why dont most chess players on chess.com want to rematch

Personally I usually want to play someone else after I've finished playing an opponent. 

@gdzen actually yeah true lol.  That's why I do it by habit likely xD

Yeah, that definitely makes more sense than playing the same person; once with white and once with black.

(sarcasm)

It's far beyond disgusting that people are actually trying to defend this behavior. One would think that such people would have enough common sense not to post their name, photo, etc. and just remain anonymous if they are going to run away after 1 game.

I have found that people who challenge me to a rematch do sol out frustration (if I won) or out of a desire to milk me for points (if they won). Neither category makes for a particularly enjoyable game, let alone a rematch. As for the dude who was muted after he posted an insult ("coward") on another guys wall after being declined a rematch: good. get over yourself. people arent waiting in Line Just to play a game against you. if that Gets you all worked up, you need to get used to living in the real word where you dont always get exactly tour way buddy.

IDK what u are talking about because I find it to be the other way for me.

Get over my self?!

And you're claiming to know the emotions of your virtual opponent? The one you can't see face to face or hear ... but I should get over my self ...

When someone wins a game they should have lost by taking a cheap shot, such as threatening mate in one when they are down a colossal amount of material, and then running away ... yeah, that's cowardice. When someone wins 2 or 3 games and then runs away after losing the last one - that's also cowardice. How about dragging out lost games, regardless of result, and then ducking their tail between their legs and running away?

Explain to me just how you found that these people were frustrated ...

I can easily explain why anybody should play a rematch. You see there are white pieces and there are black pieces. White moves first and black doesn't. Therefore, you should play one game with white and one game with black. Simple, isn't it?

Oh ... I forgot, a large percentage of the cowardly people declining rematches are using a universal set up with both white and black ...

I guess I should have thought about that before posting here. Please excuse me. I'm so thoughtless.

Honestly saberspeed, do you enjoy the rematches? If you are challenged to one I mean? Usually, my opponents just play way faster and try to squeeze out a win on time.

As for justs: yeah, the chat function gives a pretty clear insight into the deel waters that are the mind of a Guy who challenged you to a rematch. Insults are frequently used. To which i might replay: dude. you're going completely mental about a game. A game! Just because you're not getting the rematch you like. You're posting insults, posting pages full of messages on a webforum, all because you can't handle that some people you dont know and shouldnt care about dont Care to play another game against you. That's not the behaviour of a functioning adult. I repeat: get over yourself and move on.

Get over my self? Is there any evidence that I'm stuck on my self? You're an IDIOT! It's very clear that it's you who should get over your self. That's exactly why you're saying it about someone else.

You're assuming, obviously, that someone wants a rematch due to their injured pride. Of course you couldn't possibly assume such a thing unless it was you that's had his/her pride injured.

Learning is a legitimate reason for a rematch. You apparently haven't considered that maybe - just maybe the person requesting a rematch hasn't seen his/her opponent's opening before ... or maybe someone thought their opponent's opening was bad, must have been losing, and for whatever reason, quite often one player wants another look/shot at it. Maybe they even know the opening quite well, but don't get many opportunities to play it.

The only justification for you telling anybody to get over them selves would in fact be that they want a rematch for no other reason than their injured pride. Most of the time, this isn't the case.

Why is it that you're projecting your own psychological issues onto other people?.

If I actually lose to somebody and it's not a fluke, that is exactly who I want to play. It's not a matter of ego or pride but improvement.

It takes an absolute degenerate to think they way you do.

I tend to offer and accept rematches if the game was a hard fought battle and the result was either a draw or a win (or loss) by a tiny bit.

Nothing personal, but didn't you just play yourself over here

This is chess.com. Please respect our ways. 

But what's in it for the other person? And why so much hate? 

So it's about learning and fairness? Wouldn't one learn more in the same setup configuration? Wouldn't the color be likely to change on the next challenge with some one else as well? Perhaps it might help to think of it as a tournament instead of a match. It should even out. 

Just trying to understand the logic behind the strong emotions.  

Rematch > Autocheat

However it is true that the bunny almost always loses his rematches but more likely because he sucks. 

show off!

I think it's better if everybody plays everybody at least 4 times ... but less than 2 isn't really acceptable.

Strong emotions? I was told by a hypocritical idiot to get over my self. I assure you that I'm not at all stuck on my self.

There are alternate realities and critical points people seem to be missing here.

Anyone with a policy of declining rematches are in denial of an agenda. Those in favor of rematches, for whatever reason, are essentially being legally insulted. No body is getting reprimanded for telling another person to "get over them selves," despite this being condescending and substantially more insulting than childish name calling.

Any legitimate point in playing a rematch is attacked, and met with cynicism. People declining rematches never admit to why, and project this dishonesty, denial and evasive behavior onto those in favor of rematches. Why wouldn't a person with fictitious reasoning suspect the other party of also having fictitious reasoning? Even though this is inconsistent with the personality type of someone playing multiple rematches ... oh, but we're too stubborn to accept defeat? This is taunting and it goes unpunished.

This entire thread is mostly one very forward group of people trying to argue with artist of diversionary tactics in argument.

Chess.com simply needs to stop defending and advocating such poor sportsmanship.

If dating services can match people on ridiculously picky criteria, why can't chess.com pair pro-rematch people with pro-rematch people and pair anti-rematch people with anti-rematch people?

People playing rematches play rematches regardless of the result, but there are a large group of people that rematch or run depending on the result or how much trouble they had in getting the result they got. There are also people that just decline every rematch and move on to the next game regardless of the result. Both groups here are over generalizing and accusing the other of being in the middle group - the group that only rematches or runs when it suits them.

Oh look: It's another rematch thread.

very creative

Yeah, it's usually people who want rematches that start these threads, and mostly people who avoid rematches that post in the thread.