Rude Replies

Hello, it seems sometimes posting gets some harsh reviews, but earlier today I posted something, the 16% time out post and I posted some questions about it and got some very "agressive" reviews from dalmatinac.  This is a reply he left "You know very good what happened! Or you need 100 time outd before you understand,I don't think so.It is insolence." I appreciate those who post helpfully and answered my questions but attacking me like this isn't too helpful, and I'm all for constructive critiscism but this isn't.  I'm just a 14 year old kid.  Does this happen to alot of people?
 

I agree the Internet is a harsh place, but i dont Dalamantic should have behaved in such a disorderly manner as he did. He was up-most cruel!

 dont you have a job to get to?

My 14 year old is at home. On the Internet I am sure; doing homework, and then engaging in other kinds of interaction. Hopefully in that order; but not with adults. ...He goes to sites I deem "peer appropriate".

If "adult conversation" offends, then perhaps entertainment among peers may be better suited for you; "young un".

People will behave no differently on the Internet than do they in their own personal "interactions". 

 Entertainment among peers? Um, that's precisely the point: chess is an all-ages activity, and Chess.com needs to be an all-ages community. Not only is ChessGod a minor, but so are lots of excellent chess players. In this era, when we have nine-year-old masters, we need to be as inclusive of youth as possible! My own five year old daughter plays on here, as a matter of fact.

Personally, I'm not prudishly concerned about kids being exposed to an "adult environment". I'm worried that a talented kid might not be allowed to play on Chess.com by their parents, because they encountered unnecessarily rough language. 

When we're on this site, we're all de facto ambassadors for chess. If we appreciate the game (and the site), we should do what we can to make it as accessible as possible.

There have been a number of recent articles about how kids can play brilliant chess - Nip, just to name one. Chess is not only fun, it teaches much. Play on Chessgod!

My own practice is to ignore inappropriate responses (99% of readers recognise them as such) - whether rude, aggressive, or patronising.

Very well said Jasn and I appreciate every word.  Thanks Jasn,  chess is for all ages and this sight should be appreciated by all ages.  The youth of chess should be encouraged and will be the next generation of chess.  It's awesome that Jasn lets his daughter play on this site.  Rock on Jasn

ChessGod, one tip for the Internet:  Never give away your age, unless you've been posting in a certain forum for a while and people respect your answers without knowing your real age.  There are a lot of people who will reject what you say just because you're a minor.  It's happened to me, but I have had a few posts where people were surprised to learn how young I really am, because I sounded a lot older (and wiser) than I really am. 
If you're on most sites, people automatically assume you're an adult.  The only sites people won't assume that at are sites like myspace, facebook, or other social networking sites. 

Here's some advice:  However often you usually go on your computer, start games that are one selection up from that.  If you usually go on your computer every day, choose 3-day games.  That means you have three days to make a move.  If you don't move in that three days, you lose.   

"Entertainment among peers..."  Isn't that what the Internet is about?  So that people don't judge us based on our age?  That's why teenagers love the Internet: it gives us freedom from bias.  In everyday life, no one cares what a teenager has to say, except for their immediate family.  On the Internet, people are forced to treat everyone as adults, because they don't want to risk offending anyone by calling an adult a child.  It forces adults to treat children as equals, as peers.  

Personally, I hate it when people make judgements based on age.  You can't assume that someone is stupid or otherwise incaple of something just because they're a minor.   

My comments does not suggest limiting "young uns". Not by any means. My kids have been playing chess on line for years. In have volunteered for the last 3 to 4 years teaching "young uns" to play this game that I love.

What my kids don't do is to "chat" with people they do not know on the Internet. That is the context in which I use the word, "Peers".

To the "young un"; all you need say, if anything is hello.And feel free to use the  "disable messages" button.

I'm sorry; I just went back and re-read my post and realized that there were a few things in there I shouldn't have said, or by saying something else, implied.  Forgive me, I just get really worked up when I think people are judging others based on their age, probably because I've worked really hard for my teenage life to make sure that no one thinks of me as being the stereotypic teenager - being lazy/stupid or being a jock.  I've edited my post to make it more acceptable, and I'm truly sorry if I offended anyone.  How ironic that this happened in the "Rude Replies" post. 

Hey cool you guys both got a lot of integrity.

makes it a nicer site to be part of...

all is good.

Speaking of harsh replies:

I'm sorry, but you shouldn't make a post on the forums to complain.  As you can clearly see, there is a "Report Abuse" link on the bottom of the page.  Enough whining.  Calling Dalmatinac out for his words is rude enough; if you were to handle this situation as maturely as Dalmatinac should have, you wouldn't make a scene about it.

Hey man

As I see, most players here talk nicely. Ofcourse there are some exeptions that you may avoid playing with them and don't even talk to them.

About the age: actualy I think that chess is for everybody. And to be honest I usualy prefer playing with young player (13 to 24) because I like chatting with them while playing (I'm 20). It's nice to know new people here. Some of them are too weak and many of them are in my level and many are better than me. Such as "chessgod" who has beaten me one or two times (All my games with him :D).

If I was 50 years old I don't think I will talk to him as a friend but he will be a defficult opponent that might beat me! So if you are playing chess age doesn't make any difference.

And good luck friend ;)

Just hang in there. You'll meet some nice people, some nasty people and quite a few in between, just like in real life.

If they want to be rude, 1) Ignore it 2) Report it if it is too rude and then ignore it :)

You will be fine, seem to have a level head on your shoulders, just keep using it :)

 photray94

Speaking of harsh replies:

I'm sorry, but you shouldn't make a post on the forums to complain.  As you can clearly see, there is a "Report Abuse" link on the bottom of the page.  Enough whining.  Calling Dalmatinac out for his words is rude enough; if you were to handle this situation as maturely as Dalmatinac should have, you wouldn't make a scene about it.

Then why the hell did you not push the buton  photray94 ?

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