Letting The Winner Have Their Victory

First time posting here. I googled because I thought it was funny that someone would offer me a draw when they were in a strongly losing position. Others have encountered these poor sports too. 

But aside from these immature "I'm losing, offer a draw", let's discuss resignation rather than letting it go to checkmate.

Something I noticed is that there is a certain enjoyment that you get from winning the full game without resignation and doing a checkmate. But when you are in a losing position, and you know they are about to checkmate you, it is a temptation to resign so you don't have to get eliminated with a checkmate.

But, it works both ways. If everyone denies everyone the checkmate, then no one gets the satisfaction. But if players play all the way through and let the checkmate occur, then the winner gets a nice endorphin hit and rush of good feelings.

One could piggyback off of this and, although having lost, then knowing you are willingly providing a good charity by allowing the winner this satisfaction, you also can enjoy extra endorphin by means of knowing you are helping someone who beat you, because you did something good.

And then it is a win-win. Because if you deny the checkmate, you don't get the bad feeling from getting checkmated, but you also don't get the good feeling from letting them have it.

Also, if more people play the game all the way through, then more people get the option to checkmate and get the winning feeling from doing a good job.

Now I'm not saying never resign. If you make a huge blunder early in the game, and you know it puts you in a sorely losing position, it is ok to resign, although there is always a chance they too can make a blunder, and losing positions are a great way to learn as well.

But if you are 2 moves from checkmate and you have absolutely no way out of it, the temptation is to resign because you know you lost, but if you let them have the checkmate, then maybe someone will let you have a checkmate in the future when they could have resigned. So it comes back to you, plus you get the pleasure of doing a good thing by not taking away the enjoyment of a checkmate from someone that worked hard to win and put you in a certain checkmate.

And then it makes it a more fun game for everyone.

I think that learning to accept defeat is a real mature thing, and not be a poor sport and exit the game early. And it is helpful to think of losses not as something bad, but each game as a learning experience.

Every loss is a win, because you learned something new. Thinking about it this way, losing isn't a bad thing but a good thing. Because it takes a certain number of losses to learn how to have more wins. And this is how the world works, not just in chess but in everything.

And when you realize that every single move is a learning experience, even all the way to the checkmate, you can learn from every single game even when you are losing, so there is no need to jump into a new game. It's not about just quitting until you play a player bad enough to lose, it's about getting good enough to beat good players, and to do that it takes learning, and playing the game all the way through every time is the best way to learn at every stage of the game.

Just some thoughts.

I have no problem allowing someone to have their victory. It only makes me one game closer to my next victory. My dad told me the world used to be more sportsmanlike. Maybe the internet has changed that. At my level chess is just a blunderfest. So my opponents and I might as well keep blundering to the finish. I might not always see a mate in two and therefore not resign. I do resign when I'm at a material disadvantage and don't have a plan.

Among higher-ranked players, it is considered a sign of courtesy and respect for the opponent if you resign once your position is hopeless. Strong players almost never play on until mate.

This might be true for top players. But not for most players. Most players are not so good that they have nothing to learn or gain from every game. Because of this, playing to the end provides an advantage for both players, while resigning sometimes may cheat the opponent and oneself out of a learning experience.