How do you slowly move on from a close online friend?
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i dont make bonds strong enough to care after a day or two
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#3
I feel bad for you man. Maybye you should talk to someone about it? Try to think about all of your amazing friends you have currently. If there's anything you want to talk about, my dms are always open.
Honestly man. I don’t know. But just know we are here to support you no matter what.
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#5
It sounds like you were very close, and that's great. I've made some close friendships here as well, and there have even been people IRL that I've forged a brotherhood bond with that I've had to move on from. Life takes us in different directions, and the friendships we make are the greatest gifts in the world. Online is a bit different, but the principle is still there and your case Basix, I believe your friendship with Hazel almost the same as an IRL friendship.
My advice would be to keep her in your heart, but not necessarily in your thoughts day after day (only because it's not practical). When you meet again someday, maybe for the first time or maybe in ten years, the memories you made together will make catching up easy and you'll find comfort in knowing that you have a bond through time and distance, even if you don't have contact often.
There's a song that I think might help you find comfort, and that might express your feelings. "See You Again" by Wiz Kalifa ft. Charlie Puth. I'm actually listening to it now as I write this, and the lyrics are so incredibly insightful into situations like this. I hope you can listen to it and let me know your thoughts!
-eldest
I'll tell you all about it when I see you again...
I am sorry to hear that, things like that can be rough. I am praying for you almost every day. Honestly sometimes you just gotta let the tears flow, and usually will feel better afterwards, I would encourage you to think about those memories more, and eventually instead of being nostalgic, they will become fun memories, and when you guys meet again it will be extra special.
maybe lean on irl friends?
#8 that is the best solution, if he is willing to do that.
Iconic-Hearts wrote:
maybe lean on irl friends?
Patience is key.
ImOnThatColumbianProduce wrote:
I’m looking for an answer also XD
bud, who?
you have nno one
1 day ago
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#13
Never had an online friend, or at least, not one that lasted for more than a few hours. I’m not the best person to ask.
off topicccc
1 day ago
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#18
Hey, I just want to say: thank you for sharing this. You didn’t just write a thread — you poured your heart out, and I think a lot of us feel honored just to read it. This kind of openness isn’t easy, especially in a space where people usually keep things light or surface-level. You turned a post into a mirror for everyone who’s ever felt something similar and couldn’t put it into words.
What you had with Hazel wasn’t just a friendship, it was connection, the kind that hits the depths of your heart. And when someone like that leaves especially suddenly it feels like a whole part of your emotional world just vanishes, leaving this quiet, lingering ache. It’s apart of life. It’s very hard to get over this struggle and theres a couple of things you could do.
What you had with Hazel wasn’t just a friendship, it was connection, the kind that hits the depths of your heart. And when someone like that leaves especially suddenly it feels like a whole part of your emotional world just vanishes, leaving this quiet, lingering ache. It’s apart of life. It’s very hard to get over this struggle and theres a couple of things you could do.
1 day ago
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#19
why do u have to move on? u have her number, just keep in touch. or am i missing something here?
Posting today, since I'll be fairly inactive these next few days.
Before you read and post:
This will be an extremely long post, where I vent about a tiny struggle I have, telling my entire life story in the process, and seeking advice and support from the community. If that is not for you, feel free to click off this post and find a more entertaining thread to post on. Please stay on topic, be kind, and be serious in your response. Oh, and you’ll need to use the website. Thank you.
This is a thread I’ve meant to create for a while now, but I’ve always given myself an excuse to write about something else - usually a silly story or something involving my beloved Ariana Grande. That’s mostly because I don’t like talking about myself much, and especially about things that are bothering me. I’ve given it over 8 months, and nothing much has changed, so I decided to make this post. I realize that the off-topic forums of a chess site likely aren’t the best place to post this, but I figured it couldn’t hurt to finally open up about my thoughts and feelings, even if online. I appreciate everyone willing to offer advice on this thread.
Now, I titled this thread ‘How do you move on from a close online friend?’. The title asks a simple question, but let me share my feelings and a story with you so you understand a bit better how I’m feeling.
I had this friend (who some of you may have known), BasixWhiteGirl. We met here on OTF, became friends, and grew extremely close to one another very quickly. We got to the point where we talked for so many hours every day, called one another, and even did a few FaceTimes. We weren’t even really friends anymore, and had more of a brother-sister type relationship. I loved her very much (And still do), and couldn’t really imagine a world without her.
Sadly for me, she had to leave in early November. I remember seeing an incredibly rushed goodbye thread from her, and the reality set in that I wouldn’t be seeing her for a pretty long time. The first few days were the most difficult, having to mentally transition from talking to her for hours on end to none at all. I shed a few tears and did a lot of deep thinking about everything that had happened. 8 months later, in July of 2025, the feeling of missing my dear BasixWhiteGirl hasn’t particularly gone away.
I do a lot of thinking on my own about her, and all the memories we made and things we did together. I read through her old posts, our messages, and simply wish that I could contact her in some way. I have an unrealistic expectation that every day I wake up, one of my 10 new messages will be from her. I wouldn’t have thought that this would last 8 entire months, but here we are.
Sorry for the rant. If you’re still with me, you deserve a reward.
I think that throughout Hazel and I’s 8+ months of talking for hours a day led me to become very emotionally attached to her. Becoming attached to a friend is perfectly fine, but I think that it’s a little excessive now. I’m a very happy person with a very amazing and blessed life, but thinking about her does cause some sadness at times. The issue is that I won’t be seeing her for who knows how long, and I need a way to somewhat move on. I won’t be forgetting about her anytime soon, given that she’s the closest friend I’ve ever made, but I don’t want this lingering bit of sadness to continue. I’m slowly seeing the effects of being so close to someone that it’s so difficult to move on without them.
And that’s where I need some advice. I’m sure some of you have been in a similar position with someone from this site, or even another. How do I move on from such a close relationship with someone online? It’s an interesting topic, and I very much look forward to seeing your responses to this thread. If you have questions for me regarding this, feel free to ask them here, and I’ll do my best to respond. I appreciate the chance to vent about this, even if none of you really care what I have to say. I hope you’re all doing great today, and enjoy the rest of your day!
Mwah.
Keek!