to be really good at chess you need to

Like in everything else in life, its just a matter of having all the right pieces in all the right places :oP

... be unconcerned with winning and losing and How I Met Your Mother re-runs on TV. Just be focused in the moment, pointedly broadminded, with a singular multifaceted purpose. Also, it helps if you play a hell of a lot better than you do.
Finally, and perhaps best advice I can give you is, do as I say, not as I do.
be really sneaky and coniving