The right attitude towards chess

When we are playing chess, what kind of attitudes towards the game, our opponent and ourselves are important? 

Personally I think that a major thing in chess that many players disregards is it´s tendency to make us hostile and tense toward our opponent and ourselves. Many of us lack the kind mind, we train how to win but not how to be a winner.

And we do not train to be a loosers at all, am I right? 

Speak for yourself, buddy. I'm a helluva looser.

Sure you mean losers.

Nevertheless, It is very much important not to underestimate ourselves or our opponent.

I belive you. There are losers and there are LOOSERS ;) am I right? yes? yes?

I'm even looser than a loser.

To answer in a Finnish way; no.

Be serious

I agree, it is important.

I agree, many times we all take this much too seriously. I try to tell my opponent gg when they beat me. Of course i'm really old and I'm not sure my attitude was that good when I was younger.

I guess it takes a winner to be a good looser.

Everyone is a winner when they play Chess no matter the result.

well personally i play a lot of bullet chess and i think it is very important the way you conduct yourself, especially after winning.  Too many times the things you say can be taken the wrong way by your opponents, so i try to make myself as clear as possible.  After winning, I will usually say 'OWNED' in capital letters so the opponent knows he got owned.  Occasionally i will say 'destroyed' or say 'gg' immediately after playing a winning move.

When I learned to play this game I was taught to be gracious and kind.  There is a lot of aggressive, cranky behaviour here, which may just be generational but is frustrating for those of us who learned this game in another era.  I don't think there is any place for arrogance and taunting.  

What if someone acted in such a way towards you? How would you like it if you were on the losing side and were treated to such taunting?

i don't take it that seriously, it's just a game.  a lot of people have done it to me as well.  sometimes it does bother me a little but only if they play one game and run.  

i guess the best attitude is to make the best moves, not take the game seriously and really enjoy what's happening on the board regardless of the result. appreciate your own moves as well as your opponent's. always give respect where it is due and be positive.

+1. 

When I play, I try and complement my opponent when they make a terrific move against me.  What's wrong with saying, "good one!" when your opponent opens up a line you missed?  Ya learn from it and go on. 

And you never forget Rule #62 ;)

The right attitude towards ches is to enjoy the game. It doesnt matter what the opponent say good or bad.