitz to name a few.

irony "cough"

When I lose, I jump across the table, wrap my teeth around my opponent's throat and growl until he submits. If I can't win on the board maybe I can out-alpha him after the game.

I'm kidding of course--it is rather annoying to meet these sore losers. I want everyone to have a good time and they kind of spoil the sense of fun that should be part of the tournament. When I run into a jerky opponent, I get my back up and really go for that win! I lose most of the time but it's really fun to beat one of those guys!! 

maybe theres other factors like 

having a really bad tournament

adult player who only gets to enter 2 sometimes 1 tournament a year just to show up and disappoint 

My observations suggest becoming rude is just a part of becoming ruder.  On another note the Manhattan Project wasn't meant to be a weapon of mass destruction.  A friend of a friend worked on it; no, seriously.  Unfortunately I can speak on it no more.

lol i see what you did there