You are wrong.
If you watch top players, you notice that their minds are racing, their bodies activated.
Even in 8-hour long games, they are never relaxed, always in full-speed thought.
Chess is all about speed, never relaxation. You have to go deeper and deeper into the patterns uncovered by the mind.
The beginning player can whine, but the true enjoyment is in championship.
It's fundamental to any sport. It's something to get over.
The elo is only a reflection of that.
So get a move on!
But: you can use lethargy as a strategy, if you notice your opponent gets impatient.
Just let him wait longer and it's a balance in how much time you give up for it vs. the amount of aggravation you are causing in the opponent's mind. This emotionality detracts from his ability to mentalize, so it can be rewarding. But higher-rated players aren't susceptible to these psychological torture tactics any longer. It's about being smart, not being nice or patient or enjoying the moment.
Nobody here really wants to play a patient sixty minute game. I have had multiple men - never a woman btw - to tell me to hurry up.
Chess is by its nature a slow, patient game. So many people here don't play to enjoy but to win - sort of like putting a notch on your ego's bedpost kind of mentality. It's also interesting - and I have played chess for years - how many people employ the exact same moves. I never watched videos or read about tricks to win, but learned to play by playing . So much more enjoyable. When you play people who clearly just learned techniques to win, it shows.
Am grateful for people I've played who enjoy the game and don't tell me to hurry up, don't pretend they want a draw to distract me or by employing other empty mechanisms to detract from the true joy of chess. I suggest that if you don't want to play for an hour, and really expect a twenty minute game (or less), then don't, so some of us who want to take our time can do so.