Relationship Question/Poll

One of my best buddies has a spouse that was a smoker.  He's not.  Several times, she keeps starting up smoking, finally being caught after having been lying that she was, in fact, sneaking in smokes.  Now recently, she was supposedly to have stopped.  In December, she tells him she wants a baby.  His stipulation:  NO SMOKING.  She claims she hasn't for months.

By January, Captain Verile seems to have provided a viable product!  Now, at 7? weeks along, we caught her at her work, smoking with her friends.  One of her friends told us, 'yeah, she smokes out here with us at least 8 times a day.'

So - What would you do??  Hard to know what to tell him.  I know chemical addiction is stupid and causes people to do stupid things.  Then there's the trust and all that.  Then there's the 'smoking damages unborn babies, especially when first developing' avenue.

At any rate, I have no idea how to support him or give any opinion...

This belongs in Off Topic.

What is Captain Verile?  I thought this was spam because of it.

But wow you guys caught her smoking at work?  I don't know who has the bigger problem, the smoker or the spy.

Who said spy?!  We meet her for lunch Mondays...Don't jump to conclusions!

Oooh! Hegelian master/slave relationship characteristics!

...oh, nevermind, it's just marriage...

Well, quoting from your original post "we caught her at her work, smoking with her friends." 

Quitting smoking is hard, for some more than others.  It took me 3 times for it to stick.   She can only quit if she actually wants to quit on like a subconcious level, the desire to quit has to be really something she fully feels for herself before she can.  There is nothing your buddy can do and less you can (or should, IMHO) do about it.