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astrolux

Oct 13, 2017

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#41

I won a game today

Ofgeniuskind_closed

Oct 13, 2017

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#42

Wizard you are boodidiscareyou aren't you?

Ofgeniuskind_closed

Oct 13, 2017

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#43

good astro!

astrolux

Oct 13, 2017

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#44

DeirdreSkye wrote: astrolux wrote: DeirdreSkye wrote: Constant mental and physical tiredness probably means nothing else except like of determination. Pick a hobby and focus on it.Forget the dissapointments and the failures and keep trying with dedication and determination.Seems to me you are not even trying.You expect that you will grab a chessboard or a surfboard and because of a divine gift you will be an expert with it.And when failures inevitably come you are dissapointed.You have to keep trying if you wat to see the results. From a couple of games I saw it is obvious that you don't even have the necessary concentration in daily games. No concentration , no determination , no dedication , not any kind of effort (it is obvious that you haven't study) but you expect results.Sounds reasonable to you? I read and watched some videos. I just get reallt frustrated when playing and have no idea where to go. If I take this bishop I lose my knight then his queen will come out and if he moves this pawn I will lose this control of this square and so on...then my head feels like its going to explode lol. Then I make a move. haha The only thing you can do by watching some videos is make an omelette and even that is doubtful.Chess is not the game you learn by "watching some videos".What did you read? I watched some basic vids here...do tactics and puzzles on chesstempo...I read some guides online and I own several books on my kindle (Pandolfini, Yasser, John Nunn) and went through some of them but I never finished. I know it is NOT enough, I get it. I love to read, just always get hung up on stephen king or some long epic fantasy and read chess books second..

StephenCorelli

Oct 13, 2017

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#45

this is getting off tpoic.

back to the OP's question

yes, i feel like that every day, when my slow chess rating goes down 75 points after weeks of study.

i want desparately to be "encouraged", and this usually helps me get out of the slump,

however, it is easiest if you just look at the big picture, realizing that you will not become a GM by just playing online, but you actually need to work hard.

astrolux

Oct 13, 2017

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#46

StephenCorelli wrote:

this is getting off tpoic.

back to the OP's question

yes, i feel like that every day, when my slow chess rating goes down 75 points after weeks of study.

i want desparately to be "encouraged", and this usually helps me get out of the slump,

however, it is easiest if you just look at the big picture, realizing that you will not become a GM by just playing online, but you actually need to work hard.

True. I do not want to be a GM..maybe if I devoted my life to chess..yea..but that is not going to happen lol. At least I won a game today. It was not the best but I focused hard on that end game.

astrolux

Oct 13, 2017

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#47

Harry Potter was great :). And no, I did not set up my board or analyze every move and position. You are right..I do not like failure..who really does? I will try to read up more and break out my board more..just wish I had more time in my day. Sleeping takes up 8 hrs lol.

Ofgeniuskind_closed

Oct 13, 2017

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#48

yes, estimates say that if humanity did not have to sleep, we would be intergalactic by now.

astrolux

Oct 13, 2017

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#49

Ofgeniuskind wrote:

yes, estimates say that if humanity did not have to sleep, we would be intergalactic by now.

haha true. if i didnt sleep id read chess books all day...and novels and play counter strike and cut grass in the middle of the night...sadly, I get sleepy right after my 12 hour shift at work :(

Ofgeniuskind_closed

Oct 13, 2017

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#50

If humnity did not have emotions either (i.e like the vulcans) we would be farther ahead too and without problems.

astrolux

Oct 13, 2017

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#51

Ofgeniuskind wrote:

If humnity did not have emotions either (i.e like the vulcans) we would be farther ahead too and without problems.

love star trek :). got ds9, tos and tng on dvd..you seen discovery yet?

ANOK1

Oct 13, 2017

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#52

if you are not playing someone on your friends list id recommend disable chat option , let them rant and rave all they like it will not disturb you or your enjoyment of the game astrolux , dont be daunted that you find chess tough , we all do but we are tougher no ?

i can say though that most online chess players feel the same as you in regards to those who insult you rather than offering you a true challenge over 64 squares , pulpofeira is right those idiots are losers whereas you are a chessplayer , good luck and good chess

cyberwarior

Oct 13, 2017

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#53

practice some tactics , analyse your games and mind your mistake by doing this u can improve tremendously.

wizardinyourbed4days

Oct 13, 2017

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#54

precieles right aok1... let the trolls be trolls and ignore them!

Ofgeniuskind_closed

Oct 13, 2017

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#55

No I have not seen discovery yet. I want to though. My favorite captain was janeway. A mod is literally named Commander_riker, he's a good friend.

Brendan_UK

Oct 13, 2017

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#56

What should I do if another member is rude or abusive?

Block, or if serious take a screenshot & report:

https://support.chess.com/customer/portal/articles/1444877

Being a Diamond member you've got access to lots of great resources to improve your games.

Avoid bullet/ fast blitz, go slower to allow yourself time, no faster than 10 min, try 10|5 14 min blitz & rapid (I can see you already play daily, which is good), you can always go faster once you've got your game sorted.

Always analyze your games & learn from your mistakes.

Tactics Trainer: https://www.chess.com/tactics

Learn your Chess Lessons:

https://www.chess.com/lessons

Good luck, good games

ENOTSGNIVIL

Oct 13, 2017

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#57

Hi-i would reiterate the good advice from above which is simply: ignore trolls and keep steering a steady path to improvement. I'm relatively new to this site and I've encountered the odd trashtalker during live games but it's pretty easy to simply a) completely ignore the nonsense chat b)LOL at them c) block them or report them. I can relate to being mediocre as well- but you may get to a stage when you can embrace that- i.e. being mediocre on guitar (which I am), at running (yip) and chess( can aspire to mediocrity) is fine as long as you're having fun. All the best. Perhaps that great 21st century thinker Taylor Swift put it best (not sure if she was referring to Blitz or Bullet..

Cause the players gonna play, play, play, play, play
And the haters gonna hate, hate, hate, hate, hate
Baby, I'm just gonna shake, shake, shake, shake, shake
I shake it off, I shake it of

Pashak1989

Oct 13, 2017

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#58

It is really sad that at 11 years you did not care about what some random Internet dude told you, but at 30 you get all depressed because of that.

I really don't know if laugh or feel pity for you.

ANOK1

Oct 13, 2017

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#59

try empathy pashak we have all been in astrolux's position re insults whilst playing online so know how it feels

kindaspongey

Oct 13, 2017

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