The Difference between Online Chess and Chess games in real Tournaments

I disagree on the "disable chat" idea.  Unlike OTB chess, you cannot even see your opponent on here, and you cannot talk to them before/after the game (not easily, anyway).  I find it enhances the experience to say hello and to maybe find someone that you like to play with AND talk to.  I have found a few people on here to play a LOT of live chess with because they are courteous and friendly in chat while playing.  I generally will not grant a rematch if someone has disabled chat.  Just my opinion.

yeahh i've had more pottymouths than corteous people

Chat can be tricky, because sometimes I find people to be "too friendly in chat", making me lose a lot of time on chatting instead on playing.

I wouldn't go as far to say this was deliberate, but one should be careful, too much chating could hurt your rating.

And that is a problem because...?

Honestly, rating is only a way to show yourself that you have improved.  If you know you played well, and you lost on time because you were chatting...well, so it goes.  You use what you learned in the game you played well, and move on to the next one.  I have had games where I lost track of the clock, and lost on time.  BUT, if the person is friendly, I will still enjoy that game and whatever other ones we play after that because we took the time to be courteous.

Now, as noted, there are many who use the chat area to insult others or to make themselves feel better after a loss ("You were lucky that I blundered" is a common theme that I see...like blunders are not a part of blitz, and if *I* had blundered it would have been because I suck and not because it was bad luck for me).  In those cases, I just say goodbye and decline any rematches and move on.

It is a problem if you want to play chess instead.

Of course, I enjoy a friendly chat, too, but it is better if long conversation can be spanned across several consecutive games.

If it become more of a chating then playing chess, then it can really distract you. Maybe a chating in the main chat window, or chating after the game would be a better idea.

But definitely friendly chatters are way better than the offensive and vulgar ones

Just my opinion.

Also people are more serious with their tournament games.  Online (lets say live chess again) you can find some time in between things and play a few quick games, maybe even experiment with opening or extra-aggressive moves (so called coffee-house moves).

At a tournament, this is how these people are spending their weekends, and they had to pay to be there (gas, hotel, entry fee).

So another good way to improve is to take your games seriously, and review them afterwards for your mistakes (and not so much blitz).

i just like the game in general.  wheather someones nice or not doesnt bother me.  Chess is always a game of learning, and the more u play the more u improve.  U shouldnt worry about what someone says ,just enjoy it.  As for rating i always get kicked offline a lot anyway so i dont worry about rating.  ill play anyone just for the experience of it.  the more experiece u have the better u get. most people anyways:) 

I agree on disable chat. Although I have not done it yet, I have lost due to an opponent distracting me calling me a cheater such. I have decided if anyone types anything disrespectful, I will not comment, and I will disable chat. Although I do not disable chat, I do not talk to my opponent either.