Black always equalizes, or nearly so, with correct play, so you're trying to do the impossible. In some openings White can keep a slight "edge" or "pull" into the endgame, which is usually done by making as many ongoing threats as possible, but unless Black makes a mistake, that's the best White can hope for.
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From the above it is clear that
there are two types of defence
which Black may adopt in his
search for equality. The first is
the strong point method, where he
retains a Pawn at e5 come what
may. The second is the counter-
attack, where he relinquishes his
e-pawn but compels White to give
up his e-pawn as well, or to weaken
his position otherwise. (It is worth
noting that the execution of this
play does not involve hitting at
the e-pawn on every move; it is the
set-up as a whole that counts.)
This analysis holds good if
White continues "theoretically" or
"according to Hoyle". Against less
regular lines Black can and should
do what his opponent has
neglected: advance ... d5 and
secure the favourable pawn skel-
eton (1) for himself. In fact, it may
be adopted as a good working rule
that once Black succeeds in playing
... d5 without any immediate harm-
ful consequences he has equalized.
These preliminaries should be
borne in mind in the course of
what follows.
Fine, Reuben. 1989. The Ideas Behind the Chess Openings, Algebraic Edition. New York: Random House, Inc.
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RUY LOPEZ
(1 P-K4, P-K4; 2 N-KB3, N-QB3; 3 B-N5)
WHITE'S initial three moves were recorded by the author of the historic
Gottingen MS. in 1490, but it was not until 1561 that Lopez treated it
systematically in his Libro del Ajedrez. This major opening is ever
popular and kept vital by fresh analytical infusions in almost every
line. The basic concept is logical and simple--a once-removed attack
on Black's King's pawn. This constant pressure
leads to a bitter struggle in the centre and a
hair-trigger balance between attack and defence.
White secures a pull which lasts well into the
middle-game.
Evans, Larry, and Walter Korn. 1965. Modern Chess Openings, 10th Edition. New York: Pitman Publishing Corporation.
What is the key to prevent your opponent from equalizing in the middle game? In the openings i get really good positions and then my opponent equalizes. This is supremely annoying. Im thinking it might be to make more forcing moves rather than phantasmical manuevers.