Pelikan_Player wrote:
I still think if you changed your screen name you'd have success
Yeah dude ... consider showing some humility: "Imperfect_Idiot".
Rudeness - rejecting friend requests
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JaggedEdge03 wrote:
I have also found that on social networking sits such as this one, the burden of proving good intent is on you (the friend requester) to show that you are genuinely interested in carrying on a mutually beneficial interaction.
I assume a lot of people don't really think of this as a site for social networking.
OMG this is the internet I can't actually harm you in person, just be my friend and see how it goes...
steve_bute wrote:
Pelikan_Player wrote:
I still think if you changed your screen name you'd have success
Yeah dude ... consider showing some humility: "Imperfect_Idiot".
get rid of the idiot.
Get a hair cut.
Get a shave.
Get a job.
Polish your shoes.
Tuck your shirt in.
Don't chew with your mouth open.
Don't talk too loudly.
Don't talk so much.
Be polite.
Respect the young and old.
Take your time and take care.
Learn to say Thank you, excuse me, and I am sorry.
Learn to wait.
Be paitient.
Be content with what have.
Work patiently for what you want.
Don't make demands.
Learn to make peace with things as they are.
Do acts of mercy.
Practice silence, inner and outer.
Keep good company.
Avoid profanity.
Be an ordinary person, one of the human race.
Live a day, even a part of a day, at a time.
Be honest, first of all with yourself.
Be faithful in little things.
Do your work, then forget it.
Do the most difficult and painful things first.
Face reality.
Be grateful.
Be cheerful.
Be simple, hidden, quiet and small.
Never bring unnecessary attention to yourself.
Listen when people talk to you.
Be awake and attentive, fully present where you are.
Think and talk about things no more than necessary.
Speak simply, clearly, firmly, directly.
Flee imagination, fantasy, analysis.
Flee carnal things at their first appearance.
Don’t complain, grumble, murmur or whine.
Don’t seek or expect pity or praise.
Don’t compare yourself with anyone.
Don’t judge anyone for anything.
Don’t try to convince anyone of anything.
Don’t defend or justify yourself.
Be defined and bound by God, not people.
Accept criticism gracefully and test it carefully.
Give advice only when asked or when it is your duty.
Be strict with yourself.
Be merciful with yourself and others.
Do nothing for people that they can do for themselves.
Have a healthy, wholesome hobby.
Have no expectations except to be fiercely tempted to your last breath.
Endure the trial of yourself and your faults serenely, under God’s mercy.
When you fall, get up immediately and start over.
Get help when you need it, without fear or shame.
billy knows how to type, I've got to hand him that.
Perfect_Idiot wrote:
OMG this is the internet I can't actually harm you in person...,
You'd be surprised how much damage can be done via the Internet. Cyber-bullying is a very real issue.
OP: Thanks for sending me a friend request! I accepted it :)
About the issue that you have raised, personally I would prefer to have my friend request rejected over the recipient not responding at all. That way at least I wouldn't have to wait indefinitely.
It is by no way rude to decline a friend request that came without explanation. The default status between two people in the real world is "not friends", why should it be different online ?
If you sent explanation and stuff, maybe they owe you an explanation, ok, but if not there is no reason.
Since I started to post in non-analysis forums the number of friend requests and group invites I received skyrocketed (multiplied by a factor 10 or so). So everything that comes without an explanation explaining why it is from them to me goes to trash directly.
"Can't we just be friends?" ;-)
macer75 wrote:
OP: Thanks for sending me a friend request! I accepted it :)
About the issue that you have raised, personally I would prefer to have my friend request rejected over the recipient not responding at all. That way at least I wouldn't have to wait indefinitely.
Thats cool man I appreciate it. 99.9% of my friend requests get rejected so I really appreciate it. I really don't see why people are so stuffy on this site.
batgirl wrote:
billy knows how to type, I've got to hand it that.
thank you. please come again.
I've declined your friend request Perfect_Idiot.
Why? It's more fun this way.
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@TheGrobe...how could you decline his friend request.....i do not understand......:P let alone he did not wanna be your frind anyway....(at least this is what he says at your profile as a note)
TheGrobe wrote:
I've declined your friend request Perfect_Idiot.
Why? It's more fun this way.
More fun? How does having NO friends mean more fun?
How does having friends you do not even want to make more fun than having no friends...
I blame twitterface for this thread...
Doesn't the word "grobe" imply rudeness in Germany?
I would have to agree with what Falcogrine said in the beginning. If you added a message of your intent to "friend" someone here on chess.com then they should have the courtesy to respond why they are rejecting the offer.
My suggestion would be to challenge those people again to another game so you can play several games against that person. I personally would be more apt to accept a request from someone like that than simply after one close game.
I have also found that on social networking sits such as this one, the burden of proving good intent is on you (the friend requester) to show that you are genuinely interested in carrying on a mutually beneficial interaction.