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why are chess players so mean and why do they only think about themselves?
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i always say "Thanks" or "That was fun" after my game is over whether I win or lose.
rowsweep wrote:
I did a little research and found that there have some more rude acts in chess than what I had to experience.
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#1: Farting at the chessboard. I am quite sure that nobody wants to be in a middle of a chessgame and then start smelling their opponents' natural fragrance as discussed below. How rude:
http://www.chess.com/forum/view/general/is-it-rude-to-fart-at-the-chessboard
And there goes the underdog's last hope...
Sep 27, 2014
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#25
I think a lot of chess players are introverts (and I hate to use this word but - nerds) and therefore have been bullied/pushed around a lot in their life. So when it comes to chess where they feel they are superior, they are arogant and rude to anyone to "get back" at life.
Obviously not true for all chess players, as I've met a great deal of lovely people on here, but it certainly explains a lot of the uneccessary trash talk that goes on here.
I wouldn't let that guy get to you rowsweep, there are always going to be people like that and I've found that the best thing to do is to try to be extra nice to someone in the future to balance out the Evil in the world :)
Dodger111 wrote:
That's nothing.....there was a weekend tournament where the last round was late Sunday, and a guy had a dead won position plus his oppenent had almost no time left on his clock, but they met the limit so the loser sealed a move to be opened up the next weekend. (This was after the guy with the impossible to lose position mentioned to the loser that he had driven over two hours to get there and had a long drive back home, not to mention coming back the next week to finish a dead-won game). Guy didn't say anything, just sealed his move and said goodbye.
Week later the guy drove back to the tournament hall, his oppenent wasnt' there at start time, so he started opponeont's clock and asked the TD to open the sealed move.
It was "Resign".
Hahahahahaha what a doooooosh thing to do. He will go to hell for that I think.
Lol. That is brilliant.
Chess players, as a demographic group, are among the biggest dicks I've ever known. They play on down a queen. They leave tables instead of resigning. They defile the game in many ways like Vincent Keymer did to Vladimir Kramnik. Chess players are full of a kind of dark will power (if only they applied this to something useful)) and rage. I'm an old man who just plays for cerebral exercise. I quit tournaments 35 years ago because I couldn't stand spending 3 day weekends with chess players who, more often than not, have zero social skills and bad manners.
Aug 14, 2022
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#28
Lateriflora wrote:
Chess players, as a demographic group, are among the biggest dicks I've ever known. They play on down a queen. They leave tables instead of resigning. They defile the game in many ways like Vincent Keymer did to Vladimir Kramnik. Chess players are full of a kind of dark will power (if only they applied this to something useful)) and rage. I'm an old man who just plays for cerebral exercise. I quit tournaments 35 years ago because I couldn't stand spending 3 day weekends with chess players who, more often than not, have zero social skills and bad manners.
My laughter moment was watching Hikaru get choked out by a fellow GM in St. Louis on somebody’s front yard.
Cannot make this stuff up.
On video. That’s what you get for being annoying, short and arrogant.
Aug 15, 2022
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#29
Chuck639 wrote:
Lateriflora wrote:
Chess players, as a demographic group, are among the biggest dicks I've ever known. They play on down a queen. They leave tables instead of resigning. They defile the game in many ways like Vincent Keymer did to Vladimir Kramnik. Chess players are full of a kind of dark will power (if only they applied this to something useful)) and rage. I'm an old man who just plays for cerebral exercise. I quit tournaments 35 years ago because I couldn't stand spending 3 day weekends with chess players who, more often than not, have zero social skills and bad manners.
My laughter moment was watching Hikaru get choked out by a fellow GM in St. Louis on somebody’s front yard.
Cannot make this stuff up.
On video. That’s what you get for being annoying, short and arrogant.
This has been my experience as well. A lot of chess players are losers in life. They need to find a way to make themselves feel bigger and chess is there only way. I'm thinking of getting out of competitive chess myself.
Aug 15, 2022
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#30
rowsweep wrote:
I was in the registration line for a chess tournament. Some guy was butting in line but I said it was okay if he wanted to be in front of me and he was thankful.
After registration was done, I went to the refreshment table. But there was only 2 plastic cups left for the orange juice and that guy I help in registration was there. He saw me coming but decided to take one remaining cup for himself and gave the other cup to someone else.
I don't understand why people always look out for themselves and don't help others out in return.
That is why you need to be a selfish dick in today's world. It's the only way to survive. If you don't act like that, people will stab you in the back.
Aug 15, 2022
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#31
Dodger111 wrote:
That's nothing.....there was a weekend tournament where the last round was late Sunday, and a guy had a dead won position plus his oppenent had almost no time left on his clock, but they met the limit so the loser sealed a move to be opened up the next weekend. (This was after the guy with the impossible to lose position mentioned to the loser that he had driven over two hours to get there and had a long drive back home, not to mention coming back the next week to finish a dead-won game). Guy didn't say anything, just sealed his move and said goodbye.
Week later the guy drove back to the tournament hall, his oppenent wasnt' there at start time, so he started opponeont's clock and asked the TD to open the sealed move.
It was "Resign".
Hahahahahaha what a doooooosh thing to do. He will go to hell for that I think.
The fact that you needed to one up their story, demonstrates the original thesis.
wyrmslayer wrote:
Chuck639 wrote:
Lateriflora wrote:
Chess players, as a demographic group, are among the biggest dicks I've ever known. They play on down a queen. They leave tables instead of resigning. They defile the game in many ways like Vincent Keymer did to Vladimir Kramnik. Chess players are full of a kind of dark will power (if only they applied this to something useful)) and rage. I'm an old man who just plays for cerebral exercise. I quit tournaments 35 years ago because I couldn't stand spending 3 day weekends with chess players who, more often than not, have zero social skills and bad manners.
My laughter moment was watching Hikaru get choked out by a fellow GM in St. Louis on somebody’s front yard.
Cannot make this stuff up.
On video. That’s what you get for being annoying, short and arrogant.
This has been my experience as well. A lot of chess players are losers in life. They need to find a way to make themselves feel bigger and chess is there only way. I'm thinking of getting out of competitive chess myself.
same thing applies to most gamers
Aug 15, 2022
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#33
rowsweep wrote:
i always say "Thanks" or "That was fun" after my game is over whether I win or lose.
@rowsweep, I like the way you think.👍
chess players aren't mean, we just have short term memory. we need to memorize so much theory that we don't really take into account things that happened previously.
Aug 15, 2022
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#36
wyrmslayer wrote:
Chuck639 wrote:
Lateriflora wrote:
Chess players, as a demographic group, are among the biggest dicks I've ever known. They play on down a queen. They leave tables instead of resigning. They defile the game in many ways like Vincent Keymer did to Vladimir Kramnik. Chess players are full of a kind of dark will power (if only they applied this to something useful)) and rage. I'm an old man who just plays for cerebral exercise. I quit tournaments 35 years ago because I couldn't stand spending 3 day weekends with chess players who, more often than not, have zero social skills and bad manners.
My laughter moment was watching Hikaru get choked out by a fellow GM in St. Louis on somebody’s front yard.
Cannot make this stuff up.
On video. That’s what you get for being annoying, short and arrogant.
This has been my experience as well. A lot of chess players are losers in life. They need to find a way to make themselves feel bigger and chess is there only way. I'm thinking of getting out of competitive chess myself.
I’ll have to play few tournaments when I get back home so I can get me a chess.com coach designation.
I tend to be a lone Wolf but if I do make friends, that would be a blessing. I do expect to meet a lot of odd balls; I was given a heads up.
Optimissed wrote:
Lateriflora wrote:
Chess players, as a demographic group, are among the biggest dicks I've ever known. They play on down a queen. They leave tables instead of resigning. They defile the game in many ways like Vincent Keymer did to Vladimir Kramnik. Chess players are full of a kind of dark will power (if only they applied this to something useful)) and rage. I'm an old man who just plays for cerebral exercise. I quit tournaments 35 years ago because I couldn't stand spending 3 day weekends with chess players who, more often than not, have zero social skills and bad manners.
Similar for me. Due to a change in circumstances, I was involved in other things at weekends instead of weekdays, so I didn't feel I could play. But the truth was really that I was fed up with chess players and their lack of social skills and graces. Last tournament I played in was about 20 years ago. I started playing for our county though, to fill in the gap and Lancashire were England champions quite a lot and also runners up at an intermediate level, equivalent to U1900 FIDE. I preferred the county matches. Better class of player.
Living in Wigan gave me a choice of whether to play for Lancashire or Greater Manchester. It was no contest. Wigan is part of Greater Manchester but our postal address is still in Lancashire. And Lancashire were much stronger.
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I wouldn't be playing chess at all if it wasn't available online. The great thing about online chess is that you don't have to deal with chess players as social beings. You can just do it as an idle pastime. I played in the US Amateur U2000 tourney in 1982, won first prize as an unrated player and after two more tournaments I had had enough of dealing with not just chess players but the excessive seriousness they had about the game. Paul Morphy's quote that chess should be nothing but an amusing, but not serious, avocation is really spot on to me. I also loved his quote: "The ability to play chess is the mark of a gentleman. The ability to play well is the mark of a wasted life."
I did a little research and found that there have some more rude acts in chess than what I had to experience.
In my opinion, here are my top five acts of rudeness/being mean :
#5....Nimzovich doing headstands and gymnastics while playing chess. Come on, who wants to watch your opponent doing headstands and gymnastics during a chessgame. Are you playing Mary Lou Retton? How rude. http://www.chessnc.com/biography/person-1557.html
#4....Karpov eating yogurt during the world championship match against Korchnoi. He could have at least offered some to Viktor, don't you think? How rude.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/World_Chess_Championship_1978
#3...Touch move is touch move. Kasparov touching a piece and then moving a different piece against Judit Polgar. How rude.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cheating_in_chess#Touch-move_rule
#2...Topalov complaining because Kramnik wanted to use the bathroom while playing chess. Everyone needs to use the bathroom sometime during the day. How rude.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/World_Chess_Championship_2006#Bathroom_controversy
and my #1 choice would be.......
#1: Farting at the chessboard. I am quite sure that nobody wants to be in a middle of a chessgame and then start smelling their opponents' natural fragrance as discussed below. How rude:
http://www.chess.com/forum/view/general/is-it-rude-to-fart-at-the-chessboard