that's a bummer. i really hate that this kind of things happen. we have tried to build tools for you to block these kinds of jerks: http://support.chess.com/Knowledgebase/Article/View/122/13/what-should-i-do-if-another-member-is-rude-or-abusive
Taunting, Baiting, Insults.
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Ok Pelly thanks for the info, just happened to choose this one by chance, I think ?!
Mr JFK, my very amateur guess would be that a lot of chess players are by nature sensitive, but bullies have an uncanny way of sensing where they can find "good victims".
If this your first experience of it don't question yourself please, that is their ace in the pack, if they get you on that track, they know they are on a winner.
But how do you know all this until you have expereinced it ? and sadly for you, you don't seem to be a sociopath lol
Please read the whole of this topic, it really does cover most of what you need to know and might save you the painful experience of having to learn it all by painful experience.
PJ
AlCzervik wrote:
It is rude. All it does is make you focus more if you ever play them again.
We will both move to the next round of the same tournament. I am tempted to disable my chat but after thinking about it, I'll just concentrate harder and "move on".
P.S. Thanks for the input Erik. I've thought about blocking but have decided to just overlook the incident and only take other action if it happens again.
P.P.S. Thanks PJ, for your good thoughts.
JFK, that's exactly what I was thinking-a tournament where you will play again.
I also think I see how Erik gets away with it. He probably says his kid was typing when he looked away!
Xeelfiar wrote:
Idiots can be found almost everywhere, even in a serious game like chess.
Not sure what the "seriousness" of the game has to do with it...
you guys are hilarious. just call him a b*tch and move on.
Given that title, I thought this thread was gonna be a lot more fun.
Yes words are hurtful, however there are ways to forget about bad experiences. Specifically, go through games of high ranked players to reprogram the subconscious. Keep in mind that chess was continually played in many of the most dangerous countries, to many people chess is a specific tool to cope with stress, I certainly play it for this reason. Also remember that the sheer volume of players and books and problems available make it possible to not play the same person twice.
When I first started playing chess in 2001 I played on an ancient chess server, world chess network and continually players would say that my moves were odd and that I shouldnt play this or that and oftentimes I would end up winning. Not the same as your experience but nonetheless annoying.
If I dont like someone's comments or even if I find I dont like their thinking style, I quit the match and refuse to play, even if it affects my rating. Ratings are arbitrary nonsense and dont pay me money. Keep this in mind when playing. I use my name as Nuclear Tesuji which means that if you were playing a real chess game and the other player acted wrongly you would stand up abruptly and flip the board and the pieces across the room. You have this option figuratively on the internet: It's called disconnect and ignore.
Aha! So you see, you don't have to take their abuse lying down...you have one other option: you can be a jerk! 
For a 30 minute game, 30 moves is much slower. I am also a slower player and have lost 2 games on time, but I average 40-50 moves per 30 minutes... The less a guy knows about chess or is socially not acceptable, the more his behaviour would be worse. Inferority Complex.
zazen5 wrote:
Keep in mind that chess was continually played in many of the most dangerous countries, to many people chess is a specific tool to cope with stress, I certainly play it for this reason.
I didn't know Canada was in such turmoil.
I heard they're still reeling over that maple syrup thing.
mazharayub wrote:
Inferiority Complex.
Yeah--the loosers!
When I first came to this site (about 18 months ago) at first I played live chess. After a while I got fed up with that format (even after disabling chat), and switched to turn-based.
My estimates are ..
Live: eejits 30%, opponents who disconnect when losing 25%
Online (turn-based): eejits under 2%, disconnections not applicable
Gabriel_Velasquez wrote:
bean_Fischer wrote:
pelly13 wrote:
What an idiotic reasoning Bean. The victim being acused of being abused. And I don't see what "not paying to play" has to do with it. Do you think you belong to a privileged group that has the right to abuse the non-paying members ?
First, I don't know what's wrong with both of them. Second, the chat was on, that meant they could chat. Third, what does he complain?
(1) " what's wrong with both of them." What has to be wrong with both sides? that's total nonsense, you think I wanted to be called all those things for resigning a game?
(2) "that meant they could chat. " - Not that meant they could ABUSE eachother, please, there is a difference.
(3) "what does he complain?" - I submitted three seperate reports, and the account has already been closed. This is under "suggestions" you know, and the OP had two suggestions, that's why this is here.
(4) after seeing the word "Chicken" was to angry to think straight, all I had done was resigned the game. "I think it's your fault to let it on and don't block him." After that I was too in shock to think of blocking him and he typed very fast.
I don't know if I should show my sympathy. You are not a new member. You have been here for more than a year. And you should have known better that people are abusing the chat.
Yes, it's wrong to be abusive. But don't think there is no antidote. They are available here: turn off chat, block people, and submitting ticket.
It's your right to complain, but don't expect some sympathy.
I'm just grateful bean isn't serving hors doeuvres.
pelly13 wrote:
bean_Fischer schreef:
pelly13 wrote:
What an idiotic reasoning Bean. The victim being acused of being abused. And I don't see what "not paying to play" has to do with it. Do you think you belong to a privileged group that has the right to abuse the non-paying members ?
First, I don't know what's wrong with both of them. Second, the chat was on, that meant they could chat. Third, what does he complain?
I already knew you are narrowminded and find yourself very funny , but now you add a level of stupidity unrivaled on CC.
Are you abusing the forum? I know what to do. You are no different than both of them As Far As I concern. You may show some sympthy but they are not genuine because you are one of the abusers.
erik wrote:
that's a bummer. i really hate that this kind of things happen. we have tried to build tools for you to block these kinds of jerks: http://support.chess.com/Knowledgebase/Article/View/122/13/what-should-i-do-if-another-member-is-rude-or-abusive
The problem is they never read.
It is rude. All it does is make you focus more if you ever play them again.