Fighting Fire with Water

Fighting Fire with Water

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If you love chess, it might be because you grew up with it from a young age. Perhaps the game was introduced to you by a parent or family member. You remember how they told you to put away your tinker toys, your legos, your Barbies, and other toys, and took the time to teach you this ancient game. Perhaps you learned that it was a serious game, one that takes concentration and strategy.

 

If you are like me and learned this way, and playing a game of chess with a friend can turn you into a very serious, intense person navigating a world where your training and wits can help you win. If you are a person like this, you might take offense to someone who interrupts your thoughts with careless, irrelevant, and sometimes offensive chatter.

 

“Idiot”

“F&%* u”

“Play faster!'

“Resign.”

 

These kinds of insults, (and those less tame) are not just the effort of a limited mind to express itself, or a way to try to psych out their opponent, but signs of complete lack of respect for the epic game of chess. What do you do when your concentration is interrupted with chat like this?

 

The best of us ignore it completely, disable the chat and move on, unfazed.

 

Sometimes though, even the best of us cannot ignore such disrespect and sublime impudence. We lash out in retaliation. (Then you hear from us in support, because the abuser reported you for abuse!) It's a Catch-22.

 

If you recognize yourself amongst this group of people, who cannot stand to sit idly by and let someone on the other end of the greatest game ever created make such comments. Please know, you aren't alone.

 

I think what we need is either to ignore people who are abusive completely, or completely confuse them with creative word shields. In researching this topic, I found a member of our site who uses creativity to fight back against abuse.

 

Here's an example of one of some comments and this ingenious rebuttal - read from the bottom up:

 

My question to you, Chess.com, by being creative and confusing those who like to be abusive, could we squelch out the flame of abuse before it becomes a wildfire?

 

(Image source credit: http://www.bitsofwisdom.org/2011/03/22/fighting-fire-with-fire/ )

 

Amelia
Amelia

Shanghai Tigers PCL

"Chess is a miniature version of life. To be successful, you need to be disciplined, assess resources, consider responsible choices and adjust when circumstances change."   -  Susan Polgar

 
 
Case in point:

 
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Chess.com is awesome! I'm Amelia and I'm glad to be here to help you!

 

I learned how to play from my dad when I was young and then didn't play much until I stumbled across this site for the first time in 2008 when an online friend and I decided we wanted to play chess. I signed up and I never even thought to join up at another chess website. 

 

My hobbies include cooking, riding my mountain bike, going to the beach, spending time with my family, pottery and art, and when I get the chance, travelling. 

 

 

If you need help with an issue regarding an aspect of Chess.com, please click on Help near the bottom left of any Chess.com page as shown here: 
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 Just try not to be like this guy, we are people too!

 

  

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