I resign when I have clearly won to make my opponents happy. I don't mind losing. It means very little to me.
Why does it feel so bad to win?
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BronsteinPawn wrote:
I'll play you what's your score like most people on here my score does not reflect my skill as every time I sit to play man is that the best time to start talking to me. like now
People usually talk about how horrible it is to lose, often times they feel worthless, depressed. They feel like patzers. They are not humble enough to recognize losing is natural, and a good thing, it shows how humble you are.
Confused? Bare with me.
Everytime you lose, someone else wins, and everytime you win, someone else loses.
Losing is horrible, but once you realize your opponent is also a human, and he also lost a game, you start wondering what the meaning of life is.
Just as I realized this I felt bad, my heart stop beating, according to chess.com stats I had won 53 times, I had made people feel sad and depressed 53 times!
Im thinking on leaving chess or playing drawish openings whenever I can, I cant simply win, I feel bad after it.
Any tips? Chess is fun, but I dont want to make people lose nor play drawish openings.
Thanks.
If I ever win again, I'll let you know how it feels. smiles...
Nov 4, 2016
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#107
Pulpofeira escribió:
It is spelled "bailar", not "bailal".
Are you talking about the reggaeton video?
Come on dud we all know he is making fun of the chakas.
If you feel bad when winning, may be it helps to consider that you saved your opponent from having such a feeling?
Nov 4, 2016
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#109
hurlumhei escribió:
If you feel bad when winning, may be it helps to consider that you saved your opponent from having such a feeling?
OH MY GOD, TRUE THAT. Another good point of view dud.
This is so complicated now.
The psychiatrist Viktor Frankl, who survived Auschwitz, was good at tackling bad situations. When a man lost his wife and found life meaningless, Frankl said: "By living longer than her you are saving her from missing you and feeling life to be meaningless."
(This gave me the idea)
Bilbo21 wrote:
sure invite me
Can we play a game, molo1?
lofina_eidel_ismail wrote:
@Shookspear
your avatar is awesome!
Thank you. :)
Nov 6, 2016
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#114
Thanks to Williams for bumping this thread.
So, if winning feels so bad, because I made my opponent sad, but when I let him win, he will also feel bad for me.
WHAT THE HELL SHOULD I DO TO SOLVE THIS PARADOX, HELP.
Nov 6, 2016
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#115
LOL, THANKS MASTER OF THE HUMBILITIES, such an easy answer, yet a humble one.
MeTheBoxLuhst wrote:
tell me, who is ready for
The sorrowful story of vintage pawn.
https://www.chess.com/forum/view/off-topic/the-sorrowful-tale-of-vintage-pawn
BronsteinPawn wrote:
People usually talk about how horrible it is to lose, often times they feel worthless, depressed. They feel like patzers. They are not humble enough to recognize losing is natural, and a good thing, it shows how humble you are.
Confused? Bare with me.
Everytime you lose, someone else wins, and everytime you win, someone else loses.
Losing is horrible, but once you realize your opponent is also a human, and he also lost a game, you start wondering what the meaning of life is.
Just as I realized this I felt bad, my heart stop beating, according to chess.com stats I had won 53 times, I had made people feel sad and depressed 53 times!
Im thinking on leaving chess or playing drawish openings whenever I can, I cant simply win, I feel bad after it.
Any tips? Chess is fun, but I dont want to make people lose nor play drawish openings.
Thanks.
I didn't feel bad when you crushed me this evening. My mouse felt bad when I smashed it against the wall though.
Dec 11, 2016
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#118
Lol. Rages poison the soul dud. Have fun, I once mousesliped mate in 1 and went on to lose the game.
Dec 11, 2016
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#119
Wish me luck guys, about to venture myself in this blitz thing. Hopefully I dont need to get a new laptop at the end of the day.
DAT BOI OUT.
I resign when I have clearly won to make my opponents happy. I don't mind losing. It means very little to me.