I get frustrated if I get killed in Counter Strike too.
Why people get frustrated if they can't play well?
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@nimzomalaysian Did you post after that "should I give up playing this" or "I cried today"? No, because games are not serious matter of life.
I think I should give an example post: click. People gets nervous playing chess. It is not the way of human nature to enjoy a game, is it @Ryan_Davidson?
Mar 4, 2017
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tempered2 wrote:
I often see here posts like people getting frustrated for not playing good. But why? Chess is a game. I play it for amusement. It can't ruin my future if I suck at it. So what's the point? I think there is some reason related to money. I have no idea. Can you shed some light upon it?
Some frustration is understandable - and desirable if you have set an improvement goal for yourself, are putting the time in, and you hit a plateau or regress. For example, my tactics rating at chesstempo.com stuck at just over 1500 throughout January, then began to steadily rise for a month to over 1700, but I fell in a rut for a week. Frustrating. Up significantly today. 
Be my coach tempered2 , Thanks for some Eastern wisdom. Many Westerners get frustrated about the silliest things. Getting upset at being unable to achieve a better tactics rating is just plain silly. Chess *is* a game and its purpose *should* be amusement. That is, *all* pleasure and *no* pain. And frustration *is* pain. This doesn't mean don't do any tactics training. You might get bored with making the same tactical errors all the time.
In work, you should expect to put up with some frustration, as you need the money. But in playing chess you should not put up with *any* frustration. You could be listening to Haydn, reading Dickens, or learning to meditate - activities almost guaranteed to have no frustration, and provide ongoing joy.
Not saying you shouldn't play chess, it has qualities that music & meditation do not have, which might help "float your boat", and bring more joy into your life. But if it's bringing frustration, then you need to try something else, or really work on altering your mental attitude. Who needs to bring more pain into their life by becoming frustrated about chess? Your tactics training flatlines... So what? Just observe it with amusement, and keep on if it's fun, or stop, or do less, if it's not. And maybe change your goal, e,g., "maintain tactics level at 1500", would immediately end all frustration, if you flatline at that level. If it then goes up to 1700, you can reset your goal.
Apr 7, 2017
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Expectation leads to frustration. Some people expect to be good in chess because they have above average IQ, good in other games like poker, scrabble, etc., or he is the best chess player within the family, and other reasons.
bong711 wrote:
Expectation leads to frustration. Some people expect to be good in chess because they have above average IQ, good in other games like poker, scrabble, etc., or he is the best chess player within the family, and other reasons.
The opposite side of the coin of frustration is satisfaction - wiping the floor with these types is the most satisfying thing about chess
I often see here posts like people getting frustrated for not playing good. But why? Chess is a game. I play it for amusement. It can't ruin my future if I suck at it. So what's the point? I think there is some reason related to money. I have no idea. Can you shed some light upon it?