"It's an ordinary human courtesy." "Human courtesy" might be a difficult concept for many.
why do people say thanks?
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Thanks for an interesting subject of discussion. O is that my cup of tea? Pass it over here, thanks
i don't offer my opponent tea
today i said thanks to my opponent
and he said "you're welcome"
i guess he was happy
May 3, 2016
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#26
Referencing the great Friar from FICS, you can always write *handshake* after the game. Or before.
I am confused. When you play in person isn't it just normal civility and proper chess etiquette to shake hands and say good game? Chess is a sport. I coach soccer. At the end of every game the teams shake hands and all say good game, win or lose. Same in college basketball.
May 3, 2016
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#28
whats so wrong in acknowledging another human being by saying thank you for the game , well played i enjoyed it ,
this takes a little of your time to type shows that you appreciated the game and can be posted regardless the result ,
May 3, 2016
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#29
jengaias wrote:
Chessplayers are not nice.
That's the truth.
In OTB tournaments ,there is handshake before the game , one more after the game and that's it.Nothing more. No " good game" , no "thanks" , nothing.A fake smile is the most you can get.
It's the nature of the game.If you lose too early you are angry with you.If you lose after a tough 4hour battle because of an endgame mistake you are too dissapointed.There is not much room for courtesy.
Chess is like boxing.2 opponents hitting each other.At the end one falls down bleeding.Do you expect that he will stand up , be nice and say "good game"?
Not a chance!
disagree. i always talk to opponents after a game irl
May 3, 2016
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#30
otb i find often sees both players discussing the game after , granted not always but the greater majority of the time i find
People may one day know why GM's lose...
I think it's just a troll trying to get negative attention.
(or a 4 year old)
May 13, 2016
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#32
I think it's just descent to say thanks, good game, congrats or anything nice after a game, whether I win or lose.
To me, the meaning of saying thanks after a chess game comes from apreciation to the other person for giving you the chance to compete and improve your game. It's not so much about winning or loosing, but about learning. In my case, I say thanks when the game has been specially challenging and I feel I've learned so much, even if I've lost
"Thank you for the time you spent, playing this game with me."
Without the person on the other side of board we would be forced to play with computer. But most of us want to play with humans.
So there is a VALUE we get from the opponent. Of course we give him similar value, but look at it as we both have created two new VALUES and given them each other.
So we are thanking for the VALUE we got.
Sometimes we do not feel that value. If so, we can respond to "thanks" with "Not at all!"
when they thanks, sometimes i say you're welcome
I don't usually say anything because I assume the person leaves as soon as the game is over.
Nov 11, 2016
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#39
I once sent gg to my opponent after he lost and he got really mad at me. Replying..nothing good about my game since I blundered..swear word.. Hmm, I thought, he has a point. So I think "thanks" is less invasive.
greenibex wrote:
I actually say thanks when I lose and congratulate my opponent for a good game. If I win I stay quiet unless they want to engage.
After I play a game online, a lot of my opponent says "thanks" or "thx" when they win but they never say "thanks" or "thx" when they lose.
What are they thanking me for?
I tried saying "thx" to my opponent when he lost and he got mad at me and said all these profane words. In my case i was thanking him for taking the time out of his busy schedule to play me. i am sure that guy/girl could have spent those 3 minutes doing something more productive in his/her life than wasting the time losing a chess game to me. I explained that to my opponent but then he/she never replied and and left the chat.
Are you one of those people saying "thx" or "thanks" to me? If so, why are you thanking me? No thanks are needed to play a game of chess.
I'll only say thanks or thx if we play a few games in a row together (and if they're not being a jerk in the chat).
I never say gg. But if I think they played particularly well I'll say well played.
On the contrary, I love to say "thanks, I'll share your comments with staff" and the opponent writes a special something in chat...