After the lock up I wasn't sure what to do

You could've recaptured the pawn on move 30 with Rxf3, black cannot chase the rook away, and has to do something about his en prise knight on f6. Doing so also allows you to double rooks and fully control the only open file, which is winning, as Black has to deal with either an ineffective corner knight or a blocked queen.

It seems to me that at some points you were moving without any plan. Whar was the idea behind 14.Rad1? Is the d-file going to become open soon? And if you put the a1 rook on d1, where will the rook on f1 go? It seems to me you have a natural target on c7, so 17.cxd5 exd5 18.Rac1 looks much more natural. You also mistimed you queenside play, 17.axb5 cxb5 18.Ra1 gives you a nice target--the pawn on a7. 

The queenside didn't "become locked up," you locked it up, and I think that was a mistake look at your dark-squred bishop!  And I don't understand that maneuver with Rad1->d3, followed by Qd1. I don't see how the d-file is going to be useful. Why not work of the e4 push with moves like Nf4, Qe2, and f3. If you want to win, you're going to have to open a line somewhere. Your opponent, on the other hand, concentrated on the only good pawn puch he had--e5. He concentrated all his forces on getting that move in, and the game began to turn in his favor.

Allowing Black to trade off his light-squared bishop for yours was a strategic mistake. Look at the pawns: all yours are on dark squres, all his are on light-squares. You allowed him to trade his "bad" bishop for your good one.  You are left with a horrible bishop and your kingside has been weakened. 29.f3 exposed your backwards e-pawn to the entire black army 29.Kg2, defending your king position was quite a bit better. Clearly 39.Nf2 was better, but I think your game was hopeless at this point anyway.

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First of all thanks to everyone who has given some constructive feedback.  I do greatly appreciate it. 

In response to this specific comment, I was worried about 30... Rxe3.