Some people beat me , I do not take it seriously , I do not have to revenge , I beat many people , they never have a opportunity to revenge . If you not change your default settings , you will play 50% white and 50% black . It is fair . enough . We do not have to play every opponent 2 games .
Of course you owe a rematch
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It's good manners to excuse oneself from a re-match. Here are a few excuses I have thought up:
"Sorry, I can't play again - my babysitter says it's bedtime."
"Sorry, I have to post this game online and go out now to celebrate my wonderful victory"
"Sorry, no time for a rematch - watching me pwn you was making my girlfriend horny and now she wants to make love.
This is one of the silliest threads I've ever seen, but unfortunately, many people hold the OP's belief.
Bottom line: You (OP) are projecting. You think that when someone decides not to play, they're somehow afraid. You also think that people are very emotionally invested in blitz games on chess.com, but the reality is they're not. The majority of people are just here to have fun and learn chess; thoughts about ethics and ego don't even cross their minds.
As an aside, the ICC autopairing pool is thought to be very tough, with ratings tending to reflect true FIDE ratings. Nobody is offered a rematch there. Many people on chess.com just want to play another random player, much like on autopairing. If anything, it is those who choose to play multiple games with one opponent who have skewed ratings.
Gyryth wrote:
It's good manners to excuse oneself from a re-match. Here are a few excuses I have thought up:
"Sorry, I can't play again - my babysitter says it's bedtime."
"Sorry, I have to post this game online and go out now to celebrate my wonderful victory"
"Sorry, no time for a rematch - watching me pwn you was making my girlfriend horny and now she wants to make love.
Those are some great excuses! Lemme try...
Sorry, no time for a rematch - pwning you was making me horny, and now I want to...
Hmm, I dunno. That doesn't sound as good for some reason.
Of course a re-match is the right thing to do, but the idea of playing someone that has gone off the deep end is hardly an attractive proposition either. Life's too short to be playing chess with unpleasant people, and there seems to be quite a few knocking about on here.
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Daballs1106 wrote:
Well, it has become clear to me that I was wrong to suggest those who refuse to offer rematches after winning in white are cowards, though I do believe some of you are. I have come to determine that most of you are just socially awkward. When I tried to use a reference of athletics and how internationally it is recognized that honor and code and sportsmanship are symbolized by the structure of the contests, referencing wrestling, tennis, etc...that most of you probably didn't participate in organized sports and don't comprehend the references. And when a bunch of you use tough talk, under disguise of anonymity it is because you were probably bullied as children and the last kid picked in gym and this site is a way to claim back some sort of masculinity and manliness. And I become a little sad when some of you try to take a cerebral, teaching approach to make your point because, well, it falls short of your lofty goals, and if I try and correct you on any of these points, you may become humiliated and seek refuge where ones shouldn't. So anyway, I apologize to the bulk of you who are not cowards. I have learned my lesson.
I found this paragraph very entertaining. It was probably the saltiest thing I've read in my life. Good job, OP.
Apr 30, 2016
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Daballs1106 wrote:
Well, it has become clear to me that I was wrong to suggest those who refuse to offer rematches after winning in white are cowards, though I do believe some of you are. I have come to determine that most of you are just socially awkward. When I tried to use a reference of athletics and how internationally it is recognized that honor and code and sportsmanship are symbolized by the structure of the contests, referencing wrestling, tennis, etc...that most of you probably didn't participate in organized sports and don't comprehend the references. And when a bunch of you use tough talk, under disguise of anonymity it is because you were probably bullied as children and the last kid picked in gym and this site is a way to claim back some sort of masculinity and manliness. And I become a little sad when some of you try to take a cerebral, teaching approach to make your point because, well, it falls short of your lofty goals, and if I try and correct you on any of these points, you may become humiliated and seek refuge where ones shouldn't. So anyway, I apologize to the bulk of you who are not cowards. I have learned my lesson.
The irony is so real lol
you should add *insecure* along with socially awkward
If you don't want to play again it is your choice.
I have my own schedule. I do not like to play games consecutively. I am under no obligation to accept rematch. Often I have other things to do and play a game to break things up. If this makes me a coward I'm a coward.
It doesn't.
Oct 20, 2016
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I'm still sub 1000 on this site in any time limit of orthodox chess. I also just started playing chess a crap ton more in the last month or two. In that time, I've learned more about chess than I've probably have from my casual games since I learned the basic rules when I was a kid.
Yes, I'm bad compared to a lot of people here. Sure, I've lost to some pretty stupid things. But every single time I lose, I learn something. When I first started, I had a friend who used the 4 move checkmate on me. Needless to say, it only worked twice since he showed me there were 2 ways to do it. I also learned after that that you can avoid it entirely by developing your knights first. Now, I don't fall to that kind of stuff. I lost. I learned.
I believe strongly that the person who loses learns far more than the winner. If I lose to something I've never seen before, I can go into analysis mode and back up a few moves to see how I fell into the mate. I can look at my pieces and figure out how I could have prevented it. Come next time I play, I might see something coming before it happens.
If I lose, the opponent doesn't owe me a rematch, nor may I want that rematch because I'd rather be analyzing my last game.
Yes I'm bad. But I only get better by being bad.
Oct 20, 2016
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I'm too lazy to analyze my games, even with the new computer analysis. I've just settled for my level, though I do still learn from games, of course, just not so much nowadays.
Oct 20, 2016
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protanly wrote:
Yes I'm bad. But I only get better by being bad.
The Chess Conundrum.
Oct 20, 2016
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batgirl wrote:
protanly wrote:
Yes I'm bad. But I only get better by being bad.
The Chess Conundrum.
A quote from Kasparov comes to mind:
"With each success the ability to change is reduced. My longtime friend and coach Grandmaster Yuri Dokhoian, aptly compared it to being dipped in bronze. Each victory added another coat."
Oct 20, 2016
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batgirl wrote:
Does that mean eventually the weight of success does you in?
Hehe, "weight" yeah that sounds right.
I wonder if this was central to Kasparov's philosophy. In the interview they did with Kramnik when he became WC he said Kasparov always had a weakness... but since he was always working every few months it was a different weakness, making it extremely hard to catch.
Oct 20, 2016
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#139
There's the distinct possibility that the other person might actually have a life they want to get back to living, rather than play another game of chess. I've declined rematches for the very simple reason I needed to pee.
Oct 20, 2016
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Bobbarooski wrote:
There's the distinct possibility that the other person might actually have a life they want to get back to living, rather than play another game of chess. I've declined rematches for the very simple reason I needed to pee.
My top 3 are probably this, my dog needs to be let out, and the food I'm cooking needs to be checked on / it's done / now it's burning haha.
I do not care , no matter i win or lost , no matter i play black or white , i never ask for a rematch . There are more than 10 million members on this site , i like the feeling playing random member from random country once , no matter i play white or black . You play white or you beat me ,i do not care , i will play next random member . You lost , you ask a rematch , sometime i accept sometime i decline , i do not think this is a serious thing.I am not have to accept rematch.