... watch yourself during a game, and pay close attention to the process of selecting the best move possible under the time constraints you’re playing. ...
What I see is myself making what I consider to be a reasonable effort (both at the time and before the game) to try to enable myself to select the best move possible.
Of course, all lower-rated players have a strong image about themselves as players, which is why their thinking is chaotic. Look at yourself: you do not seem capable of following a simple logic that explains how the games are being both lost and won, apart from you, in general.
When you will reach the expert level, you will begin to experience the opposite: you will verify like 5 times before making up your mind, and that is also inefficient.
But remember, if you don’t look at yourself critically, impartially and without any emotion, like it’s about somebody else, your future progress will be limited. Your imagining that you’re trying your best—when thinking during the game is not orderly but clearly chaotic—is already an obstacle.
... Bring us any game you played, and you will see how that process works. Any game you ever played, the process of selection is based on the same principle: an avoidance of the most dangerous reply by your opponent and your survival reply to that reply, and so on until the position is quiet. ...
Do you have some reason to rule out the idea that a player is making what he or she considers to be a reasonable effort to try to avoid the most dangerous reply of the opponent and be able to make a survival reply and so on?
Time. The lower-rated players are always the first ones to finish their games in tournaments, with the highest-rated players, always finishing last. Lower-rated players simply don’t like to think, get excited about some tricky idea and don’t have the patience to verify if the move is sound or not.
That is not a ‘reasonable effort’. On the contrary, it is quite lousy.