Rudeness - rejecting friend requests

What's Twitterface's rating?

That's grob - e

You are being silly, or you do not understand what being rude means. It is not ill-mannered or discourteous to deny a friend request. This isn't a social network site, get over it.

No, it's an adjective of 'size'. And it's Größe.

Apparantly 1 billion+, but the US stock markets beg to differ

Let me shed a little light on the matter. I accept friend requests from my real friends, in real life and friends I have made online. Others do it to add people to a list of close games and there's nothing wrong with that. But when someone I've never had a conversation with wants to be my friend because we played a close game, I POLITELY decline it. They may be nice people, but my friends list is for my real genuine friends, not for strangers. It's like spam mail. Some people keep it so it looks like they have lots of emails, others delete it because they have no real use for it.

Maybe it's sort of like facebook where people get friend requests from people they don't know.  I don't know how many times that's happened there for whatever reason, and after PM'ing that person asking if I'm supposed to know them and not getting any response, they're blocked.

I'm a bit more tolerant here and am more likely to accept friend requests, but not from some random person out of the blue.

Ah... The facebook mentality of the 21st century manages to worm its way into the realm of chess.  I THOUGHT YOU GUYS WERE BETTER THAN THIS!!! 

I'll accept friend requests from anyone who seems to actually want to be friends.  If its just a friend request from someone I've never played with the default message then I will reject it.  But if its from someone I played and who actually took the time to introduce himself, then sure I'll be friends.

Good post.

I accepted his friend request, I want to associate myself with anyone who can get this many comments on a thread so quickly! I'd friend request daeth or petermh5, but they are too infamous. And daeth isn't here anymore. In any case, accepting the request was a lot easier than writing a long response, and has no forseeable downsides.

I am now officially friends with Perfect_Idiot.

I just realized that one of my earlier friends took the profile name "notsosmartguy," I wonder how he and Perfect Idiot would get along!

I just sent him a friend request, let's see how it goes. 

I'll never meet any of my friends on Chess.com in real life, but having more friends is better than the contrary.

Perfect_Idiot, you look like Grigori Rasputin, or someone that has recently escaped from a lunatic asylum, could that be the reason that people don't take up your offer of 'friendship' on here?

purrfekt idyot...they are not stuck up...they don,t want to befriend a great big purrfekt idiot...I agree

Nobody wants to be friends with an idiot, because one is judged by the company they keep.  Change your handle to Beer_Buddy

The title is all wrong and flaming. Why can't OP just use "How to make friends?"

OP wants to make friends, but also calls them "Rude". It seems that my logic is upside down.

A friend request isn't the same thing as a friendship. But I'm a bit funny on friend requests -- friends aren't made at the click of the mouse. You have to consider how deeply some people feel about friendship; even if a friend request isn't the same, it can feel the same to some. I was watching chess games and reading the chats, and a guy refused a request, and simply said, " It takes weeks for me to take on a friend. Nothing against you." 

The 'friendship' thing on here doesn't mean jack. It's simply a way to make it easier to find, follow and keep in touch with your regular opponents. It's not a sign of love or affection. Far from it. You should realise that a man (or woman) will have very few actual and true friends in his/her life, and whilst some naive folk that use so called social sites like facebook are wont to measure their 'popularity'  by the number of 'friends' they have on there, I would have hoped that the sort of people that use this site might show a little more sophistication and maturity, by the very nature of the fact that we are chess players and not, say, 'bedazzled jewel' or 'poker' players. Always be aware that most of the people that call you their friend, can quite easily turn and stab you in the back if it means they gain in any way from it, if for example they can improve their rating; and likewise, you should hold no allegiences yourself towards these 'friends' and you ought to be prepared to do the same to them at the drop of a hat if circumstances allow that.