I'd be curious. Try it: Next time you lose, say "Nice game," and something specific and complimentary about how they beat you. Then ask for the rematch. I'll bet you get more rematches.
That really may make all the difference. People who are trying to quickly soothe a bruised ego are less likely to show basic social courtesies.
I never say no to a rematch if i have time to play. No matter the rating nor the taste or the outcome of the previous match. If you were face to face with your opponenet and he proposed a rematch, would you say no in his face? Would be a bit weird right? Also in times i've said something like ''could you wait 10 mins for the rematch?'' wich 98% is acceptable.
If I decide to play live,(rare, for which will become clear soon,) I will only ever play one game. It doesn't matter which color I get, or if I lose or win. I don't do blitz or bullet, so a 15/10 is about as fast as I'm willing to play. To me, that's too fast anyway, but whatever. I have to arrange a thirty minute block of time where I pretty much can't be interrupted to do that. With two kids, a wife, and life that is on constant overdrive, getting that thirty minute block of time is like arranging the universe. That's why I generally stick to online, so I can look at the board, think, get up, take care of a situation at home, etc. .... It's never personal if I play live. It simply will be one game only.
Kardinal, maybe it is related to your tendency to write rude comments on people's wall?
There is no rule that says a person must do a rematch, therefore it is voluntary. If a person doesnt, what gives you the right to message, and belittle that person? Then to add insult to injury you block the person so they cant repond to your childish rant. Grow up and get a life and realize that everyone does not think or act like you and that is perfectly ok. If you try to remember that maybe your panties wont be bunched up all the time!
For me its if in the first game in short time controls a person plays immediate queen moves or fools mate looking for quick checks leading to mistakes rather then solid opening theory/ fundaments leading to a strategic miscalculation. basically moves that would not be played with longer time controls. So we played, you did the damn thing, and you won/lost. A player who's tactics were not deliberately trickish/trappish I almost always accept a rematch out of politeness.
Very few of my blitz opponents merit a rematch. If one of us crushes the other easily, there's little reason for playing more. If the game exhibited anything nefarious (lag, evidence of unfair play, rude comments, ...) a rematch would be absurd.
I actually see rematch requests after an opponent let the clock run out in a lost position. Blocking is a more rational response to such behavior than accepting a rematch.
It depends on how much energy I have, what else is going on in my life, how quick the other player moved during the game, a lot of things. Usually I don't rematch but sometimes I've rematched a person 5 games in a row.
If a game was very challenging and difficult to win, I might be worn out and fear if the person plays again it will be with a vengeance if forced to play again I'll more likely blunder due to exhaustion from the first game if I haven't had time to rest and center my thoughts again. I'm happy to play that person again, as long as I can play when I'm ready to play.
People who are demanding and expect a rematch should just focus more on winning the first time, since re-matching is not obligatory.
I used to re-match more, and I found that after kindly re-matching to help my opponents bruised ego, if I won again they'd often run away on the clock. That's another reason I don't like to rematch ... because a lot of times the people who expect it are bad sports with ego problems.
I used to demand five or six rematches after I lost to a lower rated player. Enough to gain back my rating points with interest. Then, one of these underrated patzers beat me again and again.
It could mean a meteor shower close to the belt of Orion.
I used to demand five or six rematches after I lost to a lower rated player. Enough to gain back my rating points with interest. Then, one of these underrated patzers beat me again and again.
Funny. Sounds like you deserved it. ;)
I usually offer a rematch and almost always accept them. I understand people who don't rematch (like others have said, there are a variety of reasons). Having said that, it is kind of annoying when your opponent wins with White and doesn't give you a chance to even the score, but obviously it's optional so whatever.
I used to demand five or six rematches after I lost to a lower rated player. Enough to gain back my rating points with interest. Then, one of these underrated patzers beat me again and again.
Funny. Sounds like you deserved it. ;)
Of course I did.
Once I stopped doing rematches it took all the anger out of my game. It lets me refresh my computer after a lagged out game to get better connections and also gives me time to regroup between matches. It also added a ton of hate notes in my note box the majority of which scolds me harshly for winning and running which i find hilarious, After all, the winners never leave a note.
I like to analyze my games after I play them, right away while fresh in mind.
I usually decline rematches (I'd not want them to think we're going 'steady').
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