In other words, we play chess to repeat a trauma.
One of the most repressed quotes in modern epistemology:
"Can it be that all in a moment you and I have today laid hands upon something which many a wise man has searched for in the past - and gone grey before he found it"
- Socrates (Plato), Theaetetus
Epistemologists are searching for a definition of knowledge but that's impossible, and you can see it wiht any concept. But it's obvious that it's not possible because people have tried - and don't think you're better than they are (incidentally a Socratic teaching)
"The tie of affection, which binds the child as a rule to the parent of the opposite sex, succumbs to disappointment, to a vain expectation of satisfaction, or to an envy over the birth of a new baby - unmistakable proof of the infidelity of the object of the child's affections. His own attempt to make a baby himself, carried out with tragic seriousness, fails shamefully. The lessening amount of affection he receives, the increasing demands of education, hard words, and an occasional punishment - these show him at last the full extent to which he has been scorned."
- Gabi Freud, Beyond the Pleasure Principle