Is it considered rude to just disconnect, instead of resigning, when losing?

I know that chess is a very aggressive game.

But few of us are great players. We all learning. It wouldn't hurt people to have a positive encouraging attitude. Anybody can lose if you get in a bad situation, and sometimes you have to try things out.

So no shame in losing. Shyte happens.

Another person got shirty at me for suggesting that they might have missed something.

Aren't we better than that?

I dont understand why people disconnect, or let the time run out, instead of resiging?  A loss is a loss.

But yea...It is rude to disconnect.  Do what you would do in an OTB game...resign.  No one just walks away from the game when losing.  

Well, I don't think it's really a problem for premium members, since they can play a new game while the disconnected one is still in progress. But, yeah, it's not appreciated. More like bad sportsmanship.

Sometimes, it really is because of a genuine reason. While it's really rare, sometimes I disconnect in some games, and by very bad luck, it sometimes happens when I'm losing. But it's probably because I never do it on purpose, nobody ever complained about it to me.

It's the frustration that builds up inside you. Sometimes disconnecting is a choice for some because they can't handle their emotions, and it's better of that way than resigning. 

Although it's also rude but sometimes I do it when I'm losing and the person is typing racist and rude messages. Mostly from USA. Not generalizing but that's just based on my experience. 

Resignation gives you an early release from the suffering. Disconnection, more or less, takes you one step closer to getting your account restricted..

When you disconnect, it is not an immediate resignation. You are forcing the other person to wait for a a minute to see if you are coming back. That is not good.

Many of us don't have anything like a proper understanding of the openings. Well I don't.

You get in a bad situation, you are gonna loose.

And then I go back over the game and see all the major puppy blunders, and it is worse than loosing.

The attitude at my level has to be, forget the rating, just try to learn.

Why not just resign on the spot? It gives the same result.

Like I said in #12, it's better to choose resignation over disconnecting. Plus, basic members disconnecting mid-way between games is really dumb, considering they themselves will have to wait to start a new game.

I don't understand. Disconnecting is not resignation. When you disconnect, the servers give you some time to reconnect. If you aren't intending to continue the game, your opponent has to wait all that time for the server to give him the win.

FortunaMajor, if your opponent intended to resign, then he or she should have selected the resign icon, not just disconnected from the game.

Is it possible your opponent lost the connection, and was unable to reestablish the connection within the timeout period granted by chess.com? I've played many rapid chess games on chess.com/live, and some of those games were disrupted by lost internet connectivity, or a problem with the chess.com/live server. In those cases, the player who lost the connection was not responsible for losing the connection, so we either replayed the game, or abandoned it. I have not yet experienced someone deliberately disconnecting from a game, in lieu of resigning.

Whose side are you on, really? 

We're not talking about anything that happened to me. At my level, if my opponent has no way to draw or win, they resign. Only new members disconnect from the game. I've seen a lot of people disconnecting during games, sometimes when they were losing. I agree, some of them are unintentional, but some of them are deliberate.

... and others' as well.

"These are people who want others to beg for their mercy and say, "I resign, I resign!!" "I cry uncle"

Resigning isn't exactly complete submission to the opponent. There's a reason why there's a resign button beside the board while playing a game. And there's also a reason why top GMs never dwell into the endgame while a piece or two pawns down.

Now, you may argue that we aren't GMs and we don't have to resign the instant we lose material. To that, I really don't have an answer. I could just call it 'good etiquette'.